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09/16/2026

The laws themselves do not say men should have less access to their kids. On paper, family court is neutral. The words on the page do not favor one parent over the other. That is not the story once the doors close and the actual behavior of the room takes over.

The behavior of the court shows a huge amount of bias. As a man walking into a hearing, I had false information submitted against me by the other side. Documented false information. The kind of thing that should have been dismantled the moment it hit the record. Instead the motion I filed was denied, and the bias built into how the room read the case did most of the heavy lifting. That is not a unique story. It is a story a lot of people, mostly fathers but not exclusively, share the moment you get them talking about what actually happened inside their case.

This has to change.

There have to be laws written specifically to remove the bias in how these cases are heard. There have to be evidence standards that treat both sides equally regardless of which parent is making the claim. There have to be real consequences when the false information is exposed for what it was. There have to be checks on the discretion judges bring into rooms they are supposed to keep neutral.

The system as it currently stands is broken. Neutral language on the page does not fix a courtroom that behaves biased in practice. Fixing the paper is not enough. The behavior itself has to be reformed, measured, and held accountable.

Every child in this country deserves reasonable access to both parents whenever it is safe and possible. Fathers included. Mothers included. Parents included. Bias out.

09/15/2026

Voices for the Children - Denver.

Saturday, September 26, 2026.
12:00 PM.
West steps of the Colorado State Capitol Building.
200 E. Colfax Avenue, Denver, CO.

Speakers:
Bobby Brandzen
Chance Moore
Carl Roberts - Colorado Resilience

Hosted in partnership with COR Colorado Resilience.

Come by. Bring your story. Bring a friend. Your voice matters.

Children. Families. Stronger communities.

09/15/2026

Come find us Wednesday morning.

Providence Family Court
1 Dorrance Street, Providence, RI
Every Wednesday at 8:20 AM

Pamphlets in hand. Right before the doors open at 8:30. Bring your story. Bring a friend. Be there.

09/14/2026

How have we not yet revised the Revenue Model that is Family Court???!!!

09/14/2026

Being an alienated parent is one of the hardest things a person can carry.

The worst of it is what it does to the child. Not being there. Not being the one who tucks them in, hears about their day, or catches the version of them nobody else sees. And on top of that, knowing that the absence is not neutral. It leaves a mark. Kids who grow up separated from a loving parent carry higher rates of anxiety, depression, trust issues, and identity confusion. You know that. You watch it happen in real time from a distance you did not choose, and there is very little you can do about it while the system runs its course.

Socially, the second layer of pain is the stigma. The minute you mention you do not have full access to your child, people assume you must have done something to earn it. That assumption is baked in. Almost nobody stops to consider that the system makes it extremely easy to alienate a parent who did nothing wrong, or that not having access to one of your kids is far more common than people realize. So the alienated parent stays quiet to avoid the judgment. The silence gets read as guilt. The alienator gets to keep operating.

All you can do while the fight for reform continues is refuse to disappear. Show up when you can. Document what you can. Keep loving that child from wherever you are standing. Become the best version of yourself so that when the door finally opens, they meet the parent you always were. You are not alone in this. And neither are they.

09/13/2026

Standing outside Providence Family Court and someone walking past asked me if I was a lawyer.

Quite the opposite.

I am not making money off any of this. I am not profiting off families getting torn apart. I am not billing anyone by the hour. I am standing on this sidewalk with a stack of pamphlets trying to get more children reasonable access to both of their parents. That is the entire pitch.

Here is the part that never stops being interesting. When people hear the actual message, the agreement is almost unanimous. Grandparents nod. Parents nod. Strangers walking to their car nod. Even attorneys and officers walking into the building often nod when they think nobody is watching. The message is not controversial. Kids deserve both parents when it is safe and possible. Almost everyone agrees.

Yet the systems that make these decisions do not reflect that agreement. State laws are still catching up. Federal funding formulas still quietly work against it. Courtrooms still reward the loudest allegation over the strongest evidence. Between the general public and the policy, there is a huge gap that needs to be closed.

We are not stopping until that gap is closed.

That looks like specific things. 50/50 shared parenting as the legal starting point in every state. Robert Garza's portfolio of bills passing in state after state. The full abolishment of Title IV-D at the federal level so the funding formula stops rewarding conflict. Real accountability inside family courtrooms. Real consequences for lying under oath. Real reform.

If you agree with the message, you are already on our side. All that is left is to make it loud enough that the systems finally have to catch up.

09/13/2026

You are not alone.

When I first walked into family court, I had no idea how skewed the system really was. I went in expecting something close to justice. Truth on the table, decisions made in the child's best interest, both sides heard fairly. That is not what I found. It took a very short time and a little research to realize the experience I was living through was not unique. Every state. Every county. Every kind of family. The same broken pattern showing up over and over again.

The consensus, once you start reading, is impossible to miss. The system is broken. Judges bring bias into rooms they are supposed to keep neutral. Lawyers profit from every extra hour a case stays open. Children pay for all of it. Not with money. With time. With stability. With one of their parents.

Your voice alone will not change any of that. That is the hard truth. One person walking into a state legislator's office once does not shift the map. Hundreds of voices do. Thousands do. A movement built out of individual people who decided they were not going to sit quietly while the same broken pattern happened to the next family and the next family and the next family, absolutely does.

That is what this is. A movement.

Change is going to look like specific things. Bills getting enacted in state after state until 50/50 shared parenting is the legal presumption, not the exception. Title IV-D reform at the federal level so the funding formula stops rewarding conflict over cooperation. Consequences for lying in family court. Real accountability for judges. Mediation as the default instead of the afterthought. The bills are already written. Robert Garza's portfolio is public. The playbook is on the table.

Everything from here is a numbers game. Constituents outnumbering the people benefiting from the current system. Constituents making noise loud enough that legislators cannot pretend the issue does not exist. Constituents refusing to accept "no" or "not right now" as a final answer.

Join the movement. Speak up. Use your voice. Call your rep. Email your senator. Show up at a rally. Hand out a pamphlet at your local courthouse. Post a story. Send a DM. Do the smallest thing you can commit to today, then do another one tomorrow.

The children need us. Every child in this country deserves reasonable access to both parents whenever it is safe and possible. That is the mission. That is the whole conversation.

You are not alone in this. Neither are they.

09/12/2026

The Voices for the Children Tour is coming to Colorado.

Saturday, September 26.

In the morning I will be running a half marathon to build awareness for parental alienation and family court reform. That is one part of the day. The bigger part comes right after.

At 2 PM, we host the rally.

Lindsey Flanigan Courthouse. Denver, Colorado.

If you are in the area, come share your story. Alienated parents, grandparents, siblings, stepparents, adult children who lived through it, and anyone with something to say about how family court is treating families in this state. This is your microphone. If you are not the one who wants to speak, come support. Fill the space. Add your presence to the count. There is power in numbers. There is power in community. There is power in a room full of people standing for the same thing at the same time in the same city.

If you want to help fuel the mission and cannot be there in person, you can donate at mothersandfatherstrulymatter.org. Every dollar goes back into the pamphlets, the races, the rallies, and the advocacy work that pushes 50/50 shared parenting through state legislatures.

Colorado, come find us at 2 PM. Bring your story. Bring a friend. Every child deserves reasonable access to both parents whenever it is safe and possible.

09/11/2026

Every Wednesday from 8:20 to 10:30 a.m., we show up in front of Providence Family Court and advocate for every child's right to reasonable access to both parents.

Join us or ask us how you can start doing similar work.

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