10/30/2025
“I’ve been on the receiving end of violence more than once; sometimes I’ve had to submit to it, sometimes I’ve successfully fought back and escaped it. Because of my bodily experience, I’ve become attuned to subtle social cues of possible violence: a look in the eyes, a tightening of the jaw, a way of moving or of speaking that precedes rage or cold, deliberate cruelty. I’m aware of its presence in a way that perhaps most people in my social strata are not. I have a reliable (I hope!) sense of when to be afraid and when somebody’s just loudly venting or screwing around.”
Mary Gaitskill in an essay that appeared in the Summer 2025 issue of The Point.
http://harpers.org/archive/2025/11/harms-way-mary-gaitskill-violence/