08/13/2025
Interesting
When someone is unhappy with themself, they often project that onto anyone who tries to love them.
They may sabotage the relationship because they can't find their own happiness, and instead of confronting the emptiness within, they unconsciously try to drag the relationship into the same darkness they feel inside.
They might criticize you for things you never did, push you away when all you’ve done is care, or create unnecessary problems just to avoid facing the real issue—the pain they carry in their own heart.
You could give them unwavering loyalty, endless patience, and the purest parts of yourself, yet they would still find a way to question it, to doubt it, and to resist it.
Not because your love wasn’t good enough, but because accepting it would require them to believe they are worthy of it—and deep down, they don’t.
People like this often run from love, even when it’s genuine, because love requires vulnerability, honesty, and trust.
And for someone who hasn’t found peace within themselves, those things feel terrifying.
They will unconsciously choose the comfort of their own misery over the risk of being truly seen.
So when they sabotage what you built together, understand that it was never about you failing them—it was about them failing to heal themselves.
Your worth, your kindness, and your love remain intact.
Their inability to receive it says everything about their wounds, and nothing about your value.
