10/21/2022
People would tell me, lean into fear and it wasn’t until I started accepting my fears that I was really able to look at them and CHOOSE how I wanted to relate with them.
Do I want to be afraid of heights or flying- no not really.
Snakes? - Nope, not them either (respectfully weary of the venomous ones though)
Do I want to be afraid of showing up for myself? Deeply NO! (which many times in the past I haven’t shown up for myself because I’ve judged how I was moving, partly because if CPTSD but mostly because I hadn’t yet learned to face it and integrate)
Do I want to be afraid of people who push boundaries? Absolutely not- instead I want to hold boundaries with compassion, discipline, love and care for myself.
Choosing that takes knowing myself, sure, and practicing boundaries, AND it takes being able to identify when my ‘being fearful’ of holding a boundary comes to the surface and by accepting it as a fear (or something I was once afraid of, it doesn’t have the same power over me and I can choose how to relate with it).
I have many more examples 😅
How did I learn to accept that particular fear? Lots of shadow work, self reflection/meta cognition to re -wire my brain (mindfulness, meditation, prayer, breathwork, journaling, reading, exploring these topics with others who practice self awareness, taking action, being in/with nature, and creating legacy impact videos). Doing these things and practicing gratitude for BEING in all its chaotic mystery helps me move with fear, into courage in all aspects of my life. And there was a time I thought it to be impossible for ‘me’, so if I can do it, I believe you can too.
These are some tools I’ve used, but I’m sure there are others!
I’m curious to hear ways you show up to courage 🤔
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Do you find accepting fear helps you in that process?
What are some other things that help?
