30/01/2023
So it's clear, boundaries are not meant to keep others out, but rather keep your peace of mind in(tact). Remember that you are just the messenger. once you have delivered the message or boundary, It will be up to them to honor it or not. If they choose not to honor your boundary, it is perfectly fine for you to honor the boundary for yourself. You may feel obligated to justify because of the history you may have or because you're just a generally kind person, but choosing to be selfless with yourself is not selfish, "No." is a complete sentence. "I will let you know when I'm ready to talk.", is something that they will just have to accept until you're ready to talk. If they care enough to consider your feelings, if they have respect for your personal space, they will understand. Sure, It may be uncomfortable for them, but remember this boundary is so that you will have a necessary level of comfort for yourself.