08/13/2025
Are you anxious, avoidant, or secure? What we don’t talk about enough is how those labels can change. In today’s increasingly bleak dating scene — where 1.4 million people left dating apps in 2024 and 78% say they’re exhausted by them — people who once approached relationships anxiously are now leaning avoidant: years of dating disappointments have hardened them.
If you follow pop psychology, you’ve probably seen these terms from attachment theory: anxious (fearing abandonment), avoidant (avoiding connection to self-protect), and secure (balanced and trusting). It’s not perfect, but it’s a useful shorthand for how we connect to others.
At the link in bio, talks to experts about the anxious-to-avoidant pipeline — and how to move toward a more secure attachment style.
Do you think your attachment style has changed over time?