Asher Witmer

09/09/2026

I had my sister, Kristi, on the podcast to talk about her time in Ukraine. She went with a team into the war zone to teach local people stop the bleed. Here's what she experienced:

Kristi Witmer is a registered nurse, and she's my sister. Last fall...

09/07/2026

Crazy how fast the summers go! August was a full one with its own set of challenges, but I’m grateful it included a family getaway into the mountains, celebrating Kenaz’s 13th birthday, and a father-son backpacking trip with some friends!

09/06/2026

Immodesty was never the cause of s*xual immorality. Lust was, is and always will be. Lust is what causes people to use immodesty for their own perverse desires.

09/04/2026

Intimacy Is Not Merely S*x

Here's the thing. S*x is an outflow of intimacy, and of a shared commitment to intimacy. But intimacy is not merely s*x.

When I say s*x flows out of a commitment to intimacy, I'm not asking whether the two of you are committed to having s*x. I'm asking whether you're committed to intimacy. Intimacy is oneness. In every area of life, in every season of life. Are your hearts turned toward each other? Are you tuned in? Are you walking together through your spiritual journeys, your ordinary days, your work, your kids, all of it?

There will be times you feel disconnected, times you haven't had a good chance to sit and talk, and you start by simply being together physically. So it isn't that s*x only flows out of perfect intimacy. It flows out of a commitment to intimacy, where you're pointed toward each other. Emotionally naked with one another. Wanting each other, all of who they are.

Read the full article here:

Pressuring a wife into s*x misreads s*xual sin and centers self, not love. Real intimacy is bigger than s*x, and God woos rather than forces.

09/02/2026

AI promises to save time and remove toil, but it keeps making us busier and runs against something true about being human. Writing is how we discover what we think, so handing it to a machine skips the part that forms us. Underneath the productivity pitch is a value system that treats work and difficulty as problems to eliminate. But we serve a God who didn't remove Paul's thorn. He met him in it. Using AI well starts with refusing to let it quietly rewrite what we believe is good.

09/01/2026

Pressuring a Wife into More S*x Misunderstands What's Really Going On

The first problem is that this approach completely misreads the heart of s*xual sin, and po*******hy in particular.

It assumes a man is simply wired for endless s*xual expression, and that if you give him more of it in the right place, the pull toward the wrong place will fade. As if the problem behind looking at p**n is that he isn't getting enough. But that's not the problem. Some men who struggle actually have plenty of s*xual expression in their marriage. More consumption was never the missing piece.

Maybe you're reading this in a marriage where you haven't been intimate in a long time, and you feel like throwing your phone across the room. Hear me out. I've been where you are. I know what it's like to be walking in freedom, not in po*******hy, and still feel the pull, still ache for s*xual intimacy. Your desire is not what's wrong. The desire for s*xual intimacy is a good thing, indeed!

The way in which you pursue s*xual fulfillment is what's wrong. If you find yourself tempted with p**n because you haven't had s*x in awhile, it reveals a deeper heart issue that s*x has never resolved because it's not designed to resolve it. More s*x with a broken soul is simply more broken s*x. Any alleviation of temptation that more s*x provides is simply a facade, not actual healing. Even extremely perverted men don't necessarily desire s*x as strongly right after ej*******on. That's biology–not deliverance.

The reason a man can't harness his s*xual energy is that something is pulling for it. Something in the emotional environment he lives in every day is grabbing for the hit. It's a lot like a drug addict trying to break free. You can walk in freedom for a time, and then something shifts in your world that resembles the old days, and suddenly the pull is back. Sometimes part of what shifts is the marriage itself. You've grown distant. You're not as close as you were. The old emotional environment returns.

And this is where the rubber meets the road. Was there ever true freedom? Or is there deeper work still waiting to be done?

(This is an excerpt from a larger article, which I've linked in the comments below.)

08/31/2026

Daniel, a friend whose name I've changed for privacy, had done the hard work. He had walked away from po*******hy, and for the first time in years he felt like a free man. So he threw himself into ministry, joining a group that leaned heavily into the deliverance model of healing. Prayer, breaking strongholds, casting off demons. He wanted to be all in.

Only, the relapses kept coming.

He would go a stretch, then fall. Go another stretch, then fall again. Eventually his wife, worn down and scared, brought it to some of the others in the ministry. They cared about the couple, even prayed over them. They tried what they knew to try. And when they got to the end of their ideas, they landed on one final suggestion.

"Well, just encourage more s*x."

I understand why they said it. When prayer doesn't seem to be working and a man keeps falling, you reach for the next lever. And there's a whole line of teaching out there that treats more s*x as the answer. If the marriage is dry, or if a guy is struggling, the fix is to get more of it flowing.

I want to say this as plainly as I can: 𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙖𝙣 𝙚𝙭𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙢𝙚𝙡𝙮 𝙙𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙨 𝙢𝙤𝙫𝙚.

You can read the full article here: https://www.asherwitmer.com/wife-should-never-be-pushed-into-s*x/

08/30/2026

Looking forward to digging into this book!

"Christian parent, it's time we pay closer attention to the fallout of what's actually happening with our kids in the world of youth sports. And if we're going to do that, it starts by paying closer attention to what's happening with us."

08/27/2026

Awhile back, I timed myself getting a podcast episode out the door.

We've got AI editing now. Fast internet. Tools that write a blog post before my coffee gets cold. And still, it took me about as long as it did years ago, before any of it existed.

That bugged me enough to make a whole episode about it with my coworker Stuart Mullet, who taught literature before coming into marketing. We got into the myth of saving time, why writing is actually how we discover what we think, and the quieter thing underneath it all: we serve a God who didn't remove Paul's thorn. He met him in it. AI is built to remove every thorn it can find.

Stuart and I use AI every day and are still figuring out how to do it well. Listen in to our conversation through the link below:

What does it actually look like to build a healthy relationship wit...

08/25/2026

It is intriguing to me how many Christians love hearing the Word of God, but get really sensitive when it comes to conforming their lives to it. It is not enough to love hearing the Word; we must also be doers of it.