Itz Not About You

Itz Not About You Parenting with purpose. Building character. Strengthening families.

04/01/2026

This is why I don't just wing it. And still not everything goes as planned… and honestly—this is usually how it actually looks

03/22/2026

We take too much personally as parents.

If your child doesn’t like the food you made or doesn’t want to wear what you picked, that’s not rejection — it’s preference.

But this doesn’t mean we step back from leading.
There’s a difference between preferences and principles.
We guide. We teach. We set boundaries.
We just don’t make our kids responsible for our emotions in the process.

When we stop taking things personally, we create more peace in our homes.

03/14/2026

One of the most freeing things we can realize in life is that not everything is about us.

Not every tone, reaction, or comment is aimed at us.
Someone cuts us off in traffic.
Someone is distracted at work.
Someone makes a comment we don’t agree with.

Most of the time, it has nothing to do with us at all.
When we stop inserting ourselves into every situation, we free ourselves from unnecessary frustration and offense.

Sometimes the healthiest thing we can do is simply remind ourselves:
It’s not about me — and move on.






03/11/2026

Sometimes people try to make their frustration someone else’s burden.

In this video I share two small experiences that highlight an important principle:
We can show kindness and understanding without letting someone else’s bad day become our bad day.

Healthy boundaries are an important part of character and personal responsibility.



03/07/2026

When I was young, our community put on the play Cinderella. Each girl was asked to write down her top three role choices.

Apparently, I was the only one who didn’t put “Cinderella” on my list.

The director came up to me and asked why.

I simply said, “Cinderella has blonde hair.”

She tried to reassure me that Cinderella could have brown hair, but I wasn’t interested. I knew I wasn’t Cinderella—and I was okay with that.

Some might say that kind of thinking limits us. But I’ve come to believe there’s something really healthy about accepting not only who we are, but also who we aren’t.

Not every role in the world needs to be reshaped to fit us personally. The world is full of variety, and that’s a good thing.

Sometimes the healthiest thing we can remember is this:
Not everything has to be about us.



03/04/2026

Sometimes we’re so worried about making the wrong choice that we stop moving forward altogether. We look to God for reassurance at every step, asking, “Is this okay? What about this?”

But God didn’t intend for us to live paralyzed by fear of mistakes. He gives us principles to guide us—and then expects us to live, choose, and grow.

Our lives are not meant to be a constant search for permission. They are meant to be lived with faith, wisdom, and confidence in who we are.










02/28/2026

We’ve confused kindness with passivity.

Judging isn’t about feeling superior — it’s about discernment.

It’s recognizing what isn’t safe for us, what pulls us away from our principles, and what crosses our boundaries.

Being judgmental is condemning others.

Judging wisely is protecting your worth and your vulnerabilities.

Wise judgment says, “This isn’t healthy for me.”
Being judgmental says, “I’m better than you.”

We must judge so we can live wisely and protect what matters.






02/12/2026

Kung Fu Panda 2 played a role in shaping how we think about our home.

We wanted inner peace—for ourselves and our children.

Over time, we realized we needed fewer goals, not more.

So we simplified everything into three:
• Build a relationship with God
• Build confidence in self
• Build an appreciation for others

These three work together. When one is off, we feel it—comparison, defensiveness, or a lack of peace.

This framework doesn’t magically fix every conflict, but it helps us self-reflect and reset.

When things feel off in our home, we check our triangle.


02/06/2026

When I taught school, I learned the importance of clear objectives.

Parenting taught me the same lesson—just louder and with less sleep.

"It’s not about you," is our way of refocusing when life gets messy and we’re tempted to choose convenience over growth.

02/04/2026

I learned an interesting lesson at the pool one day.

Same problem.

Same request.

Two very different outcomes.

The difference wasn’t the message—it was authority and influence.

This concept has changed how I approach parenting, conflict, and even everyday frustrations. Thought it might help someone else too.



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