01/07/2026
Do you want to figure out how much you mean to somebody? Tell them no the next time they ask you a favor. Looking back over 2025, I can't believe how many times this lesson has appeared. It is absolutely amazing to me that once I set a boundary in place and I don't shift from that boundary, people just disappear one right after the other. Oh well. I'm not changing those boundaries.
Yes I'm 52. And maybe most people don't change this late in the game, but I have standards and limits that are going to be adhered to. If you can't get with the program, then you won't be a part of the program.
I've made the mistake of begging people to stay in my life, and I looked back at the last 2 or 3 I thought I would die without and realized 'what in the world was I thinking?'. Their loss, not mine. They may still not even realize it, but that's okay, because the stress from those people wasn't worth my time or energy.
If the fact that I won't do you a favor is all it takes for you to walk away, that says a whole lot about you.
And if you don't see what you're losing when our friendship ends, that's also a 'you' problem.
