Vegas Unboxed

02/25/2026

I have a podcast on perimenopause and menopause and we are on YouTube!

Welcome back to the Me First Podcast, Season 2.Today’s episode is called “The Mental Load Breakdown.”If you have ever felt exhausted before the day even star...

02/01/2026

I respect this post.

Stop calling me AFAM!

I have a name. I have a story. I have a life here.
So please - stop calling me AFAM.

Let’s be honest: AFAM didn’t start as a neutral word.
It started as slang tied to money, sugar daddies, and stereotypes. That meaning didn’t magically disappear just because it became "common."

I didn’t move to the Philippines to become a label shouted across the street. I spent years respecting the culture, paying my way, and building a quiet life - only to be reduced to a word loaded with assumptions.

When you say AFAM, you’re often not just saying foreigner.
You’re implying money, privilege, motives, relationships.
That turns a person into a stereotype.

Calling someone AFAM creates distance.
Using a name creates respect.

This isn’t about being sensitive. It’s about basic human decency.
You don’t need perfect English. A simple "sir," "kuya," or better yet a name is enough.

The Philippines is known for warmth and hospitality.
That should include the words we choose.

So please.
Stop calling me AFAM.
I’m not a label. I’m a person.

12/24/2025

Sometimes, silence says more than words ever could. In Filipino culture, we’re not always taught to process our emotions or talk things through—we default to distance. It’s not easy, but I choose to respect the space. 🕊️

12/23/2025

Mixing up “he” and “she” happens a lot for Filipinos because in Tagalog, we only have siya—but today, pronouns are about more than grammar. If you slip up, correct it quickly, stay respectful, and practice for next time. Language can be tricky, but kindness should always be clear.

12/23/2025

The reality of marriage is not just about romance. Marriage is about communication, respect, and building healthy relationships that last. Many couples face marriage problems because they were never taught how to unlearn toxic patterns from culture or family traditions. Real marriage advice isn’t about pretending everything is perfect—it’s about honest conversations, boundaries, and choosing growth together. If you want the truth about marriage, this is it.

12/23/2025

Replying to @/triniislandboy1 on TikTok, 💯agree with you.

12/22/2025

Pasalubong has changed—from a sweet gesture into a stressful, expensive obligation. 🚫 It’s time we rethink this tradition so visits home are about connection, not pressure. 💬 Do you agree?

12/22/2025

I grew up believing certain things were ‘just the way it is’—but I learned I could rewrite the rules. 🌱 Breaking free from what we were raised to believe isn’t disrespect—it’s growth, healing, and choosing better.

12/22/2025

If a simple ‘no’ hurts your feelings, it’s not about the word—it’s about what we were taught growing up. Saying no isn’t rejection, it’s setting a boundary. Learning to accept ‘no’ is part of healthy communication and emotional maturity. Let’s unlearn the mindset that every no is personal and start respecting boundaries.

12/21/2025

Older Filipino women can be so dramatic when they disagree—suddenly they can’t breathe, their chest hurts, or it’s the end of the world 😅 Anyone else grew up seeing this?

12/21/2025

Healing is not the end of someone’s responsibility—it’s the beginning of their new life. If you’re the one rebuilding, set boundaries with love. If you’re the one asking, lead with compassion. Support means more than any package or money sent.