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Healing With Lauren Marie, Ladera Ranch, CA (2025)

11/16/2025

When someone is both a true narcissist and an avoidant, the pain hits from two directions. Narcissism is a personality disorder that does not change- defined by low empathy, grandiosity, pathological selfishness, an excessive need for admiration and validation, and poor regulation of anger, exactly as Dr. Ramani teaches. Avoidant attachment, however, is not fixed. It’s a learned survival strategy, and someone who is only dismissive avoidant can do the work to move toward secure attachment. But when narcissism and avoidance coexist, one wounds you through entitlement and cruelty, while the other wounds you through withdrawal and emotional abandonment, a double assault on your nervous system.

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What you went through wasn’t “normal relationship conflict.”
Being with someone who is both narcissistic and avoidant creates a level of confusion, isolation, and psychological pain that your nervous system was never meant to carry alone. If this post resonates, please know this: none of this was your fault, and the damage you’re feeling is real.

This is exactly the work I help my clients heal through every day.

My coaching isn’t just talk or quick fixes.
It’s about gently and powerfully helping you heal at the root.

In our 1:1 work together, we:

• Identify your attachment style — the blueprint for how you love, connect, and cope
• Untangle the trauma caused by narcissistic abuse and avoidant withdrawal
• Rewire the subconscious beliefs that kept you bonded to this cycle
• Learn nervous system regulation tools so you can stabilize, feel safe again, and stop personalizing their behavior
• Heal the core wounds that were activated in this dynamic
• Rebuild self-trust and worth so you can move toward secure, reciprocal

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11/16/2025

When a dismissive avoidant feels emotionally triggered, their mind shifts into protection mode. Instead of seeing you accurately, they filter everything through their old wounds and fears. This makes them focus on flaws that are not real threats. Their nervous system reads closeness as danger, so they create narratives that help them distance themselves. It is projection, not truth. Their story about you says more about their unresolved pain than anything you actually did.

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It is confusing and painful to be seen through a lens that doesn’t match who you are. Nothing adds up, so you start questioning yourself. That kind of distortion takes a toll on your confidence and sense of safety. Healing is about understanding the dynamic and rebuilding the relationship to self.

This is exactly the work I help my clients heal through.

My coaching isn’t just talk or quick fixes.
It’s about gently and powerfully helping you heal at the root.

In our 1:1 work together, we:

• Identify your attachment style so you understand why this dynamic impacted you so deeply
• Rewire the subconscious beliefs and patterns that kept you tied to the avoidant cycle
• Heal the core wounds that were activated in the relationship
• Learn nervous system regulation tools so you feel grounded and safe again
• Rebuild self-trust and clarity so you can move toward healthy, secure relationships

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11/15/2025

Emotional abandonment happens when your pain is right in front of them and they choose to ignore it. Your nervous system registers that indifference as danger, which is why it feels so traumatizing. It teaches you that your feelings don’t matter, that your needs are too much, and that you can’t rely on the person you love for emotional safety. An emotionally healthy partner doesn’t ignore someone they love when they’re in tears, especially not the person they claim to be building a future with.

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Emotional abandonment leaves a deep imprint on your nervous system. When someone ignores your pain, it teaches you to suppress your needs, question your worth, and stay in relationships where you don’t feel emotionally safe. Healing that pattern- the one that convinces you to accept indifference as love- is powerful, life-changing work.

This is exactly what I help my clients heal through every day.

In our 1:1 work together we:

• Identify your attachment style — the blueprint for how you love, connect, and cope
• Identify your core wounds and rewire your subconscious mind
• Learn nervous system regulation tools to calm anxiety and rebuild self-trust
• Set and uphold boundaries with confidence and clarity
• Reconnect with your worth and move toward secure attachment — where love feels calm, consistent, and reciprocal

💫 For my 1:1 coaching, please visit the link in my bio.

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11/14/2025

Being in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant can leave deep emotional and physiological imprints on your body. Their chronic distance, lack of repair, and inconsistent connection keep your nervous system in a constant state of alert. Over time, that instability can create anxiety, self-doubt, and symptoms that feel impossible to navigate alone. You did not imagine the impact. Your body responded to emotional unpredictability, not a lack of strength or resilience.

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When you’ve lived through a relationship that kept you in a constant state of emotional uncertainty, it takes a real toll on your mind and body. Your nervous system learned to brace for distance instead of relax into connection.

Healing from the emotional toll of a relationship like this is exactly the work I help my clients heal through.

In our 1:1 work together:

• Understand your attachment style and why this relationship impacted you so deeply
• Rewire the patterns that pull you toward emotional distance
• Reprogram the subconscious beliefs formed in unstable relationships
• Learn nervous system regulation tools to feel safe again
• Strengthen boundaries and communication
• Rebuild self-trust and move toward secure, steady, reciprocal love

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11/13/2025

When someone shows up secure and invested in the beginning, it is natural to believe you’ve finally found your person. You build a future in your mind because they promised one. When they later disappear or reveal they lacked the capacity to love you properly, the heartbreak is devastating. Even if you’re better off without someone so unhealed, the grief is real. Your pain is valid. You’re losing the future you imagined and the person you deeply loved.

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When you’ve loved someone who showed up beautifully in the beginning and then disappeared just as deeply, the grief cuts in ways most people never see. You’re not wrong for believing in the connection or building a future around what they promised. You loved with honesty, and the pain is real. Healing from the impact of this kind of relationship is exactly what I help my clients heal through every day.

In our 1:1 work together, we:

• Identify your attachment style and the patterns that kept you tied to an unavailable partner
• Reprogram the subconscious beliefs formed through love bombing and inconsistency
• Heal the attachment wounds this relationship activated
• Learn nervous system regulation tools so you can feel safe and grounded again
• Rebuild your self-worth and self-trust after being hurt by someone who couldn’t love you properly
• Replace old coping patterns with secure, healthy behaviors
• Move toward earned secure attachment so future love feels steady and mutual

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11/12/2025

Dismissive avoidant partners learned early that emotions meant danger, rejection, or shame. So they built walls to survive…and as adults, those same walls keep love out. When you express your feelings, they shut down or withdraw, not because you’re too much, but because vulnerability still feels unsafe. It’s painful to love someone who’s emotionally unreachable, especially when all you want is closeness, honesty, and real connection.

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Loving someone who keeps their walls up can leave you questioning your worth and your reality. It’s exhausting to keep showing up with openness, only to be met with distance.

Healing from that kind of relationship is the work I help my clients do every day.

In our 1:1 work together, we:

• Identify your attachment style — your blueprint for how you love, connect, and cope
• Reprogram subconscious patterns and core wounds that were activated in the relationship
• Heal the attachment injuries that keep you anxious, overgiving, or self-abandoning
• Learn emotional regulation tools to calm your nervous system and feel safe again
• Strengthen boundaries and communication so you stop overfunctioning in love
• Rebuild self-trust, reconnect with your worth, and move toward secure, reciprocal attachment

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11/12/2025

Being in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant keeps your nervous system in a constant state of alert. The emotional distance, confusion, and lack of safety trigger the release of cortisol and adrenaline for prolonged periods. Over time, that stress can lead to inflammation, fatigue, muscle tension, sleep disruptions, hair loss, and even changes in appetite. It’s important to pay attention to these signs and care for your body…. it’s been living in survival, not peace.

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When love feels unsafe, your body carries the proof. Healing isn’t just about letting go of the relationship- it’s about regulating your nervous system, rebuilding safety within, and reminding your body it no longer has to brace for impact.

This is exactly the work I help my clients heal through.

In our 1:1 coaching, we:

• Identify your attachment style — your blueprint for how you love and connect
• Rewire the subconscious patterns that keep you in survival mode
• Learn nervous system regulation tools to restore balance and safety
• Heal the core wounds driving anxiety, self-blame, and over-functioning
• Reconnect with your worth and rebuild trust in yourself, so your body and heart can finally exhale

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11/11/2025

When you care deeply for an avoidant partner, your attachment system becomes pulled in two directions. Part of you longs for closeness, while another part braces for distance and disappointment. Your body stays alert, hoping for connection yet preparing for withdrawal. Detaching feels painful because it asks you to choose your well-being over the unpredictable bond. It is not about giving up. It is about protecting your peace when the relationship cannot offer emotional safety.

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Detaching from someone you care about is painful, especially when your body is wired for closeness and consistency. You deserve a relationship where safety, reciprocity, and emotional availability are the norm.

This is exactly the work I help my clients heal through.

In our 1:1 work together:

• Understand your attachment style — the blueprint for how you love, connect, and cope
• Identify and rewire the core wounds that pull you toward inconsistent partners
• Learn nervous system regulation tools to calm anxiety and rebuild self-trust
• Strengthen your boundaries and communication so you stop overfunctioning
• Reconnect with your worth and move toward secure attachment, creating calm, consistent, reciprocal relationships

💫 For my coaching, please visit the link in my bio.

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11/11/2025

We gravitate toward unhealthy partners who mirror our childhood patterns because the subconscious mind pulls us toward what feels familiar, not what feels healthy. Ninety-five percent of our reactions and relationship choices come from old programming, not conscious logic. This is why you can know better and still repeat the same painful dynamics. Until those patterns are rewired through nervous system and subconscious healing, familiar dysfunction will continue to feel safer than genuine connection.

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When you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, it’s not because you’re broken. It’s because your nervous system is drawn to what feels familiar. If you didn’t grow up with safe, consistent, emotionally present love, then unpredictability can feel “normal” and even comforting. We mirror what we knew and repeat what we learned — until we rewire the patterns that keep pulling us toward familiar dysfunction and choose what’s healthy over what’s familiar.

This is exactly what I help my clients heal through.

In our work together, we:

• Identify your attachment style — the blueprint for how you love, connect, and respond
• Rewire the subconscious beliefs and patterns shaped by your childhood
• Learn nervous system regulation tools
• Strengthen boundaries and communication so you stop abandoning yourself in relationships
• Rebuild self-trust and reconnect with your worth, so you can choose partners who are emotionally available, healthy, and secure

💫 For my coaching, please visit the link in my bio.

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11/11/2025

When you’ve lived through this cycle- the sudden discard, the silence, the reconnection, then another withdrawal- it leaves deep marks on your nervous system. What starts as love slowly turns into survival. The instability keeps your body in a constant state of alert, flooded with cortisol and adrenaline. Over time, that chronic stress weakens your immune system, disrupts sleep, and erodes your sense of peace.

This kind of emotional neglect would make anyone anxious. We’re all wired for safety, consistency, and connection. But relationships with dismissive avoidant partners rarely offer that… they offer intensity followed by absence, closeness followed by coldness. And if they come back without doing the deeper healing work, the same unhealthy patterns WILL repeat. It’s not if, it’s when.

You have to remember: their inability to love you properly is NOT a reflection of your worth. It’s a reflection of their limited capacity.

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After so much instability, what you need most is safety- inside your own mind and body. Healing isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about finding peace after everything you’ve survived… and learning to trust love again. That’s where the real transformation begins.

This isn’t surface-level conversation. In our work together, we heal attachment wounds at the root and reprogram the subconscious patterns that shape how you love, connect, and show up in relationships.

In my 1:1 coaching, we:

• Identify your attachment style — the blueprint for how you love, connect, and cope
• Reprogram the subconscious patterns and beliefs formed in childhood that keep you stuck
• Heal the attachment wounds that draw you toward emotionally unavailable partners
• Learn nervous system regulation tools to calm anxiety and rebuild self-trust
• Strengthen boundaries and communication so you stop overfunctioning
• Reconnect with your worth and move toward secure attachment — where love feels calm, consistent, and reciprocal

💫 For my coaching, please visit the link in my bio.

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11/11/2025

Being with a dismissive avoidant feels like emotional terrorism because nothing ever feels stable, safe, or predictable. One moment they’re close and the next they’re cold, leaving you spinning in confusion and self-doubt. You’re constantly walking on eggshells, trying to guess what version of them you’ll get. Their emotional distance and lack of repair feel cruel. And yes, you can understand their childhood trauma and attachment wounds, but that doesn’t change the impact it has on you.

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After surviving this kind of emotional chaos, it makes sense that you feel drained, confused, and questioning your own worth. You tried so hard to understand them, to stay patient, and to give love the best way you knew how. But understanding their childhood wounds doesn’t erase the pain you’ve carried. You deserve safety, clarity, and a love that doesn’t leave you in emotional ruins. Healing begins when you process what happened to you and come back home to yourself.

This is exactly the work I help my clients heal through.

In our one on one work together, we:

• Understand your attachment style so you can see the patterns clearly
• Identify the core wounds and emotional imprints this relationship activated
• Learn nervous system regulation tools to help you feel grounded and safe again
• Strengthen your boundaries so you stop over-giving and abandoning yourself
• Rewire the subconscious patterns that keep you drawn to emotionally unavailable partners
• Reconnect with your worth and move toward secure love — consistent, attuned, and reciprocal

💫 For my coaching, please visit the link in my bio.

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11/10/2025

Being in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant leaves you feeling unseen, unheard, and chronically deprived of the very things that make love feel safe — it’s emotional torture. Your nervous system is wired for connection, consistency, and attunement, but their defenses block intimacy at every turn. It isn’t that you’re asking for too much. You’re asking for the fundamentals. When those needs aren’t met, anxiety rises, self-doubt grows, and the relationship becomes painful instead of nourishing.

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After going through emotional torture, it makes sense that you feel confused, hyper-aware, and unable to trust what you feel. Your nervous system has been stretched to its limit trying to love someone who could never meet you with safety or consistency. You deserve clarity, stability, and a love that doesn’t leave you questioning your worth. Healing starts when you stop blaming yourself and start understanding the patterns that shaped the dynamic.

This is exactly the work I help my clients heal through.

In our one on one work together, we:

• Understand your attachment style — the blueprint behind how you love, connect, and react
• Identify the core wounds that make you tolerate emotional distance and inconsistency
• Learn nervous system regulation tools to calm anxiety and rebuild trust in yourself
• Strengthen your boundaries so you stop shrinking, self-abandoning, and over-giving
• Rewire the patterns that keep pulling you toward emotionally unavailable partners
• Reconnect with your worth and move toward secure love — steady, safe, and reciprocal

💫 For my coaching, please visit the link in my bio.

For more, follow me

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