06/16/2026
Most people imagine mental illness in a man like the stereotypical….sitting in a dark room, unable to get out of bed, openly talking about his depression, anxiety, or trauma.
But that's not what I ever see.
What I see are good men who are suffering, but neither they nor the people around them recognize it as true suffering…because men are really good at faking it.
To the wives reading this:
I know these behaviors can be incredibly frustrating…they can leave you feeling unseen, disconnected, controlled, criticized, or alone in your marriage.
This isn't an excuse for unhealthy behavior…but sometimes the husband you're experiencing isn't simply stubborn, selfish, or unwilling…sometimes he’s struggling with real mental illness but he just knows how to hide it.
Sometimes he's been taught his entire life that strength means suppressing weakness, hiding emotions, and pushing through pain.
If you’re a man reading this, you know exactly what I’m talking about. Please reach out if you need support.
