06/13/2025
As you can tell from my first book, “Good Vibes, Good Life,” I’m a big believer in the power of genuine positivity to transform your life. I’m also an advocate for practices such as power poses and positive self-talk or affirmations, which can gradually shift your internal state and physiology.
Yet, we have to consider the nuances. No one is positive all the time. Complete rejection of our shadow side creates emotional dissonance, commonly called spiritual bypassing. What we may do to protect the ego will starve our spirit of authentic growth. Facades come with a denial of reality, and this resistance will create persistence—recycling experiences that provoke the same undesirable feelings that you’ll continue to mask.
You are not meant to shun bad feelings. The keys to authentically adjusting your mental and emotional trajectory are to remain open, honest and non-judgmental about your current frequency—and to turn the dial at a pace that works for you.
For example, affirmations must feel authentic to work. Saying “I am a millionaire” after opening a past-due bill won’t feel real and won’t help attract abundance. Instead, saying to yourself, “I am moving closer to my financial goals,” or “I take steps that promise a successful future,” feels more attainable.
Ultimately, the Universe responds to your dominant vibration, which contains beliefs, emotions, and perspectives you’ve attained throughout your life. It is shaped by how healed or heartbroken you are. It is dialled into limiting and expansive beliefs; it treads the balance of your conscious and unconscious thoughts.
Authentic change to our dominant vibration happens when we make the unconscious, conscious—and like craftsmen, mould our beliefs to those that serve us. Through organic healing and awakening, we rise to higher states of being.
It’s not about fake happiness or faux positivity. It’s about soul-level expansion and healing that arrives little by little. Trust the process and always lean into your authentic feelings with the understanding that you are powerful enough to move your emotional dial any way you want.