Gentle Radiant Joy by Bingz

03/11/2025

👻 What actually scares me in my work as an intuitive flow coach

As an intuitive flow coach, I guide women to feel safe in their own bodies and minds through a blend of intuitive movement, journaling, and subconscious mind rewiring.

Since my clients’ main intention is to feel safe again, we often explore the discomfort, pain, or fears they notice in their bodies — or the life challenges they’re navigating.

I’m not afraid of hearing about my clients’ deepest fears or past experiences. It’s actually a vital part of the process, because that’s how we track real, tangible shifts. And yes — clients do feel the difference within a single session.

But here’s what scares me a little:
When a client says,
– “I’m okay. It’s probably just in my head.”
– or, “It’s not that serious, I’m sure others have it worse.”
– or… “I don’t want to sound dramatic.”

That’s when alarm bells ring in my mind.
I get it. We’re so used to minimizing our pain just to keep going.
But the thing is… if we can’t acknowledge what feels off, even a little, the healing can’t land fully.

That’s what I love about MAP. It works without needing to relive everything.
You don’t need to dive into the deep end. You just need to notice the surface — a tightness, a heaviness, a pattern you’re tired of carrying.

You don’t have to feel the whole iceberg. Just a fingertip of it. Enough to know, “Yes, this is the part I want to shift.”

To me, that’s what real courage looks like.
Not pretending EVERYTHING IS FINE (shoutout to fellow The Good Place fans 😂) , but allowing yourself to feel just enough to let the shift begin.

P.S. Thank you, Joyce Yeo for inspiring me to write this post through your Halloween-themed share!
P.P.S. Btw, here's my youngest son wearing his very first full Halloween costume. It was his birthday present!

28/10/2025

This morning, I did a self-MAP session to rewire the belief that I am bad at explaining what MAP is and the work that I do.
After just 10 minutes of self-MAP, I came up with this explanation and got ChatGPT to tidy it up for me. I love it!

Can I check if this feels clear to you?
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The work that I do helps you feel deeply relaxed, peaceful, and in harmony with yourself.

Our minds attach meaning to everything — to our past, our beliefs, our pain, and even to what we think we can or can’t do.

In MAP, we work with the mind to gently process these meanings. You don’t need to relive painful memories or talk about everything in detail.

We simply invite your mind to rewire the patterns that create stress, tension, or confusion. As these old meanings shift, you start to feel lighter, clearer, and more aligned with who you truly are.

You naturally gain more peace, inner alignment, and clarity about what you want in life.

12/10/2025

"How dance rewires your mind and body

For people living with depression, even basic movement can become muted. Neuroscientists have observed a reduction in facial expressiveness, gestures, and posture—what some describe as a loss of the body’s emotional vocabulary.

Dance offers a unique way to reconnect with oneself. It can activate emotional, cognitive, and sensory pathways, reawakening a sense of connection within and beyond the self."

~ from National Geographic

Research shows that moving to music with others reduces symptoms of depression more than walking, yoga, or even standard treatments.

08/10/2025

Flow • Write • Rewire: Moving Through Hunger and Harsh Self-Talk

I’ve set a gentle goal for myself — to release another 7 kg and shed 3 cm from my waist by the end of this year.

Immediately after setting this goal, a mix of conflicting thoughts and emotions bubbled up around this goal.
So, I did what I often guide my clients to do:
I turned to my Flow, Write & Rewire framework — a mind-body process to move through discomfort and realign with clarity.

🌊 Flow (movement exploration)

Instinctively, my body began moving in waves and circles rippling through my spine, arms, chest, and hips.
A heaviness sat on my chest, so I allowed small collapses and deeper forceful exhales, releasing tension bit by bit.

As I moved, questions arose:

> What do I do with this constant hunger?
> How can I tolerate it and still focus on my life?
> Is this even physical hunger?
> What else could I feed this hunger with?

Then an answer whispered back:
More movement. More lyrical dance. More classes that make me feel alive, expressive, and in sync with the music.
Maybe, whenever hunger visits, I can move first.

Later, when my hands traced over my body, I felt a pang of sadness at the bloated, softer parts.
An old pattern appeared — the urge to whip myself into shape, to use shame as motivation so I’d “never go back.”

But it didn’t sit right.

I’ve already released 4 kg since mid-August — not through harshness, but through gentleness, consistency, and practical strategy. I didn't whip myself into shape by taking vigorous exercises classes. Instead, I was gentle with my weak heart and focused on exercising in the zone 2 cardio range.

🪶 Write (journaling after movement)

When I sat down to write, these lines came through:

* I don’t do harshness or tough love anymore.
* I’ve had enough of that already.
* What I need now is gentleness and passion for life.

Writing helped me see clearly what I needed to rewire: that inner voice that still believed harshness equals discipline.

✨ Rewire (MAP Method integration)

This is always my favorite step, where I consciously partner with my unconscious and Superconscious minds to restore harmony within.

During the self-MAP process, I realized that many people around me value survival, self-sacrifice, and preparing for the worst.
But that’s not how I thrive.

In Human Design, I have an Undefined Spleen Center, while many of my loved ones have Defined ones.
That means I’m highly sensitive to their survival fears and I tend to hold on to these fears for far too long.

Energetically, my spleen center felt like fire and ice — panic and numbness at once.
As I mapped it through, that inner “room” began to regulate, the temperature easing to a soft, gentle breeze wafting through the half-open windows.

No wonder I used to numb myself when things felt too intense.

Now I understand that I need to focus on feeling safe and relaxed to lose more weight.

🌷 Gentle Takeaway

This is how I use Flow • Write • Rewire — to deepen self-awareness and release resistance to what I truly desire.

If you’re in Singapore, I’d love for you to experience this process with me at my upcoming workshop, The Gentle Pause.
We’ll explore the first two steps — Flow and Write — through movement and journaling, in a safe and intimate space.

Early bird price ends 9 October.
💫 Details & registration:

The Gentle Pause – Movement & Journaling for Women By Bingz Huang, Intuitive Flow Coach Slow down, soften, and reconnect with yourself through a shared movement vocabulary and reflective journaling. This is a safe, gentle space for women to release tension and discover surprising insights. Expe...

01/10/2025

As women, we instinctively know the feeling of shifting physical and emotional weight. Our bodies and moods move through cycles of heaviness and lightness, yet so often we push through in order to stay productive.

The Gentle Pause offers you a safe, nurturing space to slow down, feel into the weight you’ve been carrying, and notice what changes when you move and write with intention.

In this workshop, you’ll be guided through five weights of movement — Drop, Lean, Hug, Trace, and Float — a simple movement vocabulary for exploring your inner landscape. Paired with two reflective journaling prompts, this practice invites both your body and your words to speak.

More info at➡️ https://tinyurl.com/Gentlepause

I hope you'll join me! 🤗💕

29/09/2025

There was a season in my life when everything felt heavy. My body carried the weight of stress and my mind felt burdened with crappy fearful thoughts. It felt like a win to just move through each day.

Resting through naps or doing nothing didn’t help — my nervous system was ping-ponging between freeze and fight states. What I needed was a more active form of rest: play that felt safe and nourishing.

Dance became my answer.

Over the past few years, as a mom of three boys, I’ve returned to my passion for dance. I’ve explored hip hop, burlesque, contemporary, Chinese dance, and freestyling with silk fan veils. From these experiences, I created my own Five Weights of Movement — Drop, Lean, Hug, Trace, and Float — a simple vocabulary to connect with your body and explore your inner world.

Journaling has also been an anchor for me. I joined an online group journaling class for over a year. Once a month, we gathered on Zoom to write to the same prompts and shared our reflections. Hearing both similar and different perspectives was deeply inspiring — it helped me feel seen and heard, and showed me how intuitive journaling can reveal surprising truths.

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That’s why I created The Gentle Pause — a space for women to step away from life’s busyness, even for a couple of hours, and reconnect with themselves.

In this workshop, I’ll guide you through the Five Weights of Movement, paired with reflective journaling prompts. You’ll also get to play with colourful silk fan veils, which inspire softness and help you see graceful, flowing movement more vividly.

You don’t need any dance or writing experience — just a willingness to show up as you are. My hope is that you’ll leave feeling lighter, freer, and more connected to yourself, just as I did when I first gave myself permission to pause.

✨ I’ll be running my last movement & journaling workshop of the year on Thursday, 23 October, 10am–12pm, at a lovely dance studio near Marymount MRT.

Spaces are limited to five participants to ensure a safe, intimate space for sharing and connection.

If you’d like to join us, please read the sales page attached in the first comment here.

23/07/2025

Your Sensitivity is a Gift -- Don't be afraid of using it.

When I wrote the first draft for this article, I included the concept of Open and Defined Centers in Human Design, and I connected our energetic sensitivity to our Open Centers. But my writing mentor advised me to remove the jargon so it can appeal to a larger audience. I'm so glad I did! This is one of my most popular articles since it was published in 2021.
If you read the comments, you'll see how so many readers (mostly strangers) deeply resonate with both the challenges and gifts of being highly sensitive.

Now, I'm ready to support more people who want to learn how to manage their sensitivity better and embrace it as one of their superpowers.

I'm currently designing a 7-day WhatsApp program that helps you gently and effectively rewire your relationship with your sensitivity through your Open Centers. Don't worry if you don't know much about Human Design. I will keep it simple and relatable.

Please let me know if you're interested by leaving a comment or texting me privately. I'll keep you updated!

Don’t be afraid of using it.

03/07/2025

“Because change is terrifying. Choices are terrifying. But having a thing in your head that kills you if you make a mistake is more terrifying.”
~ Murderbot, from Network Effect by Martha Wells

I've been reading fiction again. The cover of Martha Wells' first Murderbot novella—with a very intriguing AppleTV version starring Alexander Skarsgård—caught my attention as I was scrolling through my Kindle library.

The first paragraph hooked me:
“I COULD HAVE BECOME a mass murderer after I hacked my governor module, but then I realized I could access the combined feed of entertainment channels carried on the company satellites... As a heartless killing machine, I was a terrible failure.”

How can I not love this sarcastic and awkward SecUnit, with the handsome face of Alexander Skarsgård, who'd rather binge serials than kill people?

As a MAP Practitioner passionate about rewiring the mind, I’m fascinated by how Murderbot constantly reprograms itself to pursue freedom and happiness. Plus, it’s so much more fun reading this than another self-help book!

That “thing in your head” felt strangely familiar to me. It reminds me of my harsh inner critic—the ‘tough love’ voice I once thought I needed. Now, as a parent, it becomes even more obvious, because that critic sometimes comes out to parent my kids when I’m under stress.

It echoes my good-girl and good-employee conditioning, and I don’t like it. I don’t want it. I can see how it distracts me from being the kind of parent I want to be: for my kids, and for myself. Or, more dramatically... it’s destroying my life.

I have to hack it. And I love that MAP accelerates the process.
But even after hacking it, I still have to choose—not to find someone else to "follow orders from," and instead stay in that awkward, uncomfortable space of getting clear on what I actually want, however small or insignificant it feels, and to follow it anyway.
"Choices are terrifying" to me because I haven’t used that muscle much. But trying to obey my inner critic and being constantly punished by it is even more terrifying.

Just like Murderbot, who’s drawn to connect with people who are kind to it and treat it as a person with free will, I’m choosing to be in the right communities. With people who inspire me and encourage me to keep practicing my “want” muscle.

I’ve just attended The Art of Absolute Knowing with Colette Streicher workshop, and I'm delighted to connect with her private community where we continue to practice and inspire one another. I’ve also joined Faith Teo's second round of 14 Days to More: a group program on manifesting what we want. It feels like such a synchronicity to have both happening at the same time. I love being in both communities.

Spoiler alert ahead!
Back to the book: Network Effect. My heart sang when Murderbot saved another SecUnit from self-destruction by teaching it how to hack its own governor module. That was the first choice that SecUnit made to free itself.

I guess this shows that practicing free will is contagious.

What would our world look like if more of us truly did what we enjoy and find meaningful? What might happen if everyone were free to flourish with mutual respect and harmony?

Like Murderbot, I don’t have everything figured out. But I’m choosing, step by step, to be kind to myself, to notice what I want, and to follow that.

Because in a world where change is terrifying and choices are terrifying, choosing to be free, and kind, might just be the most powerful thing we can do.

14/06/2025

The Six Weights of Movement That Help My Clients Release Emotional Tension

I’ve been guiding clients through what I call The Six Weights of Movement. It's a framework I created to help them reconnect with their bodies, release stored emotional and physical weight, so their wisdom comes through clearly again.

Starting from the heaviest to the lightest, they are:
Drop – The heaviest. Dropping a part of your body and allowing the rest of your body to follow. Letting yourself know that you can collapse in a safe and contained way.

Lift – Resuming more control, engaging your strength with a sustained rhythm.

Lean – Trusting. As you give more weight to one part of your body, you are allowing more ease of movement in the freed-up parts.

Hold – Holding yourself gently, with firm pressure that reassures you: "you are here for you."

Trace – A light, curious touch that helps you delight in your sensitivity! How would you explore the terrain of your body?

Float – The lightest. Moving through the space around you with lightness, ease, and absolute delight!

I see this like a movement multivitamin. Some of these weights help us release tension more effectively, and others help us feel nourished. And it's easy to customize these weights for people with physical health challenges. A recent client was recovering from a major surgery and her skin felt extra sensitive, so we simply focused on the lightness and ease in Float. It was a beautiful way to ground just before our sessions together.

There’s no music. No choreography. Just a willingness to start moving your body before thinking and planning. A light curiosity to observe how your body might feel different from left to right, top to bottom, or even a specific body part that feels number compared to the rest of your body. Light structured movement like this helps you discover more about your natural movement vocabulary.

It's fascinating to witness how my clients receive their answers so quickly when they move their bodies through this light structure. Plus, they had fun and feel freer in their bodies!

I'm curious to know: would you be interested in exploring these six weights of movement in an online group workshop? You can opt to switch off your camera if you're feeling self-conscious about moving. I'd love to offer a free hour-long workshop sometime in July, after my kids are back to school. Let me know if you're interested in the comments or you can send me a DM. Thank you🤗

11/06/2025

I love to dance, yet I'm pretty clumsy. Early last year, I cut my lip and scraped my knee while simply chasing after my son in an attempt to play with him. A couple of months later, I injured my right wrist after losing my balance when my eldest son jumped out from his hiding place and scared me. I also tend to misjudge distances and have terrible ball sense.

This lack of spatial awareness became even clearer as I worked with one of my clients. She shared how, in her mind, she was moving beautifully and fluidly, yet in her mirror reflection, she looked much stiffer than expected. During her MAP session, her Superconscious led her back to childhood memories where it felt unsafe to move. Her father often called out, "don't move!", and that was the phrased she still remembered. Movement brought punishment, so she learned to stay still. Part of her healing was reteaching her body that it’s now safe to move again.

I suspect my own poor spatial awareness comes from an under-stimulated childhood. I wasn’t encouraged to run around, climb, or play catch. I think I was also afraid of getting injured, so I stuck to moving my Barbie dolls instead of my body.

Inspired by my client’s positive shift in feeling safer in her body, I gave myself a MAP session. Halfway through, a clear message came through: explore adult gymnastics. It felt playful, unexpected, and like a really fun way to rebuild my proprioception! After a quick search, I found a gymnastics school nearby, and the only branch that offers adult classes is a short five-minute drive from home. Woohoo!

I used to think I had to be more healed than my clients. But now, I see we’re just serving as mirrors for each other's personal growth. Especially the sensitive women I work with — the ones who overthink, feel deeply, and are still learning how to trust their bodies. This work is as much mine as it is theirs.