06/29/2025
ባለቤትሽ (የፍቅር ጓድሽ) እንዳይተውሽ ማድረግ ካሉብሽ ጥንቃቄዎች ውስጥ፦
፩) ወንዶች በማይከበሩበት ቦታ መቆየት
አይፈልጉም።
ይህ ኩራት ወይም እብሪተኝነት አይደለም።
የክብራቸውና የማንነታቸው ጉዳይ ነው። እንደ
አክብሮት ማጣት ወንዶችን የሚያናድዳቸው
ነገር የለም። ራሳቸው ለራሳቸው ካልሆኑ
ማንም እንደማይመጣላቸው ስለሚያውቁ
እራሳቸውንም ሌላውንም ያስከብራሉ።
ስለዚህ በቀልድ መሀልም ቢሆን ክብሩን
ከመንካት ተቆጠቢ። ወንድ በክብሩና በማንነቱ
ጉዳይ ስሜታዊ ነው።
፪) ወዳጅ ዘመዶቹን አክብሪ።
ልክ እንደ ራሱ የወዳጅ ዘመዱን ክብር
ስለምፈልግ ጠብቂለት። እንዳትወጃቸው
የሚያደርግሽ ምክንያት ብታገኝ እንኳን
ክብራቸውን አትቀንሽ።
፫) ሙያተኛ ሁኝ።
ሌላው ቢቀር በምግብ አሰራር ከየትኛዋም ሴት
ያነሰች አትሁኝ። ያልቻልሽውን ተማሪ፤ ጠይቂ።
ያቀረበልሽን ጨምረሽ እንጅ አጉድለሽ
አትስጭ። አጣፍጠሽ ስሪ። በዚህ ምክንያት
የሚኮራብሽ እንጅ የሚሸማቀቅብሽ አትሁኝ።
፬) ምስጢር ጠባቂ ሁኝ።
ከእሱና ከቤተሰባችሁ ጋር ያለው ጉዳይ
ገመናችሁ ስለሆነ ለማንም አትንገሪ።
ምስጢሩን ስትጠብቂ የበለጠ ትታመኛለሽ።
ጉድለት ካለበት ሁለታችሁ ጨርሱት።
፭) ሀሜተኛ አትሁኝ።
ስትገናኙ ስለራሳችሁ፣ ስለስራችሁ ካልሆነ
በስተቀር ማንንም እያነሳሽ አትሚ። ሀሜት
የሀጢአት ስር መሆኗንም አስቢ።
፮) ንጽህናሽንና ውበትሽን ጠብቂ።
የራስሽንና የቤትሽን ንጽህና እንዲሁም
ውበትሽን ጠብቂ። ወንድ ዝርክርክ ያለ ነገር
አይወድም።
፯) አባካኝ አትሁኝ።
እሱ ደክሞ አንቺ ደክመሽ የምታገኙትን
በአግባቡ ተጠቀሙ። ከመጠን በላይ ስታወጭ
ልፋቱን እንደናቅሽበት ሊያስብ ይችላል።
፰) ቅናት ካለብሽ ቀንሽ።
መውደድሽ ቅናት ሊያመጣብሽ ቢችልም ከልክ
እንዳያልፍ ተጠንቀቂ። ቅናት ጥርጣሬ
ያመጣል። ጥርጣሬ ደግሞ ጭቅጭቅና ጥል
ያስከትላል። በማንኛውም ሁኔታ ውስጥ
አብረሽው መሆንሽን ብቻ አሳይው።
እንዳመንሽው ሲያይ የበለጠ ይታመንሻል።
፱) ኃላፊነት አትፍሪ።
ቤተሰብን በመምራት፣ በማህበራዊ ግንኙነት
የሚመጣውን ኃላፊነት በመቀበልና
በመወጣትና መሰል ጉዳዮች ላይ ከእሱ ጋር
እየተናበብሽ ፈጽሚ። ጀግናው ያደርግሻል።
፲) ቤቱ ሰላሙ ነውና ሰላሙን እንዲያገኝ እርጅው።
በቤቱ ማረፍ፣ መረጋጋት፣ ሰላም ማግኘት፣
ራሱን ማዳመጥ ከቤተሰቡ ጋር ማሳለፍ
ይፈልጋል። አብዛኛው ወንድ እርጋታና
ብልሃት እንጅ ጫጫታ፣ ክርክር፣
ጭቅጭቅና ግርግር አይፈልግም።
፲፩) በወሬ አትሸበሪ።
አንቺንና እሱን ወይም ቤተሰባችሁን
የሚመለከት ወሬ ከተለያየ ቦታ ሊደርስሽ
ይችላል። ወዲያው ሰምተሽ ለብቻሽ
አትወስኝ። ወሬ ብዙ ቤት አፍርሷልና
መጀመሪያ ከእሱ ጋር ተወያዩበት።
፲፪) በሚያደርገው ጥረትና ልፋት ሁሉ ከጎኑ ሁኝ።
ድጋፍሽ በተግባር ጭምር ይሁ። ፍላጎቱን
አክብሪ፤ ገደቡን አትለፊ፤ አትፈታተኝው።
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Among the precautions you should take to prevent your husband (lover) from leaving you:
1) Men don't want to be in a place where they are not respected.
This is not pride or arrogance.
It is a matter of their honor and identity. Nothing annoys them like this lack of respect.
They know that, if they are not for themselves, no one will come and protect them. So, they try to protect themselves and others.
So, avoid touching his honor
even in the midst of a joke. A man is sensitive about his honor and identity.
2) Respect his friends and relatives.
Like his one, he wants the honor of his friends and relatives to be respected. Even if you find a reason to dislike them, don't diminish their honor.
3) Be a professional.
At least, don't be less than any woman
in cooking. Ask for what you can't do.
Don't give him less than what he offered to you. Cook it sweet. Make him proud of you.
4) Be a keeper of secrets.
Since the matter with him and your family is private, don't tell anyone.
He will trust you more when you keep the secret. If there is a problem, first, both of you should discuss it.
5) Don't be a gossiper.
Discuss about yourself and your works instead of others. Remember that gossip is the root of sin.
6) Maintain your cleanliness and beauty.
Maintain the cleanliness of yourself and your home, as well as
your beauty. A man
doesn't like dirty things.
7) Don't be wasteful.
Use your things properly. If you spend too much, he may think that you are disrespecting his efforts.
8) Although your love may make you jealous, be careful not to overdo it. Jealousy brings suspicion. Suspicion also brings arguments and hostility. In any situation, just show that you are with your man. When he sees that you trust him, he will trust you more.
9) Don't be afraid of responsibility.
Be consistent with him in managing the family, accepting and fulfilling responsibilities that come with social relationships, and similar issues. The, he will make you his hero.
10) Help him find peace.
In his house, he wants to rest, be calm, find peace, and spend time with his family. Most men don't want much noise, arguments, and chaos, but calmness and intelligence.
11) Don't be terrified by rumors.
Rumors about you, him, or your families may come from different directions. Don't immediately take them for granted. They have destroyed many families.
Talk to your man him first.
12) Be by his side in all his efforts and endeavors.
Be your support in action as well.
Respect his desires; don't exceed his limits; don't challenge him excessively.
