Supposed To Be Different (2026)

27/07/2026

You have to learn to be okay with disappointment, even when you believe you did everything the right way.
You prayed. You sought God. You tried to move in decency and order.

You were respectful, intentional, and mindful of how you approached the situation. You weren’t doing anything sinful, manipulative, or out of pocket.
And still, the outcome may not look like what you expected.

Sometimes it’s delayed. Sometimes it simply doesn’t happen. Either way, you have to be honest enough to admit that it hurts without treating the disappointment like humiliation.

It isn’t always an “L.” You may not have lost anything.
You may not have embarrassed yourself. You simply expected something to happen, and it didn’t, or it hasn’t happened yet.

As men, rejection is something we learn how to deal with since an adolescent. We don’t enjoy it any more than anyone else; we just learn that we cannot allow it to stop our lives. You accept what happened with grace, keep your dignity, and continue moving.

You can still trust what you believe God showed you without forcing an outcome, chasing anybody, or putting your life on hold.

Sometimes God tells you the end from the beginning but leaves out most of the middle. Not to torment you, but so you remain present and keep returning to Him:
“God, this is where I am now. What do I do next?”

Then He gives the next instruction, not the entire map.
Faith is not pretending you aren’t disappointed. It is being disappointed, remaining obedient, and continuing to live until the next step becomes clear.

26/07/2026

Some personal conversations don’t need to be turned into online content. You’re not looking for a resolution, you’re just looking for attention.

I came across a post where someone said a man deleted his long message after she didn’t respond, then she got online asking, “What does that mean?”

Mind you, this isn't first time we've seen posts like this on social media. They used to post the whole conversation online for the world to see. Some still do.

Then in the comments, she admitted she cared about him and had fallen in love.

Respectfully… that’s loser behavior.

And the wild part is, most of the comments, men and women, had the same sentiment: “Why didn’t you just respond?”

If someone is vulnerable enough to communicate with you and you choose not to respond, don’t act confused when they remove the message, their energy, or their access.
At that point, you’re choosing public attention over private communication.

You could’ve responded. You could’ve said you weren’t interested. You could’ve said you needed time. Heck you could’ve even asked ChatGPT what to say if you were stuck. 😂

But ignoring someone, enjoying the attention, then posting about it like you don’t know what happened is corny.

Everybody doesn’t delete because they’re playing games. Sometimes they delete because they realized they were talking to someone who wasn’t mature enough to communicate directly.

Now imagine buddy coming across that post...

If you’re not interested, say that.
If you are interested, stop playing in people’s face.
Communication doesn’t have to be perfect.
It just needs to be honest.
First impressions still matter.
So does character.

Again, going to back to phrase a wise man use to say,

"Grow up before you go up."

15/07/2026

“I told you to be at peace about it and to be patient.”

For many of us, God will show us the end from the beginning.

But He may not show us every part in the middle.

Sometimes He gives simple instructions:

Don’t do this.
Do that when the time comes.
Be still.
Wait.
Be at peace.

And sometimes He says nothing else until we are in the real-time moment of needing the next step.

Why?

Because Proverbs 3:5-6 says to trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not to your own understanding, acknowledge Him in all your ways, and He will direct your path.

That is the point.

He wants to direct our path.

Not just give us the promise and let us run wild with our own interpretation.

I remember asking God, “Please don’t let me feel stupid about this.”

He never said, “Okay, I got you.”

I kept asking. Even in the real-time moment.

Afterward? Nothing.

And I can admit, sometimes I act like a spoiled child when I talk to the Father.

“Father, I asked You not to let me feel stupid, and look what happened…”

Nothing.

Then Yahuah God reminded me:

“I told you to be at peace about it and to be patient.”

That was the instruction.

Not force it.
Not explain it.
Not prove it.
Not apply pressure.

Be at peace.
Be patient.
Let it play out.

Play your role. Play your position. Nothing more.

Sometimes the simple instruction is the part that requires the most trust.

Think about Gideon.

Manz had a whole army, and God was like, “Meh, that’s too many. Y’all gone take all the clout, and I’ma need all that.” lol

So He reduced the army down to 300 men.

And they still defeated the Midianites with horns, jars, and obedience.

God had already prepared the victory.

So what does this have to do with relationships?

A lot.

We’ve been taught to do the most.

Apply pressure.
Chase.
Prove.
Over-explain.
Force clarity.

But in many cases, if you have to do all of that, that person may not be for you.

The principle still stands:

Not by might, nor by power, but by the Spirit of God.

Do your part.

Trust God with His.

A wise man used to say:

“We’ve done practical. Now we trust God to do the providential.”

Don’t overexert yourself“I told you to be at peace about it and to be patient.

09/07/2026

“Everybody wants what they want.”

That’s something I told one of my students almost 10 years ago.

At the time, I was teaching Spanish at a middle school. One of my students unknowingly met an ex of mine while getting her hair done and came back saying, “Mr. Arnold, I met your girlfriend.”

I told her, “I don’t have a girlfriend.” 😂

Once she explained who she meant, she found out we had dated before and that the woman was now married.
Naturally, she wanted to know what happened.

I wasn’t about to explain grown relationship drama to kid, so I told her:

“Everybody wants what they want.”

Almost 10 years later, that phrase still sticks with me.
At the time, I didn’t fully understand the weight of what I was saying. But that relationship helped me examine not only that situation, but many of my previous relationships and experiences too.

The truth is, we all want what we want. Nobody is exempt.
Wanting something isn’t automatically bad. When two people genuinely want each other and it’s mutual, that can be beautiful.

But for a believer, the deeper question is:

Is this just a good thing, or is it a God thing?

Something can look good, feel right, and make sense, while still not being what God has for you.
You also have to genuinely be okay with the outcome, even when you believe God has revealed something to you.

God may show you something, but that doesn’t mean another person will receive the same revelation, interpret it the same way, or even want what God may be presenting to them.

Sometimes what God reveals won’t fit what friends, family, or even the person themselves think their life should look like.

Samuel is a perfect example. When he saw Eliab, he assumed he had found the next king. Eliab looked the part, but God corrected Samuel and reminded him that man looks at outward appearance while God looks at the heart.

What if Samuel had insisted on what made sense to him?

God can reveal, warn, and redirect. But people still have choices.

Sometimes what we want and what God wants align.
Sometimes we don't.

Everybody wants what they want.

The real question is:

Is what I want aligned with what God wants for me?

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