01/16/2026
AITAH for not giving my mom my bank account?
So for background context, I’m a 26 year old female, I just graduated uni and got a full time job. I’m making real money for the first time in my life. I was born here but I’m Asian background. My Asian mom wants me to give her my bank details because she wants to “manage it” and thinks that I don’t know how to manage my own money/finances. When she asked for my bank details, I got so angry and refused to give it. She always bi***es at me when I spend my OWN money that I worked for on myself. She has always spent money overseas to her useless scam family members. I remember in grade 7 when I didn’t have a phone myself, she bought a brand new iPhone for her brother who takes advantage of her. She has always helped useless family members with their down payments/ car payments. I’m not allowing her to send my hard earned money to other people. She always complains when I spend the tiniest amount of money on myself. But has no problem sending money to other people.
If she has my bank account, she’ll know where I’m going, how much I’m spending, etc. she used to have my bank account in high school, and it was just sooo annoying having to explain every little thing. I know if I refuse to give my account to her, it will strain our relationship big time. I will support her financially/pay rent cause I’m living with her, but I don’t believe she has the right to my bank account.
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