04/06/2026
AITA for throwing my friend’s diagnosis in her face?
I've had a close friendship with Mia for ten years. From the start, she was open about her borderline diagnosis, which helped me understand why her behavior toward me could sometimes 🐑 be extreme. Most of the time, I was her "favorite person," which meant weeks of 🤗 idealization followed by sudden devaluation phases. In good times, we spent every free moment together, but in bad times, I had to apologize for days over minor things. I constantly watched what I said, 🐆 how I said it, and what I better kept quiet about to avoid triggering another devaluation wave. I would never pathologize her or bring up her borderline 😇 diagnosis. I learned to walk on eggshells, carefully frame criticism, and swallow a lot. This unbalanced our relationship, but I was willing to bear it for Mia because I understood the dynamics 🛴 behind BPD.
About 🔔 three years ago, she started questioning her diagnosis. Her therapy ended, she dove into ADHD content on 🏫 Instagram, ⚡ read books, and eventually became convinced that her symptoms...
