23/10/2025
Here's what I've learned from watching talented people sabotage their own careers:
They treat authenticity like it's some sacred, unchanging thing.
Like they emerged from the womb with a complete professional identity that must never be touched.
I get it.
There's something appealing about the idea that being real means staying exactly as you are.
But watch what happens to people who cling to this belief...
You'll see them stuck in
the same conversations,
the same meetings,
the same roles...
while seemingly less talented colleagues glide past them.
The thing is, authenticity isn't about being frozen in time.
It's about knowing which parts of yourself are non-negotiable and which parts can bend, adapt, or even transform entirely.
Think about it this way:
A tree stays rooted but grows toward the light.
It doesn't apologize for changing shape.
Most of us have been taught that adaptation equals fakeness.
So we reject opportunities that feel foreign, turn down challenges that don't match our current skill set, and wonder why our careers plateau.
But here's what the people who keep advancing understand:
1️⃣ They know their core values like a personal constitution
2️⃣ They adjust their approach based on the situation
3️⃣ They share deliberately, not just impulsively
You don't need to choose between being genuine and being strategic.
The best professionals are both.