Healing With Lauren Marie

Healing With Lauren Marie Certified Attachment Theory Coach
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With a dismissive avoidant partner, speaking up about hurt or disappointment rarely feels safe. Instead of care, you’re ...
09/24/2025

With a dismissive avoidant partner, speaking up about hurt or disappointment rarely feels safe. Instead of care, you’re often met with defensiveness, blame, or silence. Over time, this teaches you to stay quiet to avoid conflict. A key sign of abuse is when peace only exists if you suppress your feelings, thoughts, and opinions. In a healthy relationship, your partner should feel like home…a safe place where honesty is met with kindness and compassion.

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If you’ve been in a relationship where speaking up only leads to blame, distance, or silence, you may have stopped trusting your own voice.

In my 1:1 coaching, I’ll help you understand the attachment dynamics at play, rebuild your self-trust, and gain the clarity and confidence to honor your own needs- even if your partner can’t show up differently.

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A partner with limited capacity for intimacy may say they love you, yet they avoid depth, vulnerability, and true connec...
09/23/2025

A partner with limited capacity for intimacy may say they love you, yet they avoid depth, vulnerability, and true connection. This leaves you feeling profoundly alone in the relationship…a silent torment that erodes your sense of safety. Healthy love requires the freedom to share your inner world, knowing it will be met with care, compassion, and curiosity. Without that nurturing exchange, love doesn’t grow. It slowly withers and dies.

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If love has felt like a prison of loneliness, that pain is real and it takes a toll. You don’t have to face it alone.

In my 1:1 coaching, I’ll help you heal the wounds these dynamics leave behind and rebuild the relationship you have with yourself. You’ll learn to trust your instincts, validate your experiences, and set boundaries that protect your emotional well-being… so you can move forward with clarity, confidence, and peace. 🕊️🩶

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Dismissive avoidants often pride themselves on being “independent,” but it is not true self-sufficiency. Hyper independe...
09/22/2025

Dismissive avoidants often pride themselves on being “independent,” but it is not true self-sufficiency. Hyper independence is a defense shaped by early experiences of emotional neglect where relying on others felt unsafe. Over time, this so-called independence becomes a shield against intimacy. It looks powerful from the outside, but it is really protection rooted in fear. True strength is the ability to stay open, connected, and secure, not to run from it.

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When a dismissive avoidant calls their distance “independence,” it often feels like selfishness. You are left unprioritized and without the closeness and consistency you deserve.

In my 1:1 coaching, I help you understand these patterns and heal the damage they cause.

Together, we rebuild self-trust, honor your needs for love and connection, and lay the foundation for relationships that feel safe, consistent, and truly reciprocal.

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When you’re in a relationship that keeps you in constant anxiety, like with a dismissive avoidant who stonewalls, withdr...
09/22/2025

When you’re in a relationship that keeps you in constant anxiety, like with a dismissive avoidant who stonewalls, withdraws, or emotionally starves you, your body interprets it as chronic threat.

The fear center in your brain fires, and your stress system pumps out cortisol and adrenaline, keeping you stuck in fight-or-flight. Over time, your nervous system doesn’t reset. It stays on high alert, wearing your body down.

Stress then shows up physically: immune suppression, hair loss, gut issues, heart strain, skin problems, and exhaustion. Emotional neglect is not neutral, your body perceives it as abandonment and danger.

You may tell yourself you’re “fine” or “just stressed,” but the body doesn’t lie. Chronic relational stress creates real, measurable illness.

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If emotional neglect or abuse has left your body carrying the weight of it, you don’t have to stay in survival mode. What you’re feeling isn’t weakness… it’s the cost of being deprived of safety and care.

In my 1:1 coaching, I’ll help you process that impact, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild the self-trust you need to create relationships that feel safe, consistent, and truly reciprocal.

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In relationships with DAs, disconnection happens gradually. Instead of direct conversations, they retreat emotionally an...
09/22/2025

In relationships with DAs, disconnection happens gradually. Instead of direct conversations, they retreat emotionally and physically when intimacy feels overwhelming to their nervous system. These distancing behaviors are protective strategies, not reflections of your worth. But for you, the result is painful uncertainty- feeling unseen, unimportant, and emotionally deprived. What feels protective to them feels like abandonment to you, leaving you questioning yourself while the bond quietly deteriorates.

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When someone slowly starves the relationship instead of ending it, it leaves you feeling invisible, unworthy, and like you’re losing yourself one day at a time. That kind of pain is deeply destabilizing.

🌱 In my 1:1 coaching, I’ll help you understand why dismissive avoidants withhold love and connection, and how those patterns trigger your deepest attachment wounds.

🌱 Together, we’ll reprogram the beliefs this dynamic created, rebuild your self-worth, and give you the tools to create relationships that feel secure, reciprocal, and emotionally nourishing.

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Dismissive avoidants often claim to crave peace, yet their behaviors create instability. Silent treatments, withdrawal, ...
09/21/2025

Dismissive avoidants often claim to crave peace, yet their behaviors create instability. Silent treatments, withdrawal, and inconsistency are not signs of calm but defenses against intimacy. If you’ve been on the receiving end, your anxiety was not the problem. Their patterns prevented safety, repair, and genuine emotional connection.

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Being with a dismissive avoidant can leave you anxious, doubting yourself, and desperate for repair that never comes. It’s not because you were “too much”- it’s because their patterns made safety impossible.

You don’t have to face your healing journey alone.

I help clients heal from the damage of dismissive avoidant dynamics. Together, we’ll identify your attachment style- your relationship blueprint that shapes how you love, fight, and connect- and uncover the core wounds driving your patterns.

I’ll teach you scientifically proven tools to reprogram your subconscious mind and shift the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck, so you can:
• Regulate your nervous system and feel safe again
• Heal the core wounds shaping your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors
• Rebuild self-trust and reclaim your worth
• Break painful relationship cycles
• Create secure, lasting connections built on safety and reciprocity

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Avoiding your partner is emotional cowardice because it shuts the door on connection. Attachment theory shows avoidance ...
09/21/2025

Avoiding your partner is emotional cowardice because it shuts the door on connection. Attachment theory shows avoidance is rooted in fear of intimacy, but the impact is the same. Withdrawing instead of repairing doesn’t protect the relationship, it breaks trust and leaves the other person feeling abandoned and alone.

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When you’re with a partner who has an avoidant attachment style, their silence and withdrawal can feel like abandonment. It leaves you questioning yourself and doubting your worth.

In my 1:1 coaching, I’ll help you understand avoidant attachment and your own style, heal the pain it creates, and rebuild the self-trust and clarity to choose connection that feels safe, consistent, and reciprocal. 🩶

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When you feel stuck trying to “fix” someone who keeps hurting you, it usually isn’t about them at all.It’s about your at...
09/18/2025

When you feel stuck trying to “fix” someone who keeps hurting you, it usually isn’t about them at all.
It’s about your attachment wounds.

If you grew up abandoned, rejected, unseen, or made to feel not enough, your nervous system can confuse chaos with love. Those wounds drive you to cling tighter, to hope harder, to believe that if you can just change them, you’ll finally feel safe and worthy.

But here’s the truth: their behavior is showing you who they are today. And healing means shifting your focus back to you- to your needs, your safety, your worth.

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This is exactly what I help my clients with in 1:1 coaching- untangling the wounds that keep you hooked on people who can’t show up, so you can finally break the cycle and feel safe in love.

Together, we rewire the patterns in your nervous system, heal at the root, and rebuild self-trust- helping you reclaim your worth and rediscover yourself.

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Dismissive avoidant partners are low capacity in relationships because closeness feels threatening to them. Instead of l...
09/18/2025

Dismissive avoidant partners are low capacity in relationships because closeness feels threatening to them. Instead of leaning in, they shut down, avoid communication, and protect themselves at all costs. When you ask for more, they flip it on you… making your needs the problem while keeping themselves safe.

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If you’ve been left feeling unseen or blamed in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant, you’re not imagining it. Their patterns can make you question yourself and chip away at your worth. And while it may feel isolating, you don’t have to face your healing journey alone.

In my 1:1 coaching, I’ll help you understand these dynamics, heal the wounds they leave behind, and rebuild the self-trust and security that create healthy, reciprocal relationships. 🩶

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The beginning is easy. Words flow, passion runs high, and promises feel real. But real love reveals itself later… when t...
09/17/2025

The beginning is easy. Words flow, passion runs high, and promises feel real. But real love reveals itself later… when things get messy, when mistakes are made, when repair is needed.

A dismissive avoidant can shower you with words, intensity, and even a future fantasy, but if they shut down, withdraw, or discard you at the first sign of conflict, that isn’t love.

Love is steady, consistent, and willing to work through the hard parts. That’s what builds safety, trust, and true intimacy.

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If this left you questioning your worth, you’re not alone. Anyone would feel confused after being given big words and promises only to be abandoned when things got hard. It doesn’t mean you were too much. It means they weren’t capable of showing up the way real love requires.

In my 1:1 coaching, I help you rebuild self-trust and heal the wounds that keep pulling you toward the wrong kind of love. When you heal at the root, you stop mistaking intensity for connection and finally choose partners who show up for you in real, lasting ways.

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Being discarded by a DA is devastating, but in reality, it spares you from the ongoing pain of their patterns. Dismissiv...
09/17/2025

Being discarded by a DA is devastating, but in reality, it spares you from the ongoing pain of their patterns. Dismissive avoidants learned early to equate closeness with danger, so they protect themselves by shutting down, withholding, or pushing partners away. Over time this creates a cycle of neglect, blame, and emotional starvation. Their discard is harsh, but it also frees you from a relationship that would have eroded your self-worth.

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Healing doesn’t just mean getting over them- it means processing the pain and repairing the wounds this relationship left behind.

In my 1:1 coaching, I help you do exactly that, so you can rebuild safety in yourself and create relationships that are calm, consistent, and secure. 🩶

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Dismissive avoidants often see your emotions as an attack and make you the problem. In truth, the relationship is just a...
09/17/2025

Dismissive avoidants often see your emotions as an attack and make you the problem. In truth, the relationship is just a mirror, reflecting their unhealed wounds.

Many dismissive avoidants learned early that emotions were risky, so they cope by shutting down. That looks like disappearing, minimizing your pain, or refusing to repair. It’s not about you being “too much.” It’s about safety… and they don’t provide it.

That wound usually begins in childhood, when emotions were dismissed, ignored, or punished. To survive, they turned inward, cut off from their feelings, and built hyper independence as protection.

As adults, emotions feel like danger instead of connection. So when you reach for closeness, they deflect outward, blaming you to avoid their own shame and pain.

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If you’ve been left feeling unsafe, unseen, or blamed in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant, this is the work I do with my clients.

These relationships chip away at self-worth, create self-doubt, and leave lasting emotional wounds.

In my 1:1 coaching, I help you understand these patterns, heal the damage they cause, and rebuild self-trust so you can set boundaries with confidence and create relationships that feel safe, consistent, and reciprocal.

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