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"Am I wrong for wishing they would separate again and both stay out of my life?"
06/08/2021
Woman Keeps Dwelling on Ex's Relationship

"Am I wrong for wishing they would separate again and both stay out of my life?"

DEAR ABBY: My ex-husband had an affair with a woman named "Lily" that lasted for the entire year we were separated. Although we tried to work on things, he continued to sleep with both of us. I got PTSD because of how bad it messed with my head. I wanted to keep my family together, but I was tired o...

"I do not want to be negative about their beliefs, but I should be entitled to mutual respect. Can you help, please?"
06/08/2021
Man Fed Up With Proselytizing In-Laws - Dear Abby

"I do not want to be negative about their beliefs, but I should be entitled to mutual respect. Can you help, please?"

DEAR ABBY: I am having trouble dealing with my wife's extended family, who are mostly evangelicals. My family isn't overly religious and some are atheists....

Are you friendly with your neighbors?
06/08/2021
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Are you friendly with your neighbors?

It's your turn to weigh in! Give your opinion on readers' tricky situations with these quick and easy polls.

What to do about tattered and torn flags...
06/07/2021
Not All American Flags Are Fit for Display

What to do about tattered and torn flags...

DEAR ABBY: I'm pleased and proud that so many people fly our American flag. However, it makes me sad and angry when I see flags that are torn and tattered. People, please. If your flag is in bad shape, take it down and dispose of it properly. Many organizations, police departments, fire departments,...

"I've thought of saying something, but I'm not sure how to express it. Or should I just keep my mouth shut?"
06/05/2021
Neighborhood Group Celebrates Only Select Birthdays

"I've thought of saying something, but I'm not sure how to express it. Or should I just keep my mouth shut?"

DEAR ABBY: I live in an affluent neighborhood where a group of us get together for drinks, holidays, etc. But out of seven women in the group, only two or three are given birthday parties every year. The rest of us are never acknowledged -- not even with a card...

"I want to keep wearing my wedding ring, but because she's not wearing hers, I feel like an idiot wearing mine. What is ...
06/04/2021
Spouse Removes Wedding Ring During Separation - Dear Abby

"I want to keep wearing my wedding ring, but because she's not wearing hers, I feel like an idiot wearing mine. What is the proper etiquette for us? "

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I separated three months ago. She has moved out into her own apartment. We are not legally separated or divorced. She removed her we...

"Have people really gotten that insensitive, or am I making a big deal out of nothing?"
06/04/2021
Couple Doesn't Check Up on Neighbor Injured at Their Home

"Have people really gotten that insensitive, or am I making a big deal out of nothing?"

DEAR ABBY: I am retired, so I have free time on my hands. Recently, while doing a favor for a neighbor couple, I was standing on their porch when a board broke and one of my legs went through up to my thigh. They expressed concern at the time, and I told them I thought I was OK...

How to best coexist with roommates!
06/03/2021
College-Bound Student Anxious About Roommate Friction

How to best coexist with roommates!

DEAR ABBY: I am about to start my new college experience, but I have a few concerns. I'm very picky, and I enjoy my alone time. I like to keep my space clean and tidy, and I'm afraid my roommate(s) will be slobs and I'll end up cleaning up after them. I also need alone time so I can focus on myself ...

"Is it time to leave? He's no longer the man I married."
06/03/2021
Husband Reveals a Frighteningly Short Fuse - Dear Abby

"Is it time to leave? He's no longer the man I married."

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been together 23 years. A few years ago, he told a friend of his he wasn't in love with or attracted to me. I'm the same 5...

"If I were to invite a nudist lady to soak with me in a hot tub, would it be impolite for me to ask her to wear a mask?"
06/03/2021
Hot Tub Lifestyle Can Carry All Kinds of Risks

"If I were to invite a nudist lady to soak with me in a hot tub, would it be impolite for me to ask her to wear a mask?"

DEAR ABBY:II need advice on hot tub etiquette. If I were to invite a nudist lady to soak with me in a hot tub, would it be impolite for me to ask her to wear a mask?..

"Am I being too much of a "helicopter mom"?"
06/02/2021
Mom Worries About Grown Son Living in Truck

"Am I being too much of a "helicopter mom"?"

DEAR ABBY: My son and daughter-in-law are divorcing after almost 10 years. We love them both, and the divorce is amicable. They own a home, and my DIL is staying there.

Cousins at odds over boyfriend! What should she do?
06/02/2021
Dear Abby - Life Advice

Cousins at odds over boyfriend! What should she do?

Written by Abigail Van Buren (also known as Jeanne Phillips), Dear Abby is the most widely syndicated columnist in the world, delivering sound, compassionate advice every day.

"Is it wrong to want them to offer to help me? Am I expecting too much?"
06/01/2021
Surviving Spouse Navigates Rough Financial Waters

"Is it wrong to want them to offer to help me? Am I expecting too much?"

DEAR ABBY: When my husband of 19 years died suddenly 15 months ago (we had no children), my financial situation changed considerably. I have had trouble paying bills, and my water was turned off this morning. When I told my siblings and their families, their answers ranged from...

Sometimes you just shouldn't pry. How do you address someone who is being nosy?
06/01/2021
Friend Deflects Unwanted Questions by Lying - Dear Abby

Sometimes you just shouldn't pry. How do you address someone who is being nosy?

DEAR ABBY: I went to lunch with "Anita," who proceeded to question me about how I know my friend "Gail." It seems like an innocent question, but Gail and I...

"If you’ve worked from home during COVID, are you eager to return to the office?"
06/01/2021
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"If you’ve worked from home during COVID, are you eager to return to the office?"

It's your turn to weigh in! Give your opinion on readers' tricky situations with these quick and easy polls.

"I feel I'm missing out on what others see. How do I move along?"
05/28/2021
Friend Unsure How To Interact With Disabled Man

"I feel I'm missing out on what others see. How do I move along?"

DEAR ABBY: Some close friends have an adult child with a severe disability. They've been upfront about it and his need to be present in the community. I applaud their attitude, but on a personal level, I don't know how to handle it...

Sisters feuding over workout equipment! Should she buy another or fight for it?
05/28/2021
Fate of Exercise Equipment Becomes Sore Subject - Dear Abby

Sisters feuding over workout equipment! Should she buy another or fight for it?

DEAR ABBY: Several years ago, while living with my sister, I bought a $900 rowing machine I could barely afford. I loved it and used it often. Two years ag...

This sister is stirring up drama! "Please help me figure out a solution"
05/27/2021
Sibling's Alcohol Problem Threatens Relationship

This sister is stirring up drama!
"Please help me figure out a solution"

DEAR ABBY: I have been with my boyfriend/best friend for about six years now. We moved in together a little over a year ago and have discussed marriage. The issue is, one of his sisters has an alcohol problem. She becomes rude and tries to bully others when she drinks. When she does that to me, I r...

"Lost in Georgia" just can't keep up with things! "I urgently need this bad habit to change. Is there anything that will...
05/27/2021
Forgetfulness in Everyday Life Leads to Anxiety - Dear Abby

"Lost in Georgia" just can't keep up with things!

"I urgently need this bad habit to change. Is there anything that will help me?"

DEAR ABBY: While I am excited for new opportunities in my life, I cannot shake the feeling I am losing something. I am always losing something, whether it ...

Pilot is flying out of his marriage. What should this wife do?
05/27/2021
Wife of Pilot Faces Prospect of Departure

Pilot is flying out of his marriage.

What should this wife do?

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 32 years. My husband has been cheating on me for the past three of them. He's an international airline captain who has taken advantage of his "freedom." I recently learned that he paid $91,000 on an apartment. (He has an inheritance from his father that he has draw...

"My question is, how do I explain to my wife that I need to be there for my daughter?"
05/27/2021
Man Learns He Fathered Child Over 30 Years Ago

"My question is, how do I explain to my wife that I need to be there for my daughter?"

DEAR ABBY: When I was 16, my cousin "Mary" came from Georgia to New York to stay with us for the summer. After a short time we began experimenting with Fre...

"Would it be wrong to leave without saying goodbye?"
05/26/2021
Worker Ponders Different Options Amid Pandemic

"Would it be wrong to leave without saying goodbye?"

DEAR ABBY: I've been working from home for a year since COVID began. I have been seriously considering quitting my job or retiring. I'd rather not meet my co-workers only to say goodbye. Would it be wrong to leave without saying goodbye?

Wife wants to wear her mother's wedding ring!"What do you think?"
05/25/2021
Wife Wants To Upgrade Wedding Ring

Wife wants to wear her mother's wedding ring!

"What do you think?"

DEAR ABBY: My wife recently asked me if she could take off her wedding ring in favor of wearing her mother's, which is much larger than the one I gave her. I regard it as a lack of respect for our marriage, which has been under a lot of stress for a long time...

This friendship ended via a letter!"This is very hurtful for me, and I'm sure for others. How does one respond, if at al...
05/25/2021
Woman Delivers Her Numerous Opinions by Mail

This friendship ended via a letter!

"This is very hurtful for me, and I'm sure for others. How does one respond, if at all, to something like this?"

DEAR ABBY: I have a friend who feels a need to correct the behavior of others by writing letters. There are not too many businesses around town that haven't received one of her letters and, no doubt, others in her circle of friends have, too...

Doctors studying mental health and beliefs! Take a quick survey to help!
05/24/2021

Doctors studying mental health and beliefs! Take a quick survey to help!

Same trusted advice, new spruced-up look! Explore Dear Abby on the brand-new UExpress.
05/24/2021
Dear Abby - Life Advice

Same trusted advice, new spruced-up look! Explore Dear Abby on the brand-new UExpress.

Written by Abigail Van Buren (also known as Jeanne Phillips), Dear Abby is the most widely syndicated columnist in the world, delivering sound, compassionate advice every day.

Husband doesn't know how to communicate frustrations!"How do I handle this?"
05/21/2021

Husband doesn't know how to communicate frustrations!
"How do I handle this?"

"The thought of missing a chance to see her one last time hurts my heart. What should we do?"
05/21/2021

"The thought of missing a chance to see her one last time hurts my heart. What should we do?"

Niece is distancing herself from the truth!"What's the best way to reach out to her?"
05/20/2021

Niece is distancing herself from the truth!
"What's the best way to reach out to her?"

This stubborn husband doesn't want to take his wife's medical advice!
05/20/2021
Doctor Husband Is A Poor Patient For Nurse Wife

This stubborn husband doesn't want to take his wife's medical advice!

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Wife is considering stepping out. What should she do?
05/19/2021
35 Year Marriage Lacks One Signature Moment

Wife is considering stepping out. What should she do?

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Dear Mom Knows Better in New Jersey, Maybe the girlfriend acts that way around you and your family because you're a total bitch? As long as this girl treats your daughter well (she isn't toxic or abusive) you should stay out of your daughter's love life. Abby, I'm disappointed in you. You should encourage this hateful woman to try and embrace this girl. Maybe ask her questions, get to know her Maybe? Instead of "oh, just wait until your daughter comes home and pray she 'opens her eyes'."
Dear Abby: CDC guidelines issued in May, 2021 state, if vac- cinated people are with other vaccinated people, no one present has to wear a mask. But I do not believe the CDC guidelines go far enough, and now you have also suggested that, if they wear masks, and socially distance, the unvaccinated friends might now be permitted to attend the barbeque with their vaccinated friends. This is ill advised even though business owners, who have made business decisions valuing money over lives, have similar rules. You seem to have assumed that wearing a mask and socially distancing are equally as effective as being vaccinated in preventing the spread of COVID-19 when I have seen no medical/scientific evidence to verify this. Moreover, at a barbeque, people will remove masks when actively eating, people will handle food, most likely they will not always socially distance, they may be inside and outside a home, and the contact may last longer than customer contact at a business. The safer practices may be to insist on everyone who attends the barbeque to have been vaccinated, postponing the barbeque until at least late July, and to require even vaccinated people after late July to continue to wear masks. But even then, there is no certainty in not contracting and spreading COVID-19. Edward H. Bonacci, Jr.
Dear Abby, I have enjoyed your column for years, probably even from when you were a different Abby than you are now. But, you almost lost a fan with your response to Disturbed. My daughter was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes just shy of a month ago. We started with finger pricks every 2 to 3 hours. Recently, she was fortunate enough to be prescribed a continuous glucose monitor (cgm) which reads her blood glucose (BG) levels every 5 minutes. You can imagine this is such a relief because she doesn’t have to prick hersef so often and we have visibility into her levels; is she dropping or increasing; does she need insulin or carbohydrates to sustain life. Her CGM will send us alerts to let us know how to react so she doesn’t end up in the ICU again, or even worse, dead. That noise to which Disturbed was referring is likely alerting the diabetic coworker there is an issue with the BG which requires resolution in order to STAY ALIVE. Your response was evidence of your ignorance as it pertains to type 1 diabetes. My kid didn’t do anything wrong to get it, it is an auto-immune disorder which causes the pancreas to no longer produce insulin. That insulin carries glucose into the cells to provide energy to the cells, and subsequently, your body. Here is what your response shoukd have looked like... Dear Disturbed, I’m sorry to hear you are struggling with the noises from your coworker’s beeper. Let me tell you about diabetes and that noise you are hearing.... Understanding this can cause a disruption to your work day, I’d like to offer some ways to handle this. I suggest making outreach to your coworker to learn more a out what that noise indicates. Is there something you should do if you hear it in order to assist her? If there is something you really need to focus on, can you go into an office to complete that task? The key here is that you need to show your coworker understanding and care and change your mindset on that “noise.”
So, this was in the newspaper today. The "beeper" is a life saving medical device and it beeps to let the person know that their blood sugar is getting low and they need to eat/drink something soon. No - they can NOT be put on silent. A LOT of us diabetics are hypo unaware- which means we don't feel lows until it's almost too late. My blood sugar has gotten as low as 17 begore I noticed it once. I should've probably died that day. Glad I didn't. And now I don't have to worry about it because of my "beeper" - which is actually a Continuous Glucose Monitoring system and an insulin pump. And how dare Abby suggest that it needs to be taken to management! So sorry that a T1 diabetics LIFE SAVING MEDICAL DEVICES are bothering "Disturbed in Texas" in their damn cubicle. Get TF over it. We don't like hearing them either, but it's better than the alternative, which could be passing out or even death. You should do a little research before offering your crap advice. 🖕🏾🖕🏾🖕🏾🖕🏾
Dear Abbey Recently you posted advice about a diabetic coworker whose alarm was constantly going off and becoming an annoyance. I hate to say it, but you're wrong on this one. With the ever changing landscape of diabetic care, tools to help manage diabetes are becoming more and more popular, but sometimes training on how to properly use those tools is lacking. Those alarms mean something is not right, and it could be a number of issues: The person is having trouble managing their diabetes and getting high or low alarms, If they're on a pump, they could be having problems with that, The CGM (continuous glucose monitor) is not calibrated correctly (I never had training for mine and had to learn how to use it the hard way). In any case those alarms could be considered a cry for help. Try talking to the person - Are you OK?, ask if you can help, tell me about the alarms (what do they mean), tell me about how you manage your ISSUE (don't call it a problem or just diabetes - a lot of folks are embarrassed to say they have it). Thanks for letting me rant, DT
I'm so upset I'm shaking. I thought better of you Dear Abby. Your remark in today's column was completely tone deaf. That "beeper" that the diabetic woman wears is most likely a glucose monitor. It measures the amount of glucose in her blood. It's beeping because the co worker has either too much or too little glucose in her system. Both can be life threatening. Both need to be dealt with. The science of diabetes tell us that cognitive abilities are usually diminished when glucose levels are off. Too high and one reaction (my daughter becomes combative and won't do anything asked of her). Too low and another reaction (my daughter becomes withdrawn and weepy and very touch sensitive). Either can lead to serious medical conditions and even in some cases death. Rather than go to HR perhaps having a caring conversation with the coworker and ask what she can do "just in case" because she hears it beeping and it's concerning would get the point across just as well. But to go to the boss or HR over it makes an already difficult diagnosis socially ostracizing. Please educate your readers not just knee jerk react. Proud Mom of a Type 1 Warrior
Regarding your advice to Rocking on in Texas, holding a band together is difficult enough without you elevating one member to king of the band. While so many non-musicians think that a bass is the lowliest position in the band, most musicians understand that the bass and drums provide the foundation of a band and if they aren't tight the band has no hope of playing together as one. In the best bands major decisions are made either by the band's accepted leader or consensus. In the case of a band with an established leader it is doubtful that the leader would need to ask an outsider with no band experience for advice. My advice to Rocking on: IF you are the drummer AND you know another bass player you play well with explain the situation to other members of the band and get their approval. If you are not the drummer make a list of all the other problems associated with replacing a bass player and weigh them carefully before consulting the rest of the band. You will loose some gigs while the new bass player learns your list of songs and risk other members leaving while the band is parked.
Response to just getting by in New York: You implied PTSD goes away with proper counseling. PTSD does not go away, but with proper counseling PTSD victims and sometimes medication PTSD victims can live almost PTSD free lives. Under new stressful circumstances the PTSD can return, but the victim can cope with proper training and if necessary, additional counseling and maybe medication. Unfortunately, some PTSD victims don't experience relief with counseling and medication. Sincerely, a PTSD victim, but a fortunate one Jerry Chall-Hutchinson
Dear Abby, my boyfriend does the dishes. Not great but I'm grateful. My problem is when he does the dishes he either leaves the dish water in the sink and or Always leave the drainer Undrained. So when I go into the kitchen I always dump the yuck out of the drain. Here's the problem..he claims he Always dumps the water and drain. Ok sometimes he dumps the water out but I swear he never dumps the yuck out of the dish strainer. It always turns into a big argument. So I been leaving it alone. But then we started having ants so I got frustrated and said something..again..a argument and he claims he clean the drain. So I yelled and said if your not gonna clean the kitchen right don't bother. Should I just be grateful he does dishes once maybe twice a week and just finish up when he's done and move on??
Dear Abby, I just read your post concerning a couple that has multiple miscarriages. The husband wants to stop due to the emotional toll on his wife. Though I agree with everything you said there is one element no one mentioned; the emotional toll of the husband. I am sure it not only tears him apart to see his wife in an emotional crisis, but this was his child as well. He may be trying to put forward a front for his wife but his wish not to continue may also be his emotional fallout. The tearing of one's heart strings continual over the years may be approaching the point of no return and this may be his way of saying please stop knowing this unfortunate circumstance is the fault of no one. I am just saying do not forget the loving partner who is trying their best to be a good spouse.