11/03/2025
Good Morning and Happy November. I am posting to let you all know that I am currently forming a small group that will begin in November. This is a coaching group with the goal of helping people stuck in unhealthy relational patterns.
I’m curious -for the healers, therapists, coaches, and bodyworkers here:
🔸 Do you see this mind-body-soul overlap in your work?
🔸 Have you noticed chronic pain or fatigue patterns in clients who are also trauma-bonded?
🔸 How do you work with the nervous system when insight alone isn’t enough?
Would love to hear your wisdom. This conversation feels overdue in our field.
Below is an explanation of trauma bonds. Please contact me with any questions or if you or someone you know might benefit. As an aside - chronic pain and chronic health conditions often occur alongside these patterns. Neuroplastic pain often distracts from the emotional pain of the relationship.
We hear the term “trauma bond” everywhere now but a lot of people still aren’t totally sure what it actually means.
So here’s a simple way I explain it:
A trauma bond isn’t just an “unhealthy relationship” or “attachment to the wrong person.” It’s a physiological bond formed through cycles of safety and threat where the nervous system starts to associate intensity, anxiety, or inconsistency with connection.
It’s the kind of bond where you:
✔️ Know the situation isn’t good for you
✔️ Can list every red flag
✔️ Have done the healing work, learned the lessons, and yet…
the pull is still there - in the body, not the mind
That’s because trauma bonds aren’t cognitive.
They’re nervous system loops.
And here’s the part many people are just starting to recognize:
🔹 Trauma-bonded patterns and chronic pain come from the same survival wiring
🔹 Both are rooted in threat physiology rather than conscious choice
🔹 Insight doesn’t break them — safety does
Which is why I’m now using the term “Soul Locks” alongside trauma bonds.
It names something deeper:
When the body stays in a loop the soul is ready to outgrow.
Whether that loop shows up in a relationship, in chronic symptoms, in emotional shutdown, or in persistent self-abandonment, the work is the same:
💜 Reduce threat
💜 Restore safety
💜 Repattern what the body thinks love + relief feel like
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