Hello and welcome to my page. My name is Tina Rane’ and I am known as the Recovery Coach . I am a Certified Abuse, substance, alcohol and Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapist.
As your coach I will assist you in Restoring,Reclaiming and Reinventing your life after trauma, abuse, divorce alcohol and substance abuse recovery.
I believe in healing from our past wounds and traumas. Learning how to first forgive in order to reach your recovery zone. Getting to the root of the problem and working from the inside out.
Healing and forgiveness is very difficult. Because being hurt by someone you loved and trusted. Either from childhood or adulthood. When you forgive them it’s not for them but it’s for yourself. We must learn how to forgive ourselves. Because what has happened to you. Was not your fault. Forgiving is all about taking your power back.
Hurt can be any where from family, relationship/ friendship and marriage.
I can speak about these things because . I have experienced hurt from all the areas. That I have listed above. Where it made me angry and not wanting to be around certain people. I felt I did not belong or I did not fit up to their expectations. Always trying to please people. But that still was not enough. I thank God that I never turned to any substance abuse or alcoholism to find comfort.But I tried to find comfort in other areas of my life. Still feeling empty and dark inside.
I have gone through a divorce . I never mourned the death of my divorce. I just filled that void with something else. Not giving myself time to heal. Not knowing how or where to begin. No one to talk to because of fear of being laughed at. Judged and or ridiculed. So I found myself keeping everything in. Because one time that I was seeking help from a loved one. I remembered being told to stay with the abusive individual because no one will want me with all of my kids. It hurt to the core. To hear that come from someone I loved. I just could not understand why someone who said they loved me would go out of his way to deliberately hurt me. You know they say hurt people hurt people. That is so true. No matter how much I was being mentally, emotionally and physically. I still wanted to work it out with him because. I wanted to be married and that I wanted to honor God.
I also know what it feels like to have a loved who was an alcoholic and drug user. It tore our family apart and I lost someone I loved to his drug of choice. I became very angry and confused as to why?
So It took me a while to where I am now. I had to learn how to love me. I had to get to know who I was as a person. It was difficult because I had to look myself in the mirror and see the ugly. There was something inside of me that I kept attracting these types of men. I would question myself? what Is wrong with me. I know I am a good person. I have changed in so many ways. But the even though I changed. There was still the root to my issue. I had to face the root of my brokenness. Once I began to see. I knew I had to change it. Through fasting, and many prayers. My healing had begun. I had to learn me all over again. Who I was. What I liked and disliked.
This is way I have build this platform for individuals to come and share their stories and to heal, to forgive and move forward. To let individuals know someone is here for them. That understands and they are not alone. I am being that person I needed when I was going through.
It’s time you take your life back and be that person your suppose to be. With selling yourself short. I want others to know you don’t have to be afraid to talk about it in fear of being mocked, laughed at or humiliated due to their status. I encourage you to speak up and speak out.
I can honestly say that I am healed and healing takes one day at a time. No one but God has given my peace back. He has replaced my depression and sadness with joy. My smile is no longer a fake smile but a genuine one. I no longer have to hide behind my hurt and pain. I can use the pain that I experienced from my divorce and past hurts. To share with other women to assist in their healing.
I want to encourage whoever is reading this to know. The rocky road your traveling down. Is only preparing you for who you are to become. There is nothing to hard for God . He is the creator of all . He can use and will use you no matter where you use to be. Just trust the process.
