Whose Tea Tv

06/04/2026

Let them be upset. Your boundary is not a group project.

06/02/2026

I said goodbye to 23 years in January 2024.

Not just a job. Twenty-three years of showing up, training people who got promoted over me, carrying systems that were never built to carry me back. When I walked out of that hospital for the last time, coworker after coworker stopped me in the hallway and said the same thing:

Wow. You have been so loyal. I cannot believe you are leaving.

HR called me. There were emails — a multitude of them — praising my performance, expressing they did not want to lose me. The record was clear. The appreciation was documented.

What was never documented was the pay. The promotion. The investment back.

Because they had made a calculation: she is not leaving.

My soul was exhausted. Not from the work. From spending 23 years trying to figure out how to make my dreams real while building someone else’s million dollar empire. That is the part they did not see. They saw loyalty. They did not see a woman who had been quietly disappearing inside that loyalty for over two decades.

I remember getting on that call with HR and saying something I had never said out loud before:

I have been paying a tax on my loyalty for 23 years.

That was the beginning of an era.

I just published the full breakdown of how to stop paying this invisible bill. Read the complete manifesto on Medium👇👇

06/02/2026

The Loyalty Tax is expensive. 💯

You pay it every time you volunteer your last ounce of energy.

You pay it every time you say yes before checking on yourself.

You pay it every time your body says stop and your mouth says okay.

The bill never arrives in the mail.

It shows up as exhaustion.

06/01/2026

Honestly 💯

I spent years showing up for every single person in my life. At work, at home, in every group chat, in every meeting, on every call.

Then it happened, I finally burned out, nobody noticed until I stopped showing up for THEM.

That's the Loyalty Tax. Most of us are paying it every single day without even knowing it's being collected.

I'm Shatica. This page is where we talk about that, openly, honestly, and without regret.

Welcome to the tea table.

05/27/2026

Some of y’all have spent so much time being dependable for everybody else 💯

You forgot what you even wanted for yourself❗️

That hits different when you finally sit still long enough to realize it.

You were never born just to manage everybody else’s expectations while your own dreams sat on the shelf collecting dust.

At some point you have to stop asking:
What will they think?

Start asking:
What is this costing me?

This season is about choosing a life that actually feels like yours again.😁

If this message found you at the right time, the full conversation is waiting for you on Whose Tea TV 👇🏾

If somebody came to mind while reading this, send it to them.

Some people are tired in places they do not even talk about anymore.

05/19/2026

Ever feel like you're wearing shoes that just don't fit? 😟

You know that feeling. Blisters forming, every step a reminder of the wrong choice.

Some of us are walking our whole lives like that, trying to follow someone else's map, trying to fit into their vision of success.

It's not just uncomfortable, it's exhausting trying to contort yourself into a path that was never meant for you. That constant ache? It's your real self telling you to stop‼️

What shoes are you ready to take off today?

05/18/2026

05/16/2026

Wherever you are in your day.

Could be 6 AM, could be 10 PM. The internal chatter, though? That stays pretty consistent. That voice telling you to wait, to overthink, to just sit still a little longer. It doesn't clock out.

What's one small thing you can just do today, even if it feels out of sync with everyone else's schedule?📅

What's your very next move, no matter the time? ⏰️

05/16/2026

Stop. Seriously, just stop ‼

You're spending so much mental energy on potential problems for other people. Ones they haven't identified. Ones they might not even have. It's a huge waste of your precious time and focus. Bring that energy back home. Where it belongs.

Take a deep breath. Focus on what you can control – your own space, your own peace.

05/14/2026

That deep, bone-tired feeling?

We say "it's just adulting" or "I'm getting older." But what if it's more than that? What if it's your body screaming from chronic stress, nutrient deficiencies, or just plain overwhelm you've been ignoring?

Calling it "normal" doesn't make it go away. It just keeps you from digging into the real reasons you're dragging.

Watch the full Whose Tea TV episode now to see why these labels are keeping you stuck.

Shatica Miles