Heart2Heart

03/07/2025

What should I do after my husband brought home a love child?
I am a woman in deep pain and confusion. My husband and I have been married for more than 15 years. We have had our share of challenges, but I believe we were committed to each other and our family. Recently, however, he came home with a child; his love child with another woman. That was the first time I discovered he had been unfaithful to me. I was shattered. What hurts me the most is the betrayal and his complete lack of remorse. He acts as if nothing happened. He still expects me to be intimate with him, to talk and laugh as we did before, yet I feel broken inside. I am angry, disgusted, and ashamed. I even find myself resenting the innocent child, which makes me feel guilty. I do not know how to process this or what to do next. Please help me. Anonymous

26/06/2025

My wife prioritises church over our marriage. What should I do?
I am a 40-year-old man who feels like he is slowly losing his wife to religion. We have been married for 12 years, but over the last three, she has become extremely devoted to her church. At first, I admired her faith, but now it is affecting our relationship. She spends almost every evening at overnight prayers or choir practice. On weekends, she is either fasting, attending deliverance sessions, or travelling for “missions.” I have tried to talk to her about spending more time together, but she says I am trying to interfere with her walk with God. Intimacy has become rare, and even the children complain they hardly see their mother. I feel lonely and unwanted in my own home. I do not want to be the man who competes with Jesus for his wife’s attention. Is this normal? How do I save my marriage without appearing like the enemy? Anonymous

20/06/2025

My husband joined TikTok and now thinks he is a celebrity. Should I be worried?
My 42-year-old husband recently opened a TikTok account and has been acting like a teenager ever since. He now spends more time filming dance videos, lip-syncing to Luganda love songs, and replying to comments from girls calling him “uncle bae.” At first, I laughed it off, but it is becoming ridiculous. He bought ring lights, started referring to our bedroom as “the studio,” and even turned our daughter’s school shoes into a TikTok prop. He claims he is “building a brand” and might start earning from views. Meanwhile, I am the one carrying the financial load and taking care of the home while he is doing TikTok challenges. Should I be worried that he is losing grip of reality, or just let him be Uganda’s next viral star? Anonymous

13/06/2025

When his mother became the other woman
I have been married for four years, and things were good until my mother-in-law moved in due to illness. What was supposed to be temporary has turned into a nightmare. She competes for my husband’s attention, criticises everything I do, and insists on involving herself in our private matters. Whenever I raise concerns, my husband takes her side and accuses me of being disrespectful. Our intimacy has vanished, and I now feel like a stranger in my own home. In our culture, respecting elders is expected, but I am starting to feel invisible in my marriage. I still love my husband, but I am suffocating in this emotional triangle. How can I set boundaries without being seen as the villain or breaking my marriage apart? Janet

10/06/2025

How did you deal with your mother-in-law?
In many Ugandan homes, relationships with mothers-in-law can be complicated. What starts as a union between two people often expands into a tug-of-war involving families, especially the husband's mother. While some mothers-in-law are supportive and loving, others can be controlling, overbearing, or even openly hostile. This can lead to conflict, tension in the marriage, or, in extreme cases, separation.
As Heart to Heart, we want to open up this often-taboo conversation. Have you had a difficult experience with your mother-in-law? How did you handle it? Were you able to find peace and common ground, or did things fall apart? What advice would you give to someone currently facing this challenge?
Your story could help someone else going through a similar situation. We invite you to share your experience, anonymously if you prefer, in the comments or inbox. Let’s talk openly, without judgment.

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03/06/2025

He eats chicken, but I am forbidden to taste it
I am a 29-year-old woman married to a traditional man who believes some outdated clan customs still apply, especially to me. According to him, as his wife, I must never eat chicken, pork, or eggs. But strangely, he eats them all the time with no problem. Whenever I ask why the rule applies only to me, he says, “That is how our ancestors lived. I find this deeply unfair and confusing. We live in a modern-day country, yet I feel like I am stuck in a 19th-century household. I am forced to eat what he approves, while he enjoys the very foods I am denied. I have started resenting both the rule and him. Is culture supposed to oppress or evolve with time? How do I get through to a man who thinks tradition means control? Anonymous

30/05/2025

Have I been replaced by goats in my marriage?
My husband and I have been married for four years, and I love him dearly. However, lately, something strange has been happening. Every evening after work, he heads straight to the kraal and talks to his goats; I mean full conversations. I watch him chatting and smiling with the goats while I am left waiting for a word. One time, I tried joining him in the kraal, but he said, “Do not distract them, they are sensitive.” Sensitive? Goats? Now I am starting to wonder if I have been replaced by his livestock. It feels as though I am losing my husband to the goats, and I barely receive any attention anymore. Should I be worried? Or should I just start learning goat language? Confused wife

23/05/2025

Should I keep waiting for him to marry me?
I am 28 years old, and my boyfriend and I have been together for five years. I am ready to settle down and start a family, but he keeps postponing our wedding plans. Every time I bring it up, he says he is not ready. I feel as though I have invested so much time in this relationship, and I am stuck waiting for him to commit. My friends tell me I am wasting my prime years, and I am beginning to feel frustrated and anxious. How do I approach this situation without pushing him away? Should I keep waiting for him to change his mind, or is it time to move on and find someone who is ready for a future with me? Janet

14/05/2025

Is social media tearing my relationship apart?
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year. Lately, her social media activity has started to make me uncomfortable. She constantly posts pictures with her male friends, commenting on their photos, and I have even caught her messaging them privately. When I bring it up, she brushes it off, saying it is harmless. But I feel disrespected and worried that she may be emotionally invested in someone else. It is causing a lot of tension between us. Am I overreacting, or do I have a valid reason to be concerned? How do I talk to her about this without sounding insecure or controlling? Can social media truly be a threat to a relationship? Michael

09/05/2025

Am I right to worry about my husband's cultural practices? My husband and I have been married for five years and have lived in Kampala. About a year ago, he started volunteering at a traditional herbalist's shrine deep in the village every weekend. At first, I admired his passion for culture and healing. But now, he returns home with strange rituals - burning herbs at midnight, chanting, and sprinkling concoctions around the house. He insists it's for "cleansing and protection." Our neighbors are growing suspicious, and so am I. I fear it might be spiritual manipulation or even witchcraft. When I raise concerns, he becomes defensive and says I don't respect our heritage. I love him, but I feel unsafe and confused in my own home. I've started sleeping in a separate room, and intimacy has vanished. Is it right to question his beliefs? Or am I losing my marriage over cultural misunderstandings? Anonymous

01/05/2025

I am dating a married man because I cannot afford my lifestyle
I am a 26-year-old woman dating a married man, not by choice but by circumstance. A year ago, I met a charming older man who later revealed he was married. By then, I was emotionally attached and struggling financially. He started paying my rent, covering groceries, and helped me when I lost my job. This made life easier, but at a cost. I am constantly hiding, lying to friends, and I feel like I have lost myself. I cannot date freely or plan my future. He says he loves me, but I know he will never leave his wife. I feel stuck, caring for someone I cannot truly have, yet relying on him to survive. I want my independence back, but I am scared. I do not know how to walk away or where to start rebuilding. Have you ever been in a situation where survival blurred the lines between right and wrong? What would you do if you were me? Josephine

24/04/2025

How do I handle separation anxiety when returning to work?
I am a first-time mother, and my maternity leave ends next week. My baby is just six months old, and I am already overwhelmed with guilt and anxiety at the thought of leaving her at daycare. Every time I try to imagine being away from her, I feel like crying. She is very attached to me, and I am worried the separation will affect her emotionally and me, too. I am constantly asking myself if I am doing the right thing. How can I ease this separation anxiety for both of us and make this transition smoother without feeling like I am abandoning her? Jane Rose