01/10/2025
“Aur kya chahiye apko?”
That’s what the Indian cricketer said at the press conference after refusing to take the trophy from Pakistan.
Beneath this one line sits a whole subtext:
"We are so talented, such a big brand of cricket, we win and now you expect us to hold such high morality too? Isn’t our performance enough?"
His reply was what I call a "Masterclass On Deflection"
Rather than owning his actions, he tried to distract with a list of side-bar things his team did. As if saying: “We showed up, isn’t that enough? We played really well. We won. We’re playing the game so well, how could we possibly be accused of playing it dirty?”
and thats trouble! (Taylor swift in the background amplifying my voice)
The Indian team could have avoided this entire fiasco. The trophy was taken away because they refused to accept it. Yet notice how they act surprised, as if blindsided, positioning themselves at the receiving end of something they had no control over.
Now, if you’re new here:
I’m a therapist. And it’s my life’s mission to expose abuse in any shape, size, or color. So yes, I’ll happily grab any opportunity (even if it comes wrapped in cricket) to talk about what’s really at play psychologically, because these exact patterns show up in our day-to-day lives too.
This is not entirely about Pak-Ind dynamics. Its about how the deflection of Indian Captain mirrors the behavior of an abuser in reactive abuse, shifting blame on Pakistan, which is in a much lesser position of power considering the size of BCCI.
Those in power cannot be oppressed by those who don’t have it. Narcissists know exactly when to slip into the victim role, even when they are fully capable of preventing the unfortunate incident.
And this is where most victims of abuse are blamed, as if they should have done something to avoid the incident, followed by the abuse.
This is one of the oldest tricks in a narcissist’s handbook: minimize their fault, inflate the irrelevant, hide behind “I don’t need you anyway” and rewrite the story until they look like the victim instead of the cause.
I mean seriously guys… That was less cricket, more case study material.
And there's more. So stay tuned🤞
