10/09/2024
We hear a lot of talk about abuse in physical, sexual and emotional ways but what we don't hear a lot about is when we become our own abuser.
Let's look at what it looks like if we have become our own abuser.
☆ Neglecting self care
Ignoring your physical, emotional, or mental health needs.
☆ Negitave Self Talk
Constantly criticizing yourself or putting yourself down.
☆ Self-Sabotage
Undermining your own efforts or success, like procrastinating.
☆ Isolation
Withdrawing from friends, family, or activities you once enjoyed.
☆ Perfectionism
Setting unrealistically high standards for yourself and feeling worthless when you don't meet them.
☆ Engaging in Harmful Behaviors
This could include substance abuse, self-harm, or other destructive actions.
Recognizing self-abusive behavior can be tough, but it's an important step toward healing.
Healing from self-abuse is a journey of self-compassion and patience. Here are some steps to guide you along:
● Self-Awareness
Recognize and acknowledge the patterns of self-abuse. Write down your negative self-talk or behaviors to see them clearly. Keep a journal.
● Self-Compassion
Replace harsh criticism with kindness. Treat yourself as you would a dear friend. This isn't easy, but it's crucial.
● Therapy
Seek professional help. A therapist can provide tools and support to break the cycle of self-abuse.
● Set Realistic Goals
Perfectionism can be a form of self-abuse. Set achievable goals and celebrate your progress, no matter how small.
● Healthy Habits
Establish routines that promote well-being, like regular exercise, balanced diet, and sufficient sleep.
● Positive Affirmations
Start each day with positive statements about yourself. It might feel awkward at first, but it can shift your mindset over time.
● Surround Yourself with Positivity
Engage with supportive people and environments. Avoid situations or individuals that trigger negative self-perceptions.
Healing takes time and effort, but it's worth it. Remember, you're deserving of kindness and care, especially from yourself.
Ending the cycle of abusing ourselves is the gateway to a happy healthy life with ourselves as well as with others in our lives.
