08/19/2026
There are some lessons in life that we don’t learn until we’re forced to stop.
Right now, I’m sitting in a hospital bed, facing surgery for something that, honestly, may have been preventable if I had simply slowed down and paid more attention to me.
That realization is hard.
As a nurse and a caregiver, I’ve spent so much of my life taking care of other people. I notice when someone else isn’t feeling right. I advocate for them. I tell them to rest, to listen to their bodies, to follow up when something doesn’t feel normal.
And then there’s our farm.
Every day, there are hundreds of animals depending on us. Chickens, pigs, dogs, and all the other pieces of farm life don’t care if you’re tired, overwhelmed, or not feeling your best. They still need to be fed, watered, checked on, cared for, and loved. There are always chores to do, animals to check, eggs to collect, fences to worry about, and something that needs our attention.
So somewhere along the way, I became really good at taking care of everyone and everything except myself.
I pushed through the exhaustion. I put things off. I told myself I’d deal with it later. There was always a patient who needed me, an animal that needed me, a family member who needed me, or something on the farm that couldn’t wait.
Until my own body decided it had waited long enough.
Being the caregiver doesn’t make us invincible. Being a nurse doesn’t mean we get to ignore our own warning signs. And being strong doesn’t mean we have to keep going until our bodies force us to stop.
So if you’re reading this and you’ve been putting yourself last, please hear me:
Slow down.
Rest.
Make the appointment.
Pay attention to the little things.
Listen when your body is trying to tell you something.
Take care of yourself before you reach the point where you have no choice.
I’m learning a hard lesson right now: taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. It’s necessary.
Because the truth is, those hundreds of animals on our farm need us. Our families need us. Our patients need us. The people we love need us.
But they need us healthy enough to keep showing up.
I don’t know exactly what the next few days will bring, but I do know I’m going to come out of this with a different perspective.
To all the nurses, caregivers, farmers, moms, dads, spouses, grandparents, and people who are constantly putting everyone and everything else first — you matter, too.
Please don’t wait for a hospital bed to remind you.
Sometimes the person who needs your care the most is you. ❤️🐔🐷🌱