03/18/2026
***Long Post Alert***
I’m being led to share a moment of transparency with my husband’s permission. Social media oftentimes gives the highlight reels of marriage, masking the real work it takes to foster a healthy partnership.
My husband and I had a very uncomfortable conversation today. There were tears, choice words (The Lord is working on me 🥴), and some hard truths that we shared with one another. As tough as those things were, they birthed some honesty, accountability, forgiveness, and shared understanding. This was only possible because we’re committed to communicating in a healthy way… no ego, no disrespect, no sugarcoating.
It’s crazy because my sisters and I just talked on Friday about how genuine relationships of any kind (i.e. platonic, familial, professional, romantic) are not devoid of difficult conversations and are actually able to withstand them. Fast forward a few days and I’m being put to the test.
I don’t profess to be a marriage guru by any means. However, I encourage all of my married friends and those who aspire to be married to never shy away from hard talks. Our difficult conversation resulted in a renewed intimacy, commitments to ourselves and each other, and a realistic plan to love the hell out of one another more each passing day. Most importantly, it served some beautiful reminders:
•We chose well when we chose each other;
•No one on this planet can love, support, or encourage him better than I can and vice versa; and
•God, in His infinite wisdom, created me for that man and that man for me!
Marriage is amazing yet it takes intentionality and cultivation! My prayer is that you are or will be married (if that’s your desire) to someone who is willing and able to put their hands to the plow with you. You’d be amazed at the spectacular life you can build together.
Have that talk!
Perfect? NOPE! Purposed? ABSOLUTELY!
