10/08/2025
💜 Not All Narcissists Look the Same 💜
You need to know this
- Not every narcissist is loud.
- Not every narcissist is cruel at first.
But every single one of them has the same goal
- to secure a steady stream of supply to feed their
fragile ego.
They feed off of your light, your empathy, your silence, your confusion, your trauma bond, your soul.
Let’s talk about the different types of narcissists and how they operate - because if you can name it then you can break free from it.
💜 The Grandiose Narcissist
Aka: The “Alpha” / Charmer / God Complex
💜 Traits:
- Arrogant, entitled, and never wrong.
- Believes they are superior to others.
- Uses charm, wealth, or success to draw people
in.
💜 Tactics:
- Love bombs you with gifts, praise, big promises.
- Controls through domination, status, and guilt.
- Berates or belittles you when you outshine them.
- Needs public validation at all times.
💜 Supply Source: Your admiration, your submission, and your silence when they cross a line.
💜 The Vulnerable Narcissist
Aka: The Victim / Martyr / Wounded Puppy
💜 Traits:
- Plays helpless, misunderstood, or overly sensitive.
- Will cry, sulk, or spiral if challenged.
- Seems deep and emotionally raw - but it’s manipulation, not healing.
💜 Tactics:
- Trauma bonds you by oversharing early on.
- Guilt-trips you into staying, fixing, saving them.
- Gaslights you softly: “You know I didn’t mean it.”
- Turns your boundaries into betrayal.
💜 Supply Source: Your compassion, your emotional labor, your guilt.
💜 The Communal Narcissist
Aka: The Savior / Pastor / “Good Guy”
💜 Traits:
- Publicly generous, admired by others.
- Claims to be “doing good” for the community.
- Behind closed doors? Cold. Controlling. Condescending.
💜 Tactics:
- Uses religion, charity, or activism as image control.
- Abuses you in private, then gets praised in public.
- Makes you doubt your reality: “Everyone loves him - maybe it’s you.”
💜 Supply Source: The image of being the “nice one” and your continued silence that protects their mask.
💜 The Covert Narcissist
Aka: The Master Manipulator / Quiet Abuser
💜 Traits:
- Passive-aggressive and emotionally icy.
- Plays the victim, while being the abuser.
- Highly intelligent, calculated, and strategic.
💜 Tactics:
- Blames you for their behavior in subtle ways.
- Creates chaos behind the scenes, then denies it.
- Gaslights your memories, your emotions, and your worth.
💜 Supply Source: Your confusion, self-doubt, and inability to explain what’s happening to others.
💜 The Somatic Narcissist
Aka: The Body Obsessed / Sexual Manipulator
💜 Traits:
- Obsessed with appearance, sex, and validation.
- Uses intimacy to gain control - not connection.
- Will weaponize affection, jealousy, or cheating.
💜 Tactics:
- Uses sex to confuse, trap, or reward.
- Triggers insecurity so you compete for them.
- Brags about how “wanted” they are to keep you
loyal.
💜 Supply Source: Your body. Your insecurity.
Your need for their approval.
💜 The Malignant Narcissist
Aka: The Predator / The Destroyer
💜 Traits:
- Cold, calculating, and deliberately cruel.
- Lacks empathy entirely - not just numb to your
pain, but pleased by it.
- Enjoys watching others suffer, especially those
who once loved them.
- Sees people only as pawns - tools for control,
not companions.
- Often intelligent, strategic, and socially aware
enough to hide behind a charming mask.
💜 Tactics:
- Mixes charm with cruelty - love bombs, then
dismantles you piece by piece.
- Creates chaos and confusion, then plays the
victim to outsiders.
- Uses humiliation, threats, and fear to maintain
dominance.
- Targets your deepest wounds - trauma, guilt,
self-doubt and weaponizes them.
- Gaslights until you question your reality, then
mocks your pain.
- Will destroy your reputation, finances, and
support system just to prove they can.
💜 Supply Source:
Your fear. Your emotional reactions. Your suffering.
They feed on your destruction - it’s not about love or control anymore, it’s about power.
Breaking you gives them a twisted sense of victory.
“Many narcissists don’t just fit into one box - they wear multiple masks.
One minute they’re the victim, the next they’re the hero.
They blend traits from different types of narcissism, shifting identities depending on who they’re trying to control.
That’s what makes it so confusing and so dangerous.
You’re not imagining it.
You’re just seeing the truth behind their shifting faces.”
💀 No Matter The Type - The Cycle Is The Same:
1. Idealize: “You’re perfect. You’re my soulmate.”
2. Devalue: Isolate: Dominate: Blame
3. Discard: Ghosts you, cheats, abandons -
then blames you.
4. Hoover: “I miss you. I’ve changed. I’ll get
help… until they can use you again.!!!
💔 You are not crazy.
💔 You are not broken.
💔 You were targeted because you shine.
💔 And they needed that glow to survive.
But you? You’re gonna rise 🐦🔥because you finally see it. You finally know their playbook.
💜 If you recognize yourself in these patterns…
You’re not alone. You’re not weak. You’re awakening.
📞 Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) | 24/7 | Confidential
Text: START to 88788
📍 You can also reach out to a local domestic violence shelter in your area — many offer legal advocacy, emergency housing, and emotional support.
💫 You are not their supply source anymore!!!
You are a survivor.
Your story doesn’t end in silence.
It starts in truth.
You didn’t lose yourself.
You were being drained.
& Now - You’re reclaiming every piece.
