27/05/2025
Why do some men ask for a woman’s body count?
Is it a question rooted in genuine curiousity, or is it a subtle way of deciding whether she deserves love, commitment, and respect?
Let’s be honest, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to understand someone's past. Vulnerability and honesty truly matter in any kind of rs. But when that question is asked not to understand, but to rate or measure how valuable a woman is… that’s where the line is crossed. And you know what? That’s not maturity. That’s insecurity.
Yes, it is a beautiful thing to remain untouched before marriage—not just for religious or moral reasons, but also because s*x is not just physical. It ties the body, the soul, and the heart. Casual s*x and premarital s*x, no matter how normalized in today’s culture, can leave invisible scars. It can drain you emotionally and spiritually, leaving you feeling used, confused, and hollow (especially when love was never really part of the picture). (Ps: This is from the findings we have gathered from our study last year).
But let us also remember: everyone has a past. And just because a woman has had experiences doesn’t mean she is less deserving of love, respect, or redemption. Her worth does not decrease with each mistake, each lesson, or each chapter she’s survived.
Remember Mary Magdalene. A woman with a broken past. A woman the world wanted to stone, to shame, to erase. But Jesus saw her. Not for her sins, but for her soul. He didn’t define her by what she had done, BUT BY WHO SHE WAS BECOMING. Her story was not over.
So who are we to do what Christ Himself did not do?
A woman’s worth is not up for debate. And no one earns the right to rate another human being!
This culture needs to shift. We need to stop measuring a woman’s value by numbers, by purity tests, by a past she can’t change. Instead, we should be asking better questions like “Who are you now? What have you learned? What do you dream of becoming?”
Because real love isn’t about scoring people—it’s about seeing them, and it’s not about having one or none—it’s about showing them that they are “someone” despite every past that makes them feel like they’re “no one”.
