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AITAH WIBTA, New Brunswick, NJ (2026)

06/17/2026

AITA for ignoring a manager's texts (and WIBTA for blocking his number)?

Me (26F) and my brother Mike (24M) work in different areas of the same company. Each area has its own manager. My manager is great respectful of my time and boundaries.

Mike's manager, Gary (around 45 50M), is... not. He's a fun, slightly ditzy guy, but he has a habit of texting me when he needs Mike to cover shifts.

This started years ago when Mike turned off notifications for our work app and rarely answered calls. Since I'm on my phone a lot and my brother is chronically offline, Gary started messaging me instead. Mike had to leave during COVID for family reasons, came back later, and had to fight for a wage still lower than his coworkers'.

He's also the only one in his area who knows how to do everything and ends up stuck with the worst shifts. Eventually, he told management he'd quit unless he got a raise and a more consistent schedule. Mike asked not to be messaged about extra shifts, saying they could talk to him in person due to anxiety.

They agreed. He got a raise ($0.50 less than he asked for) but stayed because they initially respected the new schedule. That lasted two weeks.

Then Gary started asking me again. And here's the kicker: since the rehire, Gary always messages me first, and only me, clearly assuming I'll pass the message along in person since Mike doesn't check his phone. I get that now hearing about the anxiety conversation they had, but it's so annoying.

I've told my coworkers and Gary himself that I hate being the middleman. I'm not Mike's assistant. But yesterday, while I was working, Gary texted, 'Can...

06/17/2026

AITA for telling my friend all her photos were not a truthful representation of her appearance after she kept saying things about my pictures?

I have a friend that is known to be pretty critical of things. She’s very blunt, and if I didn’t know her like I do, I would be way more offended by what she says. I feel it’s also relevant to mention she’s pretty overweight and overall insecure of her appearance. She has health problems that do contribute to this though. I also feel it’s relevant to say she hasn’t seen me in person in a year or two.

Anyways, I recently lost about ten pounds by going to the gym and a healthier diet (I wasn’t really overweight but you can tell I have lost weight and gained muscle). I also have began doing teeth whitening, doing my makeup more often, and keeping myself well “groomed” as far as getting my hair done, eyebrows waxed, etc. My sister calls it a “glow up” which I don’t really consider it to be, I’ve just started caring about things I didn’t care about before that improve my overall appearance in small ways.

When I take photos for social media, I don’t change anything about them other than adding a color filter on the photo to make it look brighter through the Lightroom app. I don’t do any other editing. My friend on the other hand uses an editing app to smooth her skin, whiten her teeth, make her face look slimmer, and give her hair more shine and volume.

I never say anything about it because it’s just not my business and who cares. However, anytime I post a photo, my friend makes some kind of comment on how “weird” my face looks. Just yesterday she said my photo looked like “someone made...

06/17/2026

AITA for yelling at my family after they mocked my wife OCD?

Throwaway for privacy

My wife has severe OCD. It take as toll on her and her self esteem so much. She only goes to my family’s house when she has to she and then aren’t very close.

My family have been over my house multiple times and my wife is always cleaning, she will clean things 4,5,6 times sometimes more she will open and close the cabinets and fridge door or she will tuck in her hands to her sleeves like sweater paws whenever she opens a door. She will randomly get up from the table and do different things like fix the shoe rack put out dogs leashes and collars in order ect. It does not bother me, just something she can’t control.

Yesterday was her birthday. family were adamant about them coming over. My mom brother aunt uncle and younger sister, When we got to the present part, my wife opened them. And they explained what each were for.

Gloves, she needs to wear them all the time since she acts like she can’t open a door without them
Hand soap, since she washes her hands all the time and acts like she could die without it
Lotion because she wash’s a her hands so much that they look disgusting
Cleaning supplies (three bags of it) since she’s always cleaning so much we got you some to clean our house. We need a good cleaner.

My wife was holding back tears and I stopped them before they would give another s__tty gift. My wife got up and went to the bathroom.

I told my mom that it’s ridiculous of her to do this when her...

06/17/2026

AITAH for siding with my husband and not with my kids?

Okay, I know the title sounds bad, but for some context I (36F) have twins with my ex (42M), a girl, Olivia, and a boy, Enzo, who are now sixteen years old. My ex is one hell of an a__hole. We ended our relationship because he had cheated on me while I was pregnant, and not happy with that, he never paid child support and was absent from their lives most of the time, only coming back once or twice during the year to play the fun dad, but well, of course his absence affected my kids a

lot. Anyway, when Olivia and Enzo were a year old, I reconnected with an ex from highschool Ian (36M), and we started dating. The main reason we had broken up is that I wanted kids in the future and he wasn't sure, and since two seemed more than enough for me, that problem was out of the way.

Ian wasn't involved at first with Olivia and Enzo, but after we moved in together over two years later, he begin to help me with them without me having to ask, which I was really grateful for, and they eventually formed a bond. We got married, and Olivia and Enzo called Ian 'dad' for as long as I can remember, although they always knew he wasn't their biological father. Ian and I make the same amount of money, and we live in a house I inherited from my father, and Ian only earns a bit less than me, there's not a big difference.

With time, my ex went from showing up once or twice a year to not showing up at all for a couple of...

06/17/2026

AITA for filing a conduct report on a coworker who had an emotional breakdown?

A coworker experienced a death in their immediate family. The day they returned to work (after taking a few days off for compassionate leave) at some point towards the end of the day as they were doing a task, I asked if they could try doing the task in ‘x’ way instead.

The worker, EXPLODED at me and yelled at me about their “dead” family member and how they just want to scream and cry etc. etc. and “DONT TELL ME WHAT TO DO!”
I was …terrified and shocked.

I called our manager in to calm my coworker down and our manager encouraged them to go home, they refused, so our manager told them if they were insistent on staying, they would have to apologise to me.

They apologised to me by apologising for their family member dying. And again, I was shocked and so uncomfortable and… disgusted?
I explained to them that I’m sorry to hear about the death in their family, however that is not my issue and if something in their personal life is preventing them from doing their work and they believe they are allowed to speak to me in that way because of what is happening in their personal life, then it’s probably for the best that they go home. The coworker cut me off and said “I’ve said I’m sorry, that’s it, done! I’m not having a conversation about it”

I ended up filing a conduct report on this person.

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Edited to add: we work with children under 4, this happened in front of them.
Our priority is to supervise them first and foremost.

06/16/2026

AITA for refusing to help a girl who made fun of me?

There's a girl in my class (well online class now) who I talk to often, we formed an after school zoom group study since we can't go to classes in person anymore.

I will admit I do like her a lot but I don't think I could ever ask her out, her ex was what every woman finds attractive (6'2", handsome,) and then there's unattractive me standing at a disappointing 5'6".

She struggles a with math but has scrapped by because her ex used to help her but well he doesn't anymore. She asked me a few days ago if I could help her because she's really struggling this time and didn't want to pay for tutoring and wasn't understanding it by watching online videos so I agreed.

Like 3 or 4 days ago in our study session one of her friends noted that we had been spending a lot of time together and made a joke about us being together. She responded by saying "nah, he's not tall enough for this ride" which caught a few laughs.

I laughed a long with them but it was embarrassing and it actually hurt, since than I have ignored her calls. We have a test coming up and I know the right thing would be to help her, but I can't bring myself to do it.

Am I the a__hole?

06/16/2026

AITA for saying my mom's husband isn't my dad and saying I never got to meet my dad?

My dad died when my mom was pregnant with me (17f). She told me about him growing up and we have little traditions we keep to honor him and she also named me the name he wanted for a daughter. I always spent time with my dad's family in the summer and they'd travel to see me or we'd travel to see them when we could.

So even though I never got to meet him I still consider him my dad, you know? When I was 13 she introduced me to James and they got married when I was 14. To me James is my mom's husband but I guess he sees me as his daughter and he's been hurt for years that I call him James, that I never gave him a dad-like nickname or title.

I didn't know about it until we went on vacation last month. My mom and James met this couple and we had dinner with their family. I was talking to their two kids who were pretty close in age to me and they asked why I called him James and wasn't he my dead and I said he's not my dad he's married to my mom.

They asked what happened to my dad and I told him I never got to meet my dad because he died while my mom was pregnant with me. We talked about other things. But when we got back to the resort my mom pulled me into my room and asked me why I'd say that stuff at dinner.

I had to ask her what she meant because I had no idea what was going on. She said James'...

06/16/2026

AITA for telling my coworker her quirky lunch habit is really distracting?

I work in an office with about 15 people. One of my coworkers has this habit of narrating everything she's eating out loud. Not in a joking way.

She'll literally say stuff like: 'Mmm, spicy little pickle today' 'Okay, let's give this baby carrot a crunch' Or my personal favorite: 'What's that? You're just a sad sandwich? Don't worry, I'm gonna eat you anyway.' I thought it was funny at first, but it happens every single day and it's getting kind of weird.

She's not talking to anyone btw. She just narrates it to herself like she's doing voiceover for her own cooking show. Last week during lunch break, I finally said this to her: 'Hey, no offense, but do you realize you talk to your food out loud every day?' She just laughed it off but seemed pretty embarrassed about it.

Now she barely says anything at lunch and a few coworkers said I killed the vibe and that she was just being quirky. I feel kind of bad now. Ididn't mean to shame her, but it was honestly getting distracting and hard to ignore.

AITA for saying something?

06/16/2026

Would He Be Wrong to Sue for Custody of His Son?

Me and my ex have been divorced for 2 years now and we have a 16yr son.

I let him be very independent as he likes it. He wakes himself up, he cooks for himself(breakfast and lunch but not dinner),he makes sure he is on time for things,and i let him go out with his car sometimes to maybe get food or just a stroll. But he has been complaining about his mom being controlling.

He tells me she makes him go to bed at 10pm and wake up at 8am every time he goes there. He has to get off all electronics by 8pm and from 8pm to 9pm he has to read. Then 9-10 he has time to watch tv untill he has to turn it off. I felt super bad because he is 16 following rules for a 10yr. He also has to clean the whole house when he goes over even though he only goes to the house every 2 weeks. He has told me he hates it there. He has told me he wants to live with me full time but the problem is he has to be 17 to completely choose. The only way i can do that is if i sue.

I would do that for him as he is my son and i will do anything for him but i also want him to have a retaliationship with his mom. If i sue she only gets supervised visitation which i think is kinda unfair to her. I feel like i would be TA and diminish their relationship but i also feel as if i should do it for my son. Wibta if i do?

06/16/2026

AITA for not letting my sisters BF move in even though technically she pays rent and has full say?

I'm at a loss. Angel and devil on my shoulder situation. I'm 37F, my baby sister is 18 (almost 19). I was 19 when she was born and she is my only sibling. My mom had no business having children. Both my sister and I were born with withdrawals. I ran away when I was 14 and didnt look back. She never looked for me until she had my sister, where she proceeded to say that she didnt want her. I told her to bring me the baby and that night she dropped my sister off on my doorstep. Literally. After many years of legal battles, I finally was awarded full custody of her and finalized the adoption paperwork a short 3 months later. She knows she is technically my sister but she calls me mom and I call her my daughter.

So.. I willingly gave up everything for my sister. I wanted to. I knew from the moment I laid eyes on her as an infant that this little girl.. she was just everything to me and I was going to do everything in my power to make sure she had a better life than I did. That's exactly what I did. She went to one of the best schools around, got a full scholarship to college when she graduated a year early after skipping ahead a grade. She is such a brilliant girl. Now, throughout all of this, I have never been "strict". She gave me no reason to be. She was such an easy going kid. She works full time and lives in my inlaw apartment, connected to my house. She pays her portion of the rent, all that.

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