08/21/2025
I've been staring at this ring for three days now and I honestly don't know how to feel about it. When my boyfriend proposed last weekend, I was so caught up in the moment that I said yes without really looking at what he'd put on my finger. Now that the excitement has worn off, I'm wondering if he was actually listening when I told him I'd always dreamed of a bigger stone.
Don't get me wrong - I absolutely love the jeweler he chose. I've been following her work on the Tedooo app for over a year, admiring her delicate vintage-inspired designs and the way she sources beautiful colored stones. This sapphire is gorgeous and the craftsmanship is incredible, exactly the kind of unique piece I'd hoped for instead of a generic mall ring. But we've talked about engagement rings before, and I specifically mentioned wanting something substantial, something I wouldn't be embarrassed to show when people inevitably ask to see it.
Is he being thoughtful by choosing quality over size, or is this his way of saying he's not willing to invest in something that reflects how serious he is about our future? My sister keeps telling me it's about the love behind it, not the carat weight, but I can't shake the feeling that when people see this tiny diamond, they're going to think he went cheap on me. After seven years together, shouldn't he know that this one thing really mattered to me? Am I being shallow for caring about the size, or is it fair to feel disappointed that he didn't hear me when I told him what would make me truly happy?
