04/02/2022
Imagine how easy parenting would be if you could let your kids bathe in the swimming pool, play video games all day and stay up all night drinking Mountain Dew. Sighโฆ
We parents know that the health and happiness of our children is our highest priority. But when weโre enforcing rules, breaking up sibling battles, and reminding kids over and over why they shouldnโt eat their boogers (when what they want is to really eat those boogers) ๐ข๐ญโ๐ฌ ๐๐๐ฌ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐๐ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ฒ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ค๐ข๐๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ซ๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ณ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ ๐๐๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ก๐๐ฏ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ข๐ซ ๐๐๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ง ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐.
Because the very nature of parenting often puts us at odds with our children, itโs important to show them that we are, in fact, ON THEIR TEAM!
The concept of Positive Discipline emphasizes ๐๐จ๐ง๐ง๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐๐๐๐จ๐ซ๐ ๐๐จ๐ซ๐ซ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง.
Connection creates a sense of safety and openness. Punishment, lecturing, nagging, scolding, blaming or shaming create fight, flight, or freeze. ๐๐ข๐๐ฌ ๐๐๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐๐๐ซ๐ง ๐๐๐ญ๐ญ๐๐ซ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฒโ๐ซ๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ง๐ฌ๐.
Below are suggestions for creating connection while enforcing boundaries.
From best-selling author and child psychologist Dr. Jane Nelsen:
1. ๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐๐๐ญ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ. Kids are entitled to not like a rule.
2. ๐๐ก๐๐ง ๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ฉ๐ซ๐ข๐๐ญ๐, ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ซ๐๐๐ฌ๐จ๐ง๐ข๐ง๐ . Let your child weigh in.
3. ๐๐๐ญ๐๐ซ ๐ ๐๐จ๐จ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐จ๐๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ข๐จ๐, ๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ค๐ข๐.
4. ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐ฌ. (Thatโs a given.)
๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฐ.๐๐ก๐๐๐ข๐ ๐ ๐ข๐๐ฌ๐๐๐ซ๐๐ฌ.๐๐จ๐ฆ
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