12/17/2022
As someone who survived domestic violence, this pi**es me all the way off. It's scum like this female that creates a narrative of guilt and shame for those who do need help when trying to get away. Let me explain...
It takes women up to 7 times on average, leaving to finally get out. Why is that...
Mentally you feel guilty, forever, for standing
up for yourself and getting 12 involved when that was the only option left. Truly being held in your own home with this kind of threat is traumatizing in itself. The last thing a true victim wants to do is get the person they love dearly in trouble.
People say well that would never be me. Or she must like being abused. They do not understand why women would stay or go back with someone. I will tell you why...
By the time the abuse has gotten this dangerous that you are in fear for your life. You have been broken down financially and mentally in most cases. Relationships usually don't start out like this. Victims are groomed over time and blame themselves already. The psychological damage is done and now the violence and control have escalated to this point.
Crying wolf puts all parties in danger this is a serious accusation, not something you play about. It also makes it hard for others to believe actual victims. Further stigmatizing the misunderstanding of how women end up in these situations. It further shames them into feeling guilty when they do decide to get help.
Why...
Victims already are embarrassed and the last thing they want is to get the police to intervene. Trust you me yall, calling law enforcement is the last thing you want to do when you are truly scared of making the person angrier when your life is in danger. You are just trying to escape the home as quickly as possible.
What are your thoughts?
As always peace, ❤️, and chicken grease.
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