08/03/2025
Aita for telling my ex it’s not my fault his life turned out like that?
I swear my ex does anything to get my attention, he can never leave stuff alone. He still hasn’t moved on, and that’s sad because it’s desparate and annoying.
Op(26F) Oakley(27M)
My ex boyfriend, Oakley. We’re no longer together, but we do share a son. We knew each other since high school, went into adult hood with each other. I was thinking he was my high school’s sweetheart, like in the movies but boy was he a good liar. When our son was 2, I found out he was expecting a baby with some girl. I ended it right there, he would come up with every excuse in the book to get me back.
Anyways, we share custody and some days it’s okay. It’s been 6 years since that happened, I do know his daughter mother is not in her life but during that time it was a big plot twist, his daughter isn’t actually his. But he can’t do anything about it because he’s been raising her. So my son sister birthday was this weekend, Oakley asked if he can keep him for some hours for the birthday party. I agreed and got my son dressed, Oakley was picking him up, and I was going to get him after.
I did check in to make sure he’s okay, it was the time the party was ending. I did get their 5 minutes early, my son was so tired. Oakley put our son in the car since he was sleeping, but Oakley wanted to talk. I was thinking of going to be about our son, or our parenting skills. It wasn’t, he just felt so comfortable to dump his issues on me.
He started telling me that he has it hard right now, he’s lonely, so is his daughter. I just asked if he was finished because I didn’t care, and wanted to get home to sleep for work. He got upset because I wasn’t giving him my time, if I don’t show that I care he gets all pissy for no reason. He asked me how do I feel about it, like he wanted me to agree with him. I just told him it’s not my fault his life turned that way.