Spitefully Yours Podcast with Andrea Welker

03/15/2026

Sometimes you sit down to record an episode and realize you either have nothing to say… or you have so much to say you can’t pick a starting point.

This week, Andrea talks about that in-between space — the season where you’re still processing life, work, illness, and the complicated systems we all have to navigate. Not every moment needs to be a perfectly packaged lesson. Sometimes the real work is simply showing up and continuing forward.

If you’re trying to navigate healthcare without losing your mind, Andrea created the Alive Out of Spite Patient Playbook to help you prepare for appointments, organize your information, and advocate for yourself more effectively.

Download it at: aliveoutofspite.com

Stay alive. It pi**es people off.

Sometimes you sit down to record an episode and realize you either have nothing to say… or you have so much to say you can’t pick a starting point. This week, Andrea talks about that in-between space — the season where you’re still processing life, work, illness, and the complicated systems ...

02/06/2026

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Why Chronic Illness Is the Defining Challenge of Our Time

01/25/2026

Thank you to the snowplow drivers working the winter storm! Thousands of drivers in the Tri-State are working long shifts to make sure that the roads will be clear. https://www.fox19.com/2026/01/24/odot-crews-prepare-weekend-winter-storm/

01/25/2026

Teacher Amy here:

Once again we are being told not to trust our eyeballs. But we need to use our brains all of the times.

There are so many things coming at us we need to remain thoughtful consumers of media. There is actual organized misinformation EVERYWHERE.

We teach kids to check sources because it is important to know what is most likely real and true.

I wouldn’t let a student hand in an essay with zero facts but just a bunch of things they saw on TikTok.

The amount of people that come on this page and post a weird meme they saw in some group or just randomly come across their feed as their argument is WAY too many my friends. I would send many of you back to your desks to try again.

There are now sources that used to be reliable
we now have to question. It can be really hard. But we MUST do our due diligence and be thoughtful deliberate thinkers.

Reliable sources matter.

Because there is still truth.

It does exist. Everything is a little bit biased because we are humans but we can get as close as possible.

Alternate facts are not a thing.

Differing opinions based on facts can exist but they need to be based on FACTS.

Try as hard as you can to find them and please do not get sucked into those that are trying to divide and flat out lie.

If you are tired of “mainstream media” that is fine but you still need to do the best you can to be sure you are standing on truth.

There are some grassroots people doing an awesome job and some that are not. Check their facts against a few other sources that you know are reliable to be sure.

I suggest looking at more than 3 sources for each story you want to verify. Be aware of your confirmation bias (the thing our brain does when it just wants to be right so it only believes things that prove it right, we have to be open to revising our thinking or being wrong.

is doing the hard work. A team of left leaning, center leaning and right leaning folks vet the news for us and rate it on reliability and bias and put it all on a chart (below you will find the most current one).

The chart is hard to see, so there is a link to look at it yourself in the comments as well as a close up of the green box. The online version also includes TV and Podcasts.

I believe in us. We can do the work our middle and high school kids are being asked to do every single day. We owe it to them to at least be a good role model in this lane.

For a quick glance here are a few of websites of note from the green box (some are a little left, or a little right):
USA Facts
PEW Research Center
1440
AP
WSJ
Defense News
CNN(Web)
Ballotpedia
Newsweek
The Advocate
Reuters
Christianity Today

Some TV
(not on chart above you can find these online on interactive chart):
BBC
Border Report
Morning Brew
News Nation’
Morning inAmerica
Bloomberg Report

01/25/2026

A free 7-day email course to help you navigate medical care without burning out or blaming yourself.

If you’ve ever left a medical appointment feeling confused, dismissed, or like you somehow failed to explain yourself “the right way,” this course is for you.
Not because you didn’t try hard enough.
Not because you’re doing healthcare wrong.
But because navigating medical systems while tired, sick, or overwhelmed is genuinely hard — and no one teaches us how to do it.

You’re Not Broken is a free 7-day email course designed to give you practical, usable tools for advocating for yourself without turning it into another full-time job.
One short email a day.
Clear language.
No burnout required.
WHY THIS COURSE EXISTS

Many patients are told to “speak up,” “be prepared,” or “advocate for themselves” — without being given any real tools to do that.
Instead, we’re left to:
remember everything while stressed
explain complex symptoms in a few minutes
manage fear, shame, and confusion
and somehow stay calm and polite while doing it
Over time, this creates exhaustion, self-blame, and the feeling that we are the problem.
This course exists to say:
You’re not broken. The system is hard. And you deserve support navigating it.
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN 7 DAYS

Each day, you’ll receive one short, focused email with a single idea or tool you can actually use.
You’ll learn how to:
✔ Prepare for appointments without panic
✔ Use clear, simple language when you’re overwhelmed
✔ Understand what went wrong when care breaks down
✔ Reduce shame around needing help
✔ Protect your energy while still being prepared
✔ Reframe “difficult patient” into informed participant
✔ Build confidence without pretending everything is fine
This is not a crash course in medicine.
It’s a course in self-advocacy, communication, and survival.
WHAT THIS COURSE IS (AND ISN’T)

This course is:
Patient-led
Trauma-informed
Practical and realistic
Built from lived experience
Designed for low energy days
This course is not:
Medical advice
A productivity challenge
A motivation program
A requirement to do everything perfectly
You don’t need to keep up.
You don’t need to reply.
You don’t need to change your life in a week.
You just need to read one email at a time.
WHO THIS IS FOR

This course is for you if:
you live with chronic or complex health issues
you feel anxious before appointments
you forget what you wanted to say once you’re in the room
you’ve been dismissed or misunderstood
you want tools, not platitudes
you’re tired of blaming yourself for system failures
Patients, caregivers, and even healthcare providers who want to do better have found this course helpful.
HOW IT WORKS

📬 One email per day for 7 days
⏱️ Short and readable
🧠 Clear, usable language
💛 Always free
No homework.
No pressure.
No perfection required.
You can save them, reread them, or just take what helps.
WHY IT’S FREE

This course is free on purpose.
Because access to advocacy tools shouldn’t depend on money.
Because people already pay too much just to survive.
And because community care matters.
If it helps you feel less alone or more prepared, that’s enough.
START HERE

If you’ve ever thought:
“I just need something that makes this easier,”
“I shouldn’t have to fight this hard,”
“Why does this feel like my fault?”
This course was built for that moment.
You’re not broken.
You’re navigating something hard.
And you don’t have to do it alone.
👉 SIGN UP FOR THE FREE 7-DAY COURSE:

You’re Not Broken — A Course in Medical Self-Advocacy
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01/12/2026

Why Are So Many Resources Free?

Because access matters more than profit.
Most of the courses, tools, and resources here are free on purpose. The people who need patient advocacy support the most are often the ones least able to pay — people who are sick, disabled, caregiving, or already carrying the weight of medical costs.

Charging for basic access would lock out the very people this work exists to support.

There are a small number of courses that charge. Those are typically deeper, more time-intensive offerings that required extended development, structured instruction, or sustained labor. When something does cost money, it’s priced intentionally — usually no more than the cost of one meal out at a restaurant.

That balance is deliberate.

I also offer paid consulting for individuals and organizations who want personalized support, strategy, or real-time problem solving. Consulting is paid because it requires focused time, energy, and capacity — and that work helps keep the rest of the resources accessible.

In short:
Most resources are free so no one is excluded.
Some advanced courses and consulting are paid so the work can be sustainable.

No one is required to pay to access help.

And no one is obligated to donate or book a consult.
This model keeps the door open — and the lights on — without turning access into a privilege.

www.aliveoutofspite.com

01/12/2026

INCLUDED IN THIS FREE DIGITAL BUNDLE

✔ Alive Out of Spite – Patient Basics
A foundational guide for getting oriented when healthcare feels overwhelming. Helps you prepare for appointments, organize your thoughts, and understand what actually matters when you’re short on time or energy.

✔ Spite to Might: A Patient Advocacy Playbook
A step-by-step digital playbook for advocating effectively — especially when you’re tired, dismissed, or unsure how to push back without burning bridges. Built for clarity, not confrontation.

✔ The Spiteful Advocacy Cheat Sheet
A quick-reference tool you can pull up on your phone or tablet when your brain goes blank. Prompts, reminders, and structure for appointments, follow-ups, and next steps.

WHO THIS IS FOR

This bundle is for:
Patients navigating chronic illness or complex care
Caregivers helping someone advocate
People whose brains shut down in appointments
Anyone tired of leaving visits confused, dismissed, or unprepared
You don’t need to be an expert.
You don’t need to be “good at advocating.”
You just need tools that meet you where you are.
WHAT THIS IS (AND ISN’T)

✔ Digital resources — instant access
✔ Designed for low energy and brain fog
✔ Practical, structured, and realistic

✖ Not medical advice
✖ Not a replacement for professional care
✖ Not a motivational course
This is day-to-day advocacy, not theory.

WHY IT’S BUILT THIS WAY

These resources are intentionally designed to be:
Clear instead of overwhelming
Supportive without being patronizing
Flexible enough to use on good days and bad ones
Because access, preparation, and dignity shouldn’t depend on how articulate you feel that day.

FORMAT

📄 Digital download

📱 Phone, tablet, or computer friendly

⏱ Use what you need, when you need it
No shipping. No physical books.
Just tools you can actually use.

🔗

Courses, scripts, and a podcast that turns frustration into results.

01/12/2026

In this episode of Spitefully Yours, I talk about something that absolutely lights me up — people who park in handicapped spaces without authorization and act like it’s no big deal.
It is a big deal.

Those spaces exist for safety, access, and survival — not because someone wanted a closer spot, had their hazards on, or decided a disabled person “didn’t look disabled enough.”

We talk about:
• Why handicapped parking isn’t about distance
• Why invisible disabilities are still disabilities
• The emotional and physical cost when access is blocked
• Why disabled people don’t owe anyone proof or politeness
• The difference between feeling rage and acting on it
• How accountability works without self-destruction

This episode isn’t about being nice.
It’s about being clear.
🎧 Listen here: [https://open.spotify.com/episode/7tdMA1XQm4tkXmX4oRRe0H?si=vlOQSqGkTQ67Yg7yEBL56g]

If this episode helped you put words to something you’ve felt — or made you rethink a behavior you’ve brushed off before — it’s doing its job.
Access is not optional.

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01/11/2026

I made something new — and it’s free.

Alive Out of Spite – Patient Basics is a short, practical mini-course for people who keep ending up in appointments where their brain goes blank, the clock runs out, and nothing lands the way it needs to.

This isn’t about being inspirational.
It’s about being prepared.

If you’ve ever:
frozen when asked “so what brings you in today?”
forgotten half your symptoms under pressure
left an appointment feeling dismissed, rushed, or confused
been told to “advocate for yourself” with no actual tools

This course is for you.

Inside, we cover:
how to figure out what actually matters in short visits
how to get symptoms out of your head and into usable words
how to prepare without burning yourself out
medication + tracking basics (gently, not obsessively)
what to do when care stalls or goes sideways

No paywalls.
No upgrades.
No “buy this to unlock help.”

It’s free because preparation shouldn’t be a luxury.
If staying alive sometimes feels like an act of spite — welcome.

You’re in the right place.
👉 [https://aliveoutofspite.com/b/5RwMv]
Stay alive. Stay prepared. Stay spiteful.

01/11/2026

I need this to be real, not just a mock up.