07/07/2024
There is a very unhealthy issue with people being overly concerned with being too nice and how people are looking to hurt them. And while the boundaries thing I always say applies, I think there's also this trauma that folks aren't really dealing with that they end up being just as harmful to the people around them using that trauma as an excuse to be apathetic, toxic, etc.
I think worrying about other people hurting you is unnecessary paranoia that 1. You can't avoid and 2. Isn't even about you. It's not an indictment on you or your behavior as much as it is a deficiency on their end. That you can end up replicating just as easily continuing cycles of hurt people hurting people.
If you genuinely want to be a decent person do not let the actions of others dictate that for you. You're not a good person if you're willing to take goodness out of the world due to your cynicism. You're just another drone that fell victim to the world at that point.
