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Gentleman Within Practical and actionable style tips to help guys look, love & live better. Dress Better, Feel Your Best. It’s a process. But you’re not most guys. Single. Day.

Welcome to Gentleman Within, the place to learn how to dress better, feel amazing, and live your best life. This website serves 3 primary purposes:

• To teach, inform and inspire to best of my abilities
• To discuss all things men’s style/lifestyle from my perspective
• To document my own style journey as I learn and grow along the way

My goal is to provide practical and helpful tips, advice and

inspiration to help men level up their style. Your style journey is long, but it doesn’t have to be hard. And it’s worthwhile to consider the importance of style in your life. You don’t have to be the best dressed in your class or workplace, but it doesn’t hurt to be. Maybe you haven’t given it much thought, and that’s normal—most guys don’t. Men who realize the power of style, and leverage it to their benefit, can accelerate their success and grow beyond their limits. Gentleman Within is for you if:

• You want to know where to begin
• You want to learn about style and fashion
• You want to develop and improve your personal style
• You want to build your self-confidence
• You want to crush it in life, and do it with style
• You want inspiration and advice to live your best life
• You believe in challenging yourself to be your best—Every. At Gentleman Within, you will learn:

• How clothing should fit
• How to build a timeless, versatile, and mindfully crafted wardrobe
• How to maximize the usefulness of each piece in your wardrobe for any occasion
• How to dress your best day in and day out
• How to have great style, easily and affordably
• How to mix and match your outfits
• The power of personal presentation
• The importance of being a gentleman
• Why it’s worth caring about style
• And so much more

Developing your style is only the beginning. Style is a foundation that can help you reach your greatest achievements. We all have different goals and definitions of success, but deep down, I know you have an unrelenting desire to be great and to do great things. I know I do. You have something special within yourself to give. You have your own experiences that shape you into who you are. And only you can offer your unique perspective. What do you want to share with the world? It’s okay if you don’t know yet, but it’s worthwhile to think about. This blog is about more than style and fashion; it’s about learning how to see. It’s about self-awareness and living life extraordinarily. It’s about change and building self-confidence. How you present yourself on the outside should be a reflection of who you want to be on the inside. If there’s one thing you take away from this blog, it’s that discovering and developing your personal style is a journey—one that should be fun. If you’re not having fun, you’re not doing it right! Welcome! And I hope you enjoy your stay. Cheers to your style,
Khoi

😎 Stealth Wealth in Pop CultureStealth wealth isn’t just a fashion trend, it’s a cultural signal. From TV shows and movi...
10/26/2025

😎 Stealth Wealth in Pop Culture

Stealth wealth isn’t just a fashion trend, it’s a cultural signal. From TV shows and movies to the world’s most visible celebrities, the quiet luxury mindset has popped up time and again.

Here are some defining moments and figures:

1. TV & Streaming

Season 3 of White Lotus explores complex & uncomfortable dynamics within the Ratliff family.

Succession: The Roy family’s muted Loro Piana baseball caps and plain Brunello Cucinelli knits turned “invisible wealth” into the fashion world’s obsession.

The White Lotus: Old money meets vacation casual. The contrast between unbranded linen and loud luxurious resort wear was its own subplot.

Mad Men: Don Draper’s minimalist gray suits and Roger Sterling’s understated tailoring showed how the 60s executive elite leaned on fit, not flash.

2. Films

American Psycho: Patrick Bateman’s fixation on Valentino suits, monogram-free luxury, and impeccable grooming routine was chilling proof that real power doesn’t scream, it whispers.

Crazy Rich Asians: Astrid Leong’s wardrobe (contrasting the bling of others) quietly demonstrated restraint as the truest form of wealth.

Ocean’s Eleven: George Clooney and Brad Pitt embodied smooth confidence in tailored suits and clean looks, projecting affluence without showiness.

3. Celebrities

Jeff Bezos: From hoodies and cargo shorts to Tom Ford polos and black leather bombers, Bezos’ billionaire rebrand reflects stealth wealth’s evolution.

Daniel Craig: Off-screen, his Bond-esque off-duty wardrobe (rugged knits, slim suits, suede boots) is polished but never ostentatious.

Pharrell Williams: Known for boldness, but his pivot toward pared-down style with his Louis Vuitton menswear collection shows even the flashiest can adopt quiet luxury.

4. Style Archetypes

Athletes Who Rebranded: Legendary athletes like Roger Federer, David Beckham, and LeBron James all transitioned from flashier fits to refined, neutral palettes as they evolved throughout their careers.

Old Money Prep: Think Kennedy-era chinos, cable knits, and beat-up boat shoes. Wealth that comes with history doesn’t need to be proven.

Japanese Minimalism: Brands like Comme des Garçons and Yohji Yamamoto shaped a design philosophy where silence and simplicity equal refinement.

The Core Principles of Stealth Wealth

Moving on… at its core, stealth wealth isn’t about deprivation. It’s about intentionality.

Here are the guiding principles that define the quiet luxury mindset:

1. Quality Over Quantity

Stealth wealth wardrobes are built on fewer, better items. Instead of chasing every trend, the focus is on craftsmanship and longevity.

It’s appreciating subtle details (hand-rolled hems, mother-of-pearl buttons, cashmere and quality wool blends).

Example: A Tom Ford cashmere sweater that lasts decades versus five fast-fashion sweaters that pill after a season.

2. Subtlety Over Show

Logos and loud patterns are swapped for neutral palettes, clean cuts, and refined textures. The clothing speaks through fit and fabric, not branding.

Example: Succession’s Roy family dressed in muted tones vs. Instagram flex culture.

3. Function Meets Form

Quiet luxury prioritizes practicality alongside elegance. Clothes are chosen to move seamlessly between settings without screaming for attention.

Example: Daniel Craig’s off-duty wardrobe of tailored jackets, rugged boots, and slim jeans.

4. Timeless Over Trendy
Stealth wealth is slow fashion. The best pieces look as good today as they will ten years from now. This creates a sense of permanence, stability, and confidence.

Example: Old money prep staples like navy blazers, suede loafers, and cable-knit sweaters embody this.

Wrapping Up

At the end of the day, stealth wealth isn’t about hiding, it’s about knowing you don’t need to shout.

The fit, the fabric, the confidence you carry speaks louder than any logo.

Master the details, keep it subtle, and you’ll stand out for all the right reasons.

🤔 40 Questions to Ask Yourself Every YearHere's a list of 40 questions worth asking yourself each year.A half hour or so...
10/24/2025

🤔 40 Questions to Ask Yourself Every Year

Here's a list of 40 questions worth asking yourself each year.

A half hour or so of deep focus and introspection in answering these Q's can open up all kinds of insights and provide infinitely more value than doomscrolling social media.

What did you do this year that you’d never done before?
Did you keep your new year’s resolutions?
Did anyone close to you give birth?
Did anyone close to you die?
What cities/states/countries did you visit?
What would you like to have next year that you lacked this year?
What date(s) from this year will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
What was your biggest achievement of the year?
What was your biggest failure?
What other hardships did you face?
Did you suffer illness or injury?
What was the best thing you bought?
Whose behavior merited celebration?
Whose behavior made you appalled?
Where did most of your money go?
What did you get really, really, really excited about?
What song will always remind you of this year?
Compared to this time last year, are you: happier or sadder? Thinner or fatter? Richer or poorer?
What do you wish you’d done more of?
What do you wish you’d done less of?
How are you spending the holidays?
Did you fall in love this year?
Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
What was your favorite show?
What was the best book you read?
What was your greatest musical discovery of the year?
What was your favorite film?
What was your favorite meal?
What did you want and get?
What did you want and not get?
What did you do on your birthday?
What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
How would you describe your personal style this year?
What kept you sane?
Which celebrity/public figure did you admire the most?
What political issue stirred you the most?
Who did you miss?
Who was the best new person you met?
What valuable life lesson did you learn this year?
What is a quote that sums up your year?

💸 When “No” is the Kindest AnswerFamily makes it tricky. You want to help, but sometimes “help” is really just enabling....
10/21/2025

💸 When “No” is the Kindest Answer

Family makes it tricky. You want to help, but sometimes “help” is really just enabling.

Recently, a relative reached out saying she was sick and needed money. She promised she’d pay me back… the same promise she made the last time, and the time before that. Truth is, she never asks how I’m doing. The only time I hear from her is when she needs cash.

I’ve given before, not expecting to see the money again, but this time I realized what was really happening. I wasn’t helping her – I was fueling the cycle. By saying yes, I was making myself “easy money.” And once people see you that way, they never stop asking.

Jay-Z once said he declined a cousin who asked him for seed money to start a business. This is a man worth over a billion Even he knew that money doesn’t fix habits. It doesn’t create discipline. And many wealthy parents take the same stance with their kids. They refuse to hand them fortunes because they know that unearned money often destroys more than it builds.

The truth is simple: generosity needs boundaries. If someone truly values you, their relationship with you won’t hinge on your wallet. Sometimes the most loving answer, the one that actually helps, is “no.”

👉 Next time guilt comes knocking, remember: you’re not being cruel. You’re setting both of you free.

💼 Stealth Wealth: the style of POWER w/o the noiseEver notice some guys who are always seeking attention?Flashy logos, l...
10/19/2025

💼 Stealth Wealth: the style of POWER w/o the noise

Ever notice some guys who are always seeking attention?

Flashy logos, loud sneakers, iced-out watches.

But here’s the thing: the guys with real money?

They’re dressing like they don’t care if you notice.

That’s stealth wealth. 👇

👀 STEALTH WEALTH

Also known as quiet luxury, it’s the style philosophy that says less is more.

And the less you show off, the more powerful you look.

It’s Logan Roy’s battered baseball cap.

Steve Jobs’ black turtleneck.

A cashmere sweater with no logo, but impeccable cut and feel.

This isn’t about hiding wealth – it’s about mastering confidence so deep you don’t need to shout.

And here’s the best part. You don’t need billionaire money to pull it off.

Stealth wealth is a mindset and a method.

If you learn the rules…

You can level up your wardrobe, whether you’re shopping at Uniqlo or Loro Piana.
What is Stealth Wealth?

Stealth wealth, also known as quiet luxury, is the art of dressing well without shouting about it.

Instead of flashy logos or bold designer statements, it’s about subtle signals: a perfectly tailored blazer, a cashmere sweater that feels luxurious to the touch, or a pair of shoes that only those “in the know” would recognize as high-quality.
Quiet Luxury vs. Loud Luxury

At its core, stealth wealth is the opposite of loud luxury. Loud luxury is the Gucci belt buckle you can spot from across the room.

Stealth wealth is the Loro Piana sweater that looks simple but costs more than three logo-laden hoodies combined. The difference isn’t just about price, it’s about perception.

This style philosophy values craftsmanship, timeless design, and quality materials over showmanship. It communicates confidence through understatement.

Instead of screaming “look at me,” it whispers “I belong.”
Stealth Wealth Goes Mainstream

The media went in a frenzy over it because of the HBO hit show, Succession. Remember the eldest boy, Kendall Roy wearing a plain baseball cap?

To most people, it looks like any cap you could grab at a mall. But fans know it’s a $600 Loro Piana piece. That’s stealth wealth in action – invisible to many, obvious to the few who get it.

In short, stealth wealth is about looking sharp, investing in quality, and letting your style speak quietly but powerfully.

The Origins & Philosophy of Stealth Wealth

Stealth wealth isn’t new. It’s rooted in what’s often called “Old Money” style – a way of dressing that prioritizes tradition, refinement, and understatement.

Long before the term “quiet luxury” appeared in magazines, wealthy families from Europe to New England were dressing in ways designed to blend in, not stand out.

1. Old Money Roots

In the United States, this look evolved from Ivy League campuses, country clubs, and prep schools. Think navy blazers, oxford cloth button-downs, loafers, and cable-knit sweaters.

In England, Savile Row tailoring and tweed carried the same ethos. These weren’t trend-driven clothes, they were uniforms – garments built to last, often passed down through generations.

2. Confidence in Subtlety

At its core, stealth wealth is about confidence. True wealth doesn’t need to be broadcast. Instead, it’s quietly signaled through fabric quality, fit, and cut.

The person wearing a cashmere sweater with hand-linked seams isn’t looking for validation, they’re wearing it because they appreciate the craft.

3. Why It Matters Today

After the 2008 financial crisis, there was a cultural shift away from “bling culture.” Flashy displays of wealth felt tone-deaf, and subtle luxury became aspirational again.

Today, with sustainability and minimalism still trending, stealth wealth resonates even more. The message is clear: buy fewer pieces, but make them count.

The leaves are turning, your iced coffee is hot again, and your wardrobe’s about to hit its most stylish stride of the y...
10/17/2025

The leaves are turning, your iced coffee is hot again, and your wardrobe’s about to hit its most stylish stride of the year.

If there’s one thing that makes or breaks your fall — it’s your jacket, the unsung hero that ties everything together, keeps you warm, and earns you compliments from baristas who “don’t usually say stuff like this.”

So let’s build your fall jacket roster with five heavy hitters every stylish man should have on his radar.

Let's get started. 👇

1. The Trucker Jacket

Born in the Wild West, perfected for city streets. Trucker jackets pair as easily with a tee and jeans as they do over an oxford and chinos. Go for classic denim or level up with suede for a luxe spin.

Abridged History: Starting in the late 1800s as durable workwear for cowboys and miners, the trucker jacket became a rebellious style icon in the ’60s (think James Dean). The sherpa lining came later for added warmth.

Fit tip: Size it snug. It should hit at your waist, not your hips.

Wear it when: The air’s crisp but not cold. Perfect with flannel, a henley or tee underneath.

2. The Bomber Jacket

A sleek bomber can dress down tailored trousers or dress up your weekend denim. Nylon for sportier energy, suede for luxury.

Abridged History: First designed for U.S. Air Force pilots in the 1950s to keep them warm at altitude without bulk. Eventually adopted by punk subcultures and streetwear.

Fit tip: Keep it trim. No saggy sleeves or puffed midsections.

Wear it when: You want off-duty cool without trying. Pairs effortlessly with selvedge jeans and rugged boots.

3. The Harrington Jacket

If Steve McQueen were around today, he’d still be wearing one. Lightweight but wind-ready, Harringtons are ideal for those just-breezy-enough days.

Abridged History: Popularized in the 1930s and later adopted by British mods and Hollywood icons like Elvis Presley and Daniel Craig. It’s the clean, forever-versatile outer layer.

Fit tip: Go for a neutral color — navy or tan — so it pairs with everything.

Wear it when: Cool breezes, city commutes, days and nights when you want clean lines without the weight.

4. The Field Jacket

With its utility pockets and weather-ready shell, the field jacket means business. It’s built for crisp air, autumn hikes, and city commutes alike. Opt for a waxed variety for weather-resistance and a rugged patina.

Abridged History: Modeled after military and hunting jackets, this outdoor staple gained popularity in postwar America for its durability. It hasn’t changed much, which is a good thing.

Fit tip: Tailor the sleeves if they run long. Clean lines matter.

Wear it when: Layering up for weekend hikes or city commutes.

5. The Navy Wool Blazer

While not a jacket in the technical sense — a structured, mid-weight wool blazer that bridges the gap between casual and refined, makes it the perfect piece for your most stylish fall days.

Abridged History: Born from 19th-century British rowing clubs, the navy blazer became a symbol of Ivy style and business casual through the 20th century. Today it’s a versatile in-between piece.

Fit tip: Make sure the shoulders fit perfectly. Too tight or loose can destroy your look.

Wear it when: You want to dress up jeans or dress down trousers.

🍁 The Takeaway

You don’t need all five. Just pick 2–3 that match your lifestyle, and make them the MVPs of your fall fits.

Jackets aren’t just about warmth. They’re about identity. Put one on and you instantly become the guy who has his life together.

And honestly? You kind of do.

10/14/2025

In the market for a suede leather jacket? This one is worth a look!

🍂 The Fall Style Uniform (Every Guy Needs One) & How to Nail It Fall is the season of rich colors, layered textures, cri...
10/12/2025

🍂 The Fall Style Uniform (Every Guy Needs One) & How to Nail It

Fall is the season of rich colors, layered textures, crisp air.

But with choice comes chaos. Instead of wondering what to wear every morning, imagine having a plug-and-play formula that works on repeat.

That’s the Fall Uniform: simple, stylish, and versatile enough to handle everything from office days to weekend coffee runs.

Let's get started. 👇

The Formula

The magic of this formula is that all of the pieces go well together.

It all starts off with the base layer.

1. Base Layer

Your uniform starts here. Think of it as the canvas. You may want to rock an undershirt depending on the base layer chosen.

• Oxford shirt – crisp and classic
• Merino wool crewneck – lightweight warmth
• Henley – casual but elevated
• Knit polo – sporty yet refined
• Pro Tip: Stick with neutral tones (white, navy, gray, olive) to maximize versatility.

👕 Base Layer Picks:

• Everlane Classic Oxford Shirt: https://rstyle.me/+6LMXP43Be76iVrDRHvVk8Q
• Uniqlo Merino Crew Neck Sweater: https://rstyle.me/+uFpW1ciUm-6IqSCSn7pYzA
• Buck Mason Thermal Knit Henley: https://fave.co/4mzxPW1

2. Bottoms

The anchor of your uniform. Choose texture and weight that signal fall.

• Dark wash denim – the no-brainer, as discussed at length in previous weeks.
• Corduroy trousers – touch of texture, unmistakably autumn
• Flannel wool trousers – smart casual with ease

Pro Tip: Hem your cords and wool trousers to break cleanly over boots. It’ll instantly sharpen the silhouette.

👖 Bottom Picks:

• Levi's 512 Slim Taper Fit Dark Jeans: https://rstyle.me/+koB58KgZIVl8TkIGx4Zq7w
• J.Crew 770 Straight-fit Corduroy Pants: https://rstyle.me/+toFsyFftugmx9r1ooGyl6g
• Banana Republic Italian Flannel Trousers: https://rstyle.me/+Ri1CUdAIF67lFjGeLx5MXA

3. The Layer

The signature piece that makes your outfit scream fall.

• Harrington jacket – timeless, Ivy League cool
• Field jacket – rugged and practical
• Navy wool blazer – refined and versatile

Pro Tip: Choose just one “hero jacket” this season and wear it often. People will start to recognize it as your signature.

🧥 Layer Picks:

• Walker and Hawkes Classic Harrington Jacket: https://rstyle.me/+HXIMFn9SIV7mcKVR0wYpcg
• Alpha Industries M-65 Heritage Field Jacket: https://rstyle.me/+8SE-vCgkadO78p1nDmILiQ
• Suitsupply Tailored Fit Havana Suit Jacket: https://fave.co/47TcG5t

4. Footwear

Nothing cements the uniform like the right shoes.

• Leather boots – Chelsea or lace-up
• White sneakers – still in play, just pair with fall textures

Pro Tip: Rotate between 2 pairs max. Too many options kill consistency.

🥾 Footwear Picks:

• Thursday Boot Co. Captain Boot: https://rstyle.me/+A6esgCYEt3214FpNFES7Aw
• Common Projects Achilles Low: https://rstyle.me/+WkDPFh3wHkg1dFIDcueGiQ
Small touches that finish the uniform without overcomplicating.

• Leather belt – match with boots
• Wool scarf – adds color and texture
• Watch – a personal signature
• Textured socks – subtle upgrade most guys skip

Pro Tip: Keep accessories functional first. Style follows naturally.

⌚ Accessory Picks:

• Drake's Printed Wool Scarf: https://fave.co/4pIdVeg
• Seiko 5 Automatic Sports Watch: https://rstyle.me/+3BvgGDBFWT2NHAl8jTYnyg
• Drake's Over the Calf Wool Socks: https://fave.co/4mygNrh

10/12/2025

Can't go wrong with either Thursday President or Captain Boots.

There are many types of jackets for sartorial minded gents to experiment with, and (in my opinion) these are the best ja...
10/10/2025

There are many types of jackets for sartorial minded gents to experiment with, and (in my opinion) these are the best jackets for men that you’ll definitely want to know about this year.

There are many types of jackets to experiment with from the bomber jacket, to leather jacket, denim jacket, harrington jacket, and field jacket – which round out my top 5.

3️⃣ Easy Ways to Wear Dark Wash Denim Why is dark wash denim considered a men’s style essential? Mainly because of its v...
10/07/2025

3️⃣ Easy Ways to Wear Dark Wash Denim

Why is dark wash denim considered a men’s style essential? Mainly because of its versatility, durability and timelessness.

It serves as the anchor for a myriad of outfit combinations. Unlike the light wash variety, you can dress dark wash jeans down with a t-shirt or dress it up with a navy blazer.

It’s also appropriate for more casual workplaces and after work happy hours. Maybe you have an exciting date coming up? Dark wash jeans is always a smart choice.

Here are 3 scenarios that you can rock this fall staple 👇

👖 Scenario #1: The casual weekender

Whether you’re running errands, off to school or meeting up with buddies for drinks – dark blue jeans can serve you well.

This simple look is casual from the top down. The gray check flannel shirt is inherently casual. There's a rounded ‘club’ collar which gives it a unique flair.

Pair a similar shirt with a light quilted vest suede desert boots, and dark jeans – you’ve got a rugged, yet still refined combo.

The Timex Weekender watch with a casual leather strap completes this simple getup.

👖 Scenario #2: The smart casual office space

Find yourself in a more casual work environment? This smart casual outfit works well in the office.

The shawl neck sweater is a casual piece that ventures into rugged territory depending on what you pair it with.

In this case, the addition of a white oxford button-down shirt helps to increase the level of formality a tiny bit. And a clean pair of suede chukkas, in navy keeps the look balanced with earth tones, of dark blues and the teal of the cardigan.

You’ll look on point style wise with this simple getup, topped off with a minimalist brown leather watch to match the belt.

👖 Scenario #3: The date night

So it’s date night with your special lady?

Here’s how you can dress up dark wash denim.

In this scenario, I'm elevating our trusty dark blue jeans with a silk blended charcoal blazer that ups the classy vibe. The silk blend gives off an air of elegance that is perfect for a fancy date or anniversary.

I paired a light blue bengal striped shirt with a navy, speckled tie that's made of a wool fabric, contrasting nicely against the lighter shirt. Don’t be afraid to mix patterns and textures.

A pair of brown brogues like that of Allen Edmonds (formerly the Strand in Walnut) always looks great with dark jeans. You can of course go darker with your shoe shade according to your personal taste.

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