TrAsh Talk VA Podcast

07/21/2024

A brilliant quote 📚 if you’re a fan, you’re gonna know where from 💙

06/21/2024

The trauma anyone goes through is enough to cause mindsets around the globe to change forever- you never go back to who you were before.

In these moments, support is essential. You rarely see anyone talk about the LACK of support from those claiming or posting that survivors should speak out or not hide their feelings.
Survivors shouldn’t have to hide or shy away from the truth of what the survivor is going through. Ever.
Then, unfortunately, when someone finally gets enough courage to do so, they are shunned.
Degraded.

When we look at these scenarios- it almost feels as if the ones around the survivor claim to care and be supportive- until the survivor finally gets the courage to leave. As if those around them just wanted a sick reason to speak poorly of the survivor.
That’s absolutely awful and sickening.

Gossiping is NOT HELPING.
Believing the abuser? IS NOT HELPING.
It happened to us, too. It’s happened to many. It’s downright disgraceful!
There needs to be change in this world regarding so many things, and this is one of them.
To the individual reading this:
I hope you are the exception.
I hope you are what the world desperately needs.
I hope you are the person you want in your corner when you go through your darkest times.
I hope you have empathy enough not to add fuel to a blazing fire of ignorance.

Be better. Be the change.
Believe the survivor.
All it takes is for anyone to listen to them. To bond with them. To encourage them and let them know in many more ways than one- that they aren’t alone. That what they went through was awful but it’ll all be okay.
Cause more than ever? The beginning is the hardest. Don’t add to what’s already not an easy process.

Be the friend to someone else when you needed the support and help the most. ✌🏼

Stay safe out there.

06/12/2024

When we here at TrAshTalk went through a lot of our own issues from the slandering of our characters in 2021- this was the top one that really hit home.
“Smear Campaigning”.
A lot of sideways comments, conversations, and unnecessary drama resulted from ridding ourselves of having toxic relationships, and having backlash from finally standing our ground and setting boundaries. Each one of us excuses for said poorly behaved individuals instead of being honest with ourselves that we made a mistake in trusting a type of character 😂

We all live and learn. We just decided to do it the hard way.

Many believed the false narrative until they saw the truth of these individuals themselves, OR it happened to them. Then, the ones against us? The ones so quick to believe the lies? The ones who ADDED instead of helping? Were looking around wondering where their own support was.
Life has a funny way of humbling you, the same way it does for any one of us.

Moral of the story: stay in your lane. Support people and stop adding fuel to the fire. They’re going through enough without you adding another layer to their problems. You never know when your turn is gonna come, cause trust me, nobody ever knows what obstacles come our way.
Life’s funny like that.

Choose to treat others the way you wanna be treated.

05/28/2024

05/23/2024

Taking accountability is a huge part in a healthy mindset.
It’s growth, and it’s important to remember how you’d want to be treated in the same situation.
Even if it’s unintentional, validate someone who is communicating to you about how they’re feeling.

05/14/2024

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05/08/2024

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04/06/2024

So, so true.
This goes for really any relationship/friendship/partner/family/the works.

It’s what keeps us from making the hard decisions. We think by standing our ground, putting in the extra work, and setting boundaries, that we’re putting too much pressure on said relationship. Or by giving so much of ourselves that it’ll change drastically one day when such and such see how much effort you’ve made to make it work.
Then the doubt of your actions when things don’t go as planned. That maybe you have too many expectations. Or that by not dealing with the negative- you’re giving up on them.
You don’t want to give up on those you care about, so you stay. You struggle back and forth if it’s the right decision.

Then those deep rooted feelings we don’t talk about: You don’t want to be wrong about them, or feel like you were made out to be a fool by trusting them.

We are so willing to offer advice to so many, but we aren’t willing to take our own advice in these situations. We’ve ALL been there before reality eventually set in.

Does it ring a bell? Or hit home? Does someone come to mind???

Check this:
If someone romantic or non romantic in your life is willing to listen, willing to sit down and discuss things and have an amazing conversation about what’s going on, willing to see it not only from their own point of view, but yours as well and wanna work together to make it right?
It’s a green flag kinda day, and certainly hope that someone can and will make the right moves, and work with you. Not just for a couple days, not just for a weeks, but everyday for however long it takes to find yalls foundation? 💚✅🟢🟩

Being in denial, getting defensive, blaming, shaming, degrading, and not ever taking accountability or giving validation??? Is a huge red flag for either parties! 🛑❌🧨

We of course can only control ourselves (our actions, our words) but if you as an Individual is giving this energy???
You gotta humble yourself baby!
Do not only expect this green flag behavior from others, but also give that green flag behavior.

Life is so short. Sometimes, lessons come in many forms, including relationships. It doesn’t make you a fool that you cared, or loved, stayed, or continue to stay. We all hold hope, and sometimes, it isn’t directly the end of any relationship. Change does and can happen. It really just all depends on the individual.

Even if it somehow does or does not work out? Doesn’t make it any less than the next person. Everyone’s situation is different and your choice to make regardless.

You are important and deserve the same respect and love as you give.
When you are ready, and willing, and WANT to change things?
You’ll know, cause it’ll be scary.
You don’t do the change alone though.
It takes two to tango. ✌🏼

03/28/2024

“I had seen what the rest of my life was gonna be like with this man, it was gonna be me doing everything and it never being appreciated”.
That hits directly home!
What do you think is the leading cause of many divorces??? It’s really simple: not getting the same energy from one spouse to another.

Ask anyone who has had the unfortunate experience of having to go through a separation or divorce. Unless you’ve been through it yourself, you can’t really say what can solve that scenario because people have to WANT to do the things so many have an opinion on. Such as communication, or even just being present. If someone doesn’t want it, it isn’t gonna work- plain and simple.
That same lack of energy will follow said spouse in their next relationship, and their next, and their next, and their next.

I bet right now, if you haven’t had that experience? You know someone who has.
A lack of commitment to someone, a lack of partnership? Eventually takes its toll.