05/08/2025
Lean not on your own understanding…
…even with your children.
This morning, Ava was adamant about wearing a dress.
At first, I didn’t understand why it mattered so much—until I paused and asked her.
“Because it makes me feel pretty and beautiful. Like a lady,” she answered.
Instantly, a memory came flooding back—one where at 14, I refused to wear a dress to church.
Back then, my resistance felt like rebellion.
My parents took me to juvenile detention to “scare me straight.” It didn’t work.
I couldn’t see it then, but I see it clearly now: They were doing the best they could with what they had, navigating parenting and adoption through lenses I didn’t yet understand.
Today, with Ava, I realized God was using this small moment to gently remind me how far I’ve come. I chose to respond differently—not from a place of frustration, but with compassion and curiosity.
It wasn’t about my parents’ mistakes—it was about my own growth and the generational healing happening right now, through something as simple as a dress.
Sometimes God uses our children not just to teach us how to raise them better, but to heal pieces of our younger selves we didn’t even realize were hurting.
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🌱 What I Grew:
🪴 Compassion for my parents’ parenting—acknowledging they did their best.
🪴 Recognition of my own growth from then to now.
🪴 Understanding that parenting can be the gateway to our deepest healing.
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✨ Planted Seeds for Our Village:
🌱 Ask your kids “why” before reacting—it could be healing for both of you.
🌱 Give your parents grace—they navigated life without the tools we now have.
🌱 Embrace each parenting moment as a chance to rewrite generational stories with empathy and wisdom.
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🤞🏾 Verse to Hold On To:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.”
— Proverbs 3:5 (NIV)