07/12/2026
The longer Iām pregnant, the more I notice how often people skip over someoneās present to talk about their future.
āJust wait until labor...ā
āJust wait until the sleepless nights...ā
āJust wait until sheās crawling...ā
I know these comments are usually well-intended. Theyāre often someoneās way of relating through their own experience.
But sometimes I wonder if weāve forgotten how to simply be with someone in the season theyāre actually living.
One of the greatest gifts my breathwork training gave me wasnāt just learning how to regulate my own nervous system.
It taught me how to set my own thoughts, stories, and experiences aside long enough to truly be present with someone elseās.
To listen without jumping ahead.
To resist making their moment about my past.
To meet people where they are instead of where I imagine theyāre headed.
Is that always easy?
Not at all.
Itās a practice.
But Iāve learned that presence is one of the greatest gifts we can give another person.
So at 28 weeks pregnant, Iām not trying to prepare for newborn sleep deprivation, toddler tantrums, or the next hundred milestones.
Iām preparing for the third trimester.
Because Matthew 6:34 reminds us:
āTherefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.ā
Iām choosing to be fully here.
And when those next seasons arrive...
Iāll embrace them then, trusting my God-given gut š¤.
What about you?
Have you ever felt like people skipped over your present to prepare you for your future?
