10/31/2024
We’ve felt strongly about this since we first had our little man, and got bombarded by people telling us that our marriage would suffer if we didn’t spend time away from him…
Why does the success of my marriage depend on a separation from the very product of our love? And what does that teach our son? That something about his very presence detracts from our ability to have a happy marriage?
I want him to grow up and have watched our marriage thrive BECAUSE of him. I want him to know that having children isn’t the end of your marriage, but a beautiful new chapter. Sure, it takes creativity and intentionality to find pockets of time for us without sacrificing family time (and we still do date nights, but we save them for special occasions)… but it’s worth it. We were entrusted this little life, and we want to do whatever we can to ensure that we are raising him well and in a way that honors God.
So to the mama wondering what’s wrong with her that she and her husband DON’T feel the need to create space from their child in order to have a healthy marriage… it’s okay, you aren’t wrong. We just live in a society that encourages separation far too often, and attachment has somehow become a negative thing. ❤️
