Daniel Robertson - Thriving Relationships

11/05/2025

😯 I didn’t want to believe it...
There really are Difficult People in the world.

For years, I studied the best practices for communication and relationship repair — and watched my clients spend years offering endless empathy and forgiveness to the Difficult Person in their lives.
But nothing changes.

You can’t repair with someone who does not want to repair.
You cannot communicate with someone who does not care about your perspective.
It’s impossible to connect with someone who won’t be real and honest with you.

Traditional relationship advice does not work with Difficult People.

Traditional relationship advice says:
🚫 Communicate gently and use “I feel” statements
🚫 Learn their love language
🚫 Be curious about their point of view
🚫 Be patient and put their needs first for a little while
🚫 Extend an olive branch by saying “sorry” first — maybe they will say “sorry” too

You have to learn a different way.
I’ve seen these patterns play out over and over again for my clients.

That’s why I’m launching
👀 Dealing With Difficult (or Semi-Difficult) People
Group Coaching Community

I’m keeping the cost as low as I can — $149 per month — because I don’t want money to be a barrier for you.
You can start with a 7-day free trial and cancel anytime.

It’s coming soon!
👉 Send me a DM with the word “Difficult” if you want me to keep you updated.

Sneak Peek: What We Cover in the Group 🔥

1. Is My Partner a Narcissist, Emotionally Immature, or Avoidant?

2. Can They Change — or Am I Wasting My Time?

3. How to Communicate With a Difficult Person Without Getting Pulled Into Drama

4. How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Cold, Guilty, or Mean

5. Why You’re Attracted to Difficult People (and How to Break the Pattern)

6. How to Stop Explaining Yourself to Someone Who Never Listens

7. How to Know If Your Relationship Is Abusive or Just Going Through a Hard Time

8. How to Stop Letting a Difficult Person Control Your Emotions

9. How to Rebuild Self-Trust After Gaslighting & Never Get Gaslit Again

10. How to Recover After a Relationship With a Narcissist or Avoidant Partner

11. What Real Forgiveness and Healing Actually Mean (and What They Don’t)

12. The Roadmap to a Secure, Interdependent Relationship

✨ Bonus 1: Love Bombing vs. Real Connection — How to Tell the Difference
✨ Bonus 2: Identifying Red Flags and Green Flags in Future Partners
✨ Bonus 3: Should We Try Couple’s Counseling? – or Is it a Waste of Time and Money?

Don’t miss the chance to turn your relationship around.
Don’t miss the chance to start choosing yourself and your well-being.

💬 To get more information, send me a DM “Difficult” and I’ll make sure you know when the group launches.

As always, may you be peaceful, happy, and free.

Stay connected!

11/04/2025

Can't Get Your Man to Listen? Here are 10 crucial tips to communicate so that he will. If he still won't listen, he's a jerk.

DM me "Listen" and I'll send you the free guide. No email required. No strings attached.

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11/04/2025

She Said She Doesn't Feel Emotionally Safe??? - DM me "Safety" for my free Creating Safety PDF guide. Why didn't we learn this in school?!

No email required. No strings attached. Let's learn to make people feel safe, loved, and understood!

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07/02/2025

You’re trying harder than ever.
You’re providing.
You’re fixing.
You’re doing “everything you can.”

Except the thing that matters most:
Being emotionally available.

You can't out-earn, out-gift, or out-hustle your way back into connection.
Because love doesn’t measure effort by output —
it measures it by presence.

💼 You’ve mastered doing.
But relationships aren’t about doing more.
They’re about being more.

Being more attuned.
More honest.
More available.
More emotionally here.

You’ve been trying to prove your love by working harder.
But what they really want…
is for you to stop working — and just be with them.

Here’s your reminder:
✅ Presence > Performance
✅ Intimacy > Hustle
✅ Connection > Control

If you want the key to change, get my free book “Loving Lawyers: Overcoming the Top 5 Relationship Challenges for Lawyers and their Romantic Partners” at lovinglawyers.com/free-resource

📌 Save this if you feel like you’re “doing everything” and still losing connection.
💬 Share this with someone who needs to hear that doing more isn’t the answer.
🔁 Rewatch before your next “effort” — and focus on presence, not productivity.

06/17/2025

Ever given so much in a relationship that you felt empty inside?

That feeling isn't just exhaustion - it's a warning sign of CODEPENDENCY.

Here's what's really happening:

You've learned to derive your worth from taking care of others. Your entire sense of value comes from what you DO for someone else.

Warning signs you're caught in this pattern:
• Your self-worth depends on helping others
• You can't say "no" even when overwhelmed
• You feel responsible for other people's emotions
• You neglect your own needs consistently

But here's the truth: You can CARE deeply without LOSING yourself.

Healthy relationships involve both giving AND receiving. Both people maintain their identity. Both take responsibility for their own emotions while supporting each other.

Want to break free from codependent patterns and build healthier relationships? Let's talk.

Request a free consultation --> danielrobertson.com

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06/03/2025

You thought it was just a disagreement.
A normal argument.
Nothing serious.
Just two people “expressing themselves,” right?

But here’s what really happened 👇

You weren’t solving the problem.
You were trying to win.

And the moment you did that —
you stopped being a partner…
and started being an opponent.

⚖️ You brought courtroom energy into your living room.
⚖️ You wanted to prove your point.
⚖️ You needed to be right.

But here’s the truth no one tells attorneys:

Being right won’t save your relationship.
Being safe will.

Because when your partner feels like they’re on trial,
love starts to retreat.
Walls go up.
And even when you “win”…
you lose connection.

Let that sink in.

❌ You don’t need better arguments.
✅ You need better connection.
✅ A mindset shift — from “me vs. you” to “us vs. the problem.”
✅ The courage to listen to understand, not listen to defend.

That’s how relationships grow.

Not through logic.
Not through flawless delivery.
But through emotional safety.

📌 Save this if conflict keeps pushing you apart.
💬 Share this with someone who always needs the last word.
🔁 Rewatch this before your next fight — and show up as a partner, not a prosecutor.

04/17/2025

What Is Attachment Theory For?

Attachment theory is extremely popular in the relationship space online and for good reason. It can explain the root cause of many of the most significant relationship challenges.

And yet…

There is a lot of confusion about what attachment theory is for and what’s it’s not for.

Here’s what I use attachment theory for:
- To understand myself and my subconscious motivations
- To understand my partner and why they act the way they act (without judging them)
- To learn how to better create emotional safety for people with different triggers
- To understand the nervous system and different nervous system responses
- To have compassion for people who are different from me
- To know when to give second chances and when to impose boundaries

Here’s what I don’t use attachment theory for:
- To villainize people who have a different attachment style
- To make blanket statements about everyone with a given attachment style
- To try to predict what someone is going to do in the future – e.g., my ex is ghosting me, will they call me in 6 months? (If you’re doing this, you’re trying to find safety. It’s valid to seek safety, but find safety in self-confidence, not fortune telling.)
- To manipulate someone based on their attachment style – e.g., how do I get my avoidant ex to become obsessed with me?

What do you think attachment theory is good for?

Where do you think people misuse attachment theory?

03/01/2025

Mastering Communication Skills to Transform Your Relationship 💬❤️ (Must-Know Tips!)

Struggling with misunderstandings or constant arguments? 😩 Communication is the foundation of every strong relationship! Here’s how to improve your skills, express yourself clearly, and truly hear your partner. 💡✨

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01/28/2025

How to Understand Your Partner’s Love Language 💕 (Stop Missing the Signs!) Are you speaking your partner’s love language? 🗣️✨ Understanding how they give and receive love can transform your relationship. 🌟 Don’t just guess—learn the key to deeper connection today! Follow me for more tips on love, relationships, and communication. ❤️

11/01/2024

Need to resolve a conflict with a partner? I'll help you get to the root. Join us on Sunday, Nov. 3.

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10/15/2024

If you and your partner want HONESTY, you both need to create a culture of safety for honest communication.
Want to learn how?