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04/17/2025

Dive into the 'Deep Water Intro' where we embark on a transformative journey! Witness a nation's birth, sharp visions, and divine gifts unlocking new dimensions. Join us as we transcend to the 5th dimension, elevating economics and reshaping our world!

04/17/2025

Embark on a deep water journey with us! Witness a warrior's transformation against an epic backdrop. Are we equipped for the spiritual battle ahead? Discover ancestral guidance and the dangers lurking in deep waters. Stay prepared and protected!

10/21/2024

This Weekend was an interesting celebration. Another Day to Salute Veterans.

To all Veterans. Thank you. And the Special Operators. Continue Operating. Peace to you all.

Now. I have a question. What kind of friends to you have?

10/15/2024

Did you these 10 symptoms of daughters of narcissistic mothers?

A mother who is self-obsessed or needs constant attention may be described as “narcissistic” or a “narcissist,” but narcissistic mothers are actually mothers who display traits of or have been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Being the daughter of a narcissistic mother can have a long-term effect on your attachment style, self-esteem, mental health, and more. If you think your mother may be a narcissist or were raised by a mother diagnosed with NPD, you may experience some common symptoms outlined below. The effects of being raised by a narcissistic mother will vary from person to person, but here are 10 common symptoms of daughters of narcissistic mothers.

1. Extreme self-criticism

Daughters of narcissistic parents, particularly narcissistic mothers, often experience extreme self-criticism which is projected onto themselves and those around them. This can contribute to feelings of inadequacy and a constant need for perfection.

2. Lack of empathy
Daughters of narcissistic mothers often find themselves trapped in a dynamic where their parent consistently lacks empathy towards them, causing their own needs and feelings to be routinely disregarded and invalidated in favor of the mother’s self-centered focus. This lack of empathy can leave daughters feeling unseen, unheard, and emotionally neglected, impacting their sense of self-worth and ability to form healthy relationships in the future.

3. Verbal aggression
Daughters of narcissistic mothers often endure the painful experience of verbal aggression, as their mothers frequently employ demeaning language and hurl insults towards them. This constant barrage of hurtful words can profoundly impact the daughter’s self-esteem and mental well-being, leading to feelings of insecurity, self-doubt, and emotional turmoil. It is crucial for these daughters to recognize that they deserve respect and support, and seek healing through therapy and building a strong support network.

4. Insecure attachment style
Growing up with a narcissistic parent, particularly a mother, can often result in the development of an insecure attachment style. This is largely attributed to inconsistent or neglectful parenting practices, leading to difficulties in forming healthy and secure relationships later in life.
5. Low self-esteem

Daughters of narcissistic mothers often struggle with low self-esteem and have a negative self-image. This negative self-image can manifest in various ways, such as feeling unworthy or inadequate, constantly seeking validation from others, or being overly critical of oneself. It can significantly impact their overall sense of self-worth and hinder their ability to pursue their goals and dreams confidently.

6. Lack of boundaries
Daughters of narcissistic mothers often face significant challenges in establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries due to their parent’s difficulty in respecting these boundaries. The blurred lines between personal space and autonomy can cause immense distress and confusion for the daughters, making it difficult for them to develop a strong sense of self and navigate healthy relationships. It is crucial for these daughters to prioritize self-care, seek therapy if needed, and learn strategies for setting and enforcing boundaries to regain control over their own lives and well-being.
7. Codependency

Daughters of narcissistic mothers may develop codependency patterns in their relationships, seeking validation and approval from others. This codependency can stem from the deep-rooted belief that their worthiness and value as individuals are dependent on the opinions and actions of others. They may find themselves constantly sacrificing their own needs and desires in order to please others, often at the expense of their own well-being. Breaking free from these codependent patterns requires self-reflection, setting boundaries, and cultivating a stronger sense of self-worth independent of external validation.

8. Fear of abandonment
Due to inconsistent parenting and emotional manipulation, daughters of narcissistic mothers may have a fear of being abandoned or rejected. . Healing from this fear requires addressing the underlying wounds caused by their narcissistic upbringing and learning to trust and form healthy, secure attachments with others. Seeking therapy and support can be instrumental in navigating and overcoming these challenges.

9. People-pleasing behavior
Daughters of narcissistic parents, including narcissistic mothers, often engage in people-pleasing behavior to gain approval and avoid conflict. This people-pleasing behavior can become ingrained as a coping mechanism, causing them to constantly prioritize the needs and wants of others over their own, leading to a sense of self-neglect and an inability to assert their own boundaries and desires. Breaking free from this cycle involves learning to prioritize your own needs instead of the needs of others.

10. Difficulty expressing emotions
Growing up with a narcissistic mother can result in difficulty expressing emotions and even identifying one’s own feelings. This emotional repression can stem from the fear of facing criticism or rejection for expressing emotions, leading to a disconnect from one’s own emotional needs and an inability to effectively communicate and navigate relationships. Developing emotional awareness and seeking therapy can help daughters of narcissistic mothers reconnect with their emotions and learn healthy ways

10/13/2024

Love isn’t about money; it’s about sincerity, honesty, and attention.

10/09/2024

Do narcissists understand why you had to go no contact?

Narcissists like to stalk. It's one of the ways they get intel to use as ammo in their silly games of manipulation. So they know very soon after you block them. They know because they are used to your attention. They feel entitled to it to the point they devalued and discarded you.

Shock

For these reasons, you blocking them is a shocking action. So shocking that they think it's a game. The same type of game they play. Because they are used to you being a low-value Honest Abe or Rachelle Rules. They see others as inherently selfish because they are. That's how they justify all their heinous actions. It's a dog eat dog world.

A world of sillly games.

The narcissist initially perceives your going no-contact as your attempt to “level up” by playing the same sort of silly, maniplative games they are accustomed to. You finally caught on, young grasshopper. Everything you do is aimed at getting them back.

Insecurity and Doubt

Narcissists lack patience. Their initial perception doesn't last that long because no single supply can can quench their thirst for attention. Despite their brutal discard, deep down they want you to come crawling back. It would reassure their feable ego if you did. And it will eventually break their reality if you dont. Their understanding of how the world works would fracture you are indifferent. It would implode if you have pitty for them.

With time, your silence is deffining. Silence that makes room for whispers of doubt and insecurity. Childhood fears of abandonment and worthlessness. This is the power of no contact over them.

But why?

Eventually, when your silence screams louder than their pride, the narcissist will actually consider this question. But as anyone who has been with a narcissist understands, they are consumed by fears, impulses, and patterns. These will prevent a narcissist from truly considering why you went no-contact. Instead, their fears of abandonment and shame will echo. The echo of deep rooted childhood fears. The same fears that fuel their hunger for attention. What is a narcissist to do in this situation? Exactly what they have always done. Run away. They will fill their void with another dose of false pride about being better than you, then go seek attention in a lame attempt to prove they are still special. Never learning, never understanding, and never growing as a person.

They will never know.

They will never know why you went no-contact because they don't know how to care. They didn't ever really care about you. It was all play. They were an actor playing the lead role in some fairytale of another screenplay that never got finished.

It's simple: one has to care to listen, and listen to understand. Back when you were together, you poured your heart and soul into talking it out. Sharing how their actions made you feel. Despite all your efforts, they didn't listen. They didn't understand. Because they didn't actually care. So many lost opportunities. And now, all that's left is silence.

Who cares?

Your relationship with a narcissist had to devolve to this wretched point for them to truly consider your side of the story. And even then they are incapable! It's sad and inevitable. And it's proof that no-contact is the right response. No contact helps you get away from the manipulation of the words you say and how you interpret what they say. Going no-contact is setting a boundary. Your silence is the last word. But it's spoken for you and to you. They were never part of your life’s journey. Only the reality check is. The crazy thoughts in their mind are not something you can control, nor something you should be concerned about anymore. Because you’ve been through enough. Because you realize they were a ghost. Because you are finally putting yourself first again!

Don’t care,

Dadvocate

10/05/2024

Did you know - We gain Forgiveness when we become Forgiving?

10/03/2024

What is the biggest red flag of an actual narcissist rather than someone with narcissistic tendencies, and what are these main tendencies?

First, let me say that someone with a pathological disorder repeats these patterns over and over again.

And they are impulsive in having to do this, like an addict.

The biggest red flag that someone is a narcissist is someone who brings up topics that are extremely emotional and or disturbing over and over again.

Not once, but the same emotional topic repeatedly.

This, by far is the best way to spot an emotional manipulator.

Because to most people it just sounds like having a regular conversation about a topic.

But, it’s not..

They are looking to feed off of your empathy.

They are looking to feed off of your sympathy.

All eyes are on them and your disturbed looks and sadness feed their disorder.

Entire groups of people will join in on the conversations, it feels like you are being sucked into a giant negativity vortex from hell..

It’s really difficult to be around and you will feel sick to your stomach, you will feel off around this person.

09/15/2024

Peep Game:

People who have high spiritual intelligence don't read words, they read moods, they read energy, they read vibes, the read body language, they read jealous energy in your eyes.

Their sense of negativity is supreme. They may not say much, but they notice everything.

Being a Clairvoyant Empath is Exhausting.

09/10/2024

Most People have their hands out. They don't want help.

09/02/2024

The Next Frontier : Emotional Sobriety
by Bill Wilson

Copyright © AA Grapevine, Inc, January 1958
https://silkworth.net/alcoholics-anonymous/the-next-frontier-emotional-sobriety/

I think that many oldsters who have put our AA “booze cure” to severe but successful tests still find they often lack emotional sobriety. Perhaps they will be the spearhead for the next major development in AA—the development of much more real maturity and balance (which is to say, humility) in our relations with ourselves, with our fellows, and with God.

Those adolescent urges that so many of us have for top approval, perfect security, and perfect romance—urges quite appropriate to age seventeen—prove to be an impossible way of life when we are at age forty-seven or fifty-seven.

Since AA began, I’ve taken immense wallops in all these areas because of my failure to grow up, emotionally and spiritually. My God, how painful it is to keep demanding the impossible, and how very painful to discover finally, that all along we have had the cart before the horse! Then comes the final agony of seeing how awfully wrong we have been, but still finding ourselves unable to get off the emotional merry-go-round.

How to translate a right mental conviction into a right emotional result, and so into easy, happy, and good living—well, that’s not only the neurotic’s problem, it’s the problem of life itself for all of us who have got to the point of real willingness to hew to right principles in all our affairs.

Even then, as we hew away, peace and joy may still elude us. That’s the place so many of us AA oldsters have come to. And it’s a hell of a spot, literally. How shall our unconscious—from which so many of our fears, compulsions and phony aspirations still stream—be brought into line with what we actually believe, know and want! How to convince our dumb, raging and hidden “Mr. Hyde” becomes our main task.

I’ve recently come to believe that this can be achieved. I believe so because I begin to see many benighted ones—folks like you and me—commencing to get results. Last autumn [several years backed.] depression, having no really rational cause at all, almost took me to the cleaners. I began to be scared that I was in for another long chronic spell. Considering the grief I’ve had with depressions, it wasn’t a bright prospect.

I kept asking myself, “Why can’t the Twelve Steps work to release depression?” By the hour, I stared at the St. Francis Prayer…”It’s better to comfort than to be the comforted.” Here was the formula, all right. But why didn’t it work?

Suddenly I realized what the matter was. My basic flaw had always been dependence – almost absolute dependence – on people or circumstances to supply me with prestige, security, and the like. Failing to get these things according to my perfectionist dreams and specifications, I had fought for them. And when defeat came, so did my depression.

There wasn’t a chance of making the outgoing love of St. Francis a workable and joyous way of life until these fatal and almost absolute dependencies were cut away.

Because I had over the years undergone a little spiritual development, the absolute quality of these frightful dependencies had never before been so starkly revealed. Reinforced by what Grace I could secure in prayer, I found I had to exert every ounce of will and action to cut off these faulty emotional dependencies upon people, upon AA, indeed, upon any set of circumstances whatsoever.

Then only could I be free to love as Francis had. Emotional and instinctual satisfactions, I saw, were really the extra dividends of having love, offering love, and expressing a love appropriate to each relation of life.

Plainly, I could not avail myself of God’s love until I was able to offer it back to Him by loving others as He would have me. And I couldn’t possibly do that so long as I was victimized by false dependencies.

For my dependency meant demand—a demand for the possession and control of the people and the conditions surrounding me.

While those words “absolute demand” may look like a gimmick, they were the ones that helped to trigger my release into my present degree of stability and quietness of mind, qualities which I am now trying to consolidate by offering love to others regardless of the return to me.

This seems to be the primary healing circuit: an outgoing love of God’s creation and His people, by means of which we avail ourselves of His love for us. It is most clear that the current can’t flow until our paralyzing dependencies are broken, and broken at depth. Only then can we possibly have a glimmer of what adult love really is.

Spiritual calculus, you say? Not a bit of it. Watch any AA of six months working with a new Twelfth Step case. If the case says “To the devil with you,” the Twelfth Stepper only smiles and turns to another case. He doesn’t feel frustrated or rejected. If his next case responds, and in turn starts to give love and attention to other alcoholics, yet gives none back to him, the sponsor is happy about it anyway. He still doesn’t feel rejected; instead he rejoices that his one-time prospect is sober and happy. And if his next following case turns out in later time to be his best friend (or romance) then the sponsor is most joyful. But he well knows that his happiness is a by-product—the extra dividend of giving without any demand for a return.

The really stabilizing thing for him was having and offering love to that strange drunk on his doorstep. That was Francis at work, powerful and practical, minus dependency and minus demand.

In the first six months of my own sobriety, I worked hard with many alcoholics. Not a one responded. Yet this work kept me sober. It wasn’t a question of those alcoholics giving me anything. My stability came out of trying to give, not out of demanding that I receive.

Thus I think it can work out with emotional sobriety. If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small, we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependency and its consequent unhealthy demand. Let us, with God’s help, continually surrender these hobbling demands. Then we can be set free to live and love; we may then be able to Twelfth Step ourselves and others into emotional sobriety.

Of course I haven’t offered you a really new idea—only a gimmick that has started to unhook several of my own “hexes” at depth. Nowadays my brain no longer races compulsively in either elation, grandiosity or depression. I have been given a quiet place in bright sunshine.

I think that many oldsters who have put our AA “booze cure” to severe but successful tests still find they often lack emotional sobriety. Perhaps they will be the spearhead for the next major development in AA—the development of much more real maturity and balance (which is to say, humility) i...

08/18/2024

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