Lists and Lost Things

05/27/2026

Sometimes parenthood changes so quietly that you don’t notice it until one random afternoon hits you right in the chest. A reflection on the end of the playground years, raising neurodivergent teens, loneliness, connection, and figuring out who you are as your kids grow up. 💛

A quiet afternoon at the park with my 14-year-old daughter made me realize how much parenting has changed over the years. The playground years have slowly turned into ice cream runs, long drives, and conversations about growing up, loneliness, and independence. This is a reflection on parenting teen...

02/04/2026

I am so taken by interesting paper artists. ❤️

02/04/2026

🌿 Welcome to Lists & Lost Things 🌿

If you’re new here: Hi, I’m really glad you found this space.

This group exists for people who:
• have ADHD or beautifully wired brains
• feel overwhelmed by “normal” organization advice
• lose lists…while actively making lists
• want systems that work with their energy, not against it

This is a shame-free, perfection-not-required zone. We talk about gentle resets, realistic routines, clutter without guilt, and doing the best we can with the brains and lives we have.

You’ll see:
✔️ simple, flexible organization ideas
✔️ encouragement on hard days
✔️ tools that don’t assume unlimited focus or motivation
✔️ reminders that you are not broken

✨ Start wherever you are. Lurk if you need to. Jump in when it feels safe.

If you want to explore printable tools and resources made for this exact kind of brain, you can find them here (I’m slowly creating more!):
👉 http://www.inkandpaperdigitals.com

Optional hello (only if you want!):
💬 What’s one thing you’re hoping gets a little easier lately?

I’m really glad you’re here,
Tori 💛

02/03/2026

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01/22/2026

✨ New blog post is live ✨

Tonight’s post is about supporting a neurodivergent child through disappointment when plans fall apart, and there’s nothing you can fix.

This one came from a real moment in our home. A canceled youth group night. Big feelings. Quiet space. And a reminder that emotional regulation doesn’t always look like talking it out or “being resilient” on demand.

Sometimes support looks like presence.
Sometimes it looks like asking one simple question.
Sometimes it looks like chicken nuggets.

If you’re parenting a neurodivergent child who feels things deeply, I hope this one makes you feel seen.

💬 I’d love to hear from you in the comments:
What helps your child move through disappointment?

When plans fall apart, disappointment can hit neurodivergent kids hard. Learn how one simple evening with a canceled youth group, quiet space, and chicken nuggets showed that helping a neurodivergent child cope with disappointment does not require fixing feelings, only honoring them.

01/16/2026

No kidding.

01/15/2026

Let’s pause together for a minute. 🤍

This week has been mentally loud in our house. Big feelings about the world. End-of-quarter school chaos. That “everything is happening all at once” kind of tired.

Instead of spiraling or doom-scrolling, I want to try something different today, and I’d love for you to join me.

👇 Drop one of these in the comments (or all three):
• One small win (even if it feels silly)
• One thing that’s been hard
• One thing you’re hoping for

No fixing. No debating. Just sharing and being seen.

If you’re feeling scattered, behind, or overwhelmed, you’re not alone here. This space is for real life, unfinished to-do lists, and hope that doesn’t require productivity to earn its keep.

💬 I’ll start in the comments.

01/14/2026

One of our biggest issues right now is the idea of needing something to be completed or whole for my daughter, and what that looks like specifically for her. While my daughter doesn't have what many might consider "meltdowns" anymore over things like this, it does cause her a huge amount of anxiety. I'm not one to walk on eggshells with my kids, though, so we're trying all kinds of ways to work on one piece of this issue at a time. This article explains the issue beautifully, so I wanted to pass it along to my audience.

Learn about completion issues and routines in children with autism. Discover how changes can trigger anxiety and discomfort in those with sensory issues.