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Vida Forward Parenting Coach

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07/27/2025

Is teenagers having cell phones really the Problem? Let’s talk about it!
What’s your biggest challenge with phone boundaries?
Drop it in the comments 👇🏾

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07/20/2025

When unresolved trauma goes unspoken, it often shows up as anger damaging
the very relationships we want to protect.

But healing is possible.
Through:
-emotional awareness, mindful pausing, and intentional repair,
families can break old cycles and build new patterns rooted in understanding, safety, and love.

The discipline to heal begins with the courage to look within.

06/30/2025

It’s time to break the cycle from struggling with father wounds and get the healing you deserve

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06/10/2025

Most People Stay Trauma
Bonded Until They Understand These 5
Devastating Truths…

1. Familiarity Feels Safer Than Freedom

People often mistake familiar pain for emotional safety. When chaos, criticism, or codependence feels “normal,” healthy relationships feel uncomfortable or boring.

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2. They Confuse Intensity with Love

The highs and lows of a trauma bond mimic addictive cycles—dopamine surges during makeups make them feel deeply “connected,” when in reality, it’s just emotional whiplash.

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3. Their Self-Worth Was Shaped in Survival

If someone grew up having to earn love through pleasing, fixing, or enduring, they may believe they must suffer to be loved. The trauma bond feels like a test they must pass to finally be enough.

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4. They Keep Hoping the Person Will Change

Most trauma bonds are held together by false hope. The person isn’t being loved as they are—they’re being loved for their potential. This keeps them trapped in a cycle of “maybe next time.”

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5. They Mistake Loyalty for Healing

Staying in pain to prove you’re committed isn’t healing, it’s self-abandonment. But many trauma-bonded individuals fear that walking away means they failed or gave up too soon.

Many people stay trauma bonded not because they don’t see the truth—but because the pain feels familiar, the hope feels addictive, and walking away feels like failure. Healing starts when you choose peace over patterns.

We Got This,
We are here for each other. Let’s begin to heal now. 🫂🌷

06/04/2025

You can change your life to be exactly how you want it to be. No matter your circumstances, skin color or where you come from. If You Change, Everything Will Change For You. 🌷🫂💕

06/01/2025

You can help heal your inner child from childhood trauma alongside raising your own children. Here’s how I do it.

1. I Play Together Freely with my Children. When my kids wanted to play, I build forts with them, I danced around wildly with them, I sometimes pretended that they invited me to let go and have fun too. I will run, laugh and scream all over the house playing hide and go seek with them, I will make myself be silly with them and talk about Finn the Human in Adventure Time show for hours. I work on reclaiming the joy of childhood that I was once denied.

2. I Honor my Emotions Alongside my Children’s When my children get upset, I pause and check in with my own feelings first because I DO NOT WANT TO REPEAT MY CHILDHOOD WITH MY CHILDREN During my childhood, I wasn’t allowed to show being upset, because that meant being spoiled or being disrespectful. When I first became a mother, I used to judge my children the same way but then I learned that that is NOT the way to treat a human being!! I changed that behavior by working with my child self. Now when my child is upset, I will speak to my little Vida self first, as if she was standing right there next to my small child. I will give her the same compassion I offer my children. I will say out loud, “It’s okay Vida, it’s okay to feel overwhelmed, it’s okay to be upset, I’m here for you too.” I will say it out loud, my children when they were younger used to asked me who was I talking to. 😂

3. I Reparent myself in the current Moments that the opportunity happens When I notice myself reacting harshly, I stop myself and I ask myself “What would I have needed to hear as a child in this situation?” In the middle of being seriously mad at my child, I will sometimes grab my own arm to wake myself up from that trance of anger and the I will asked myself the question again, “how would you have wanted to be treated when you where this age? Then I will say it out aloud to my child so that I can hear it out loud too.

My friends, Healing happens in real-time. It’s the actions you take in the real moments that allow for extraordinary change in your life.

05/08/2025

You may not have received emotional nurturing, tenderness, or encouragement growing up...

But that doesn't mean you can't give it.
It means you understand its value even more.
I believe in you that you can do it. Because if I can do it, You Can Do It Too!
Be the cycle creator.
The one who waters futures.
The one who plants what wasn't planted for you.

Your coming generation is depending on you and you can do it.
You are not broken, you are becoming the best you that you can be while creating a legacy for your family. 💕

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