07/06/2025
"It happens that I'm a single mom of one. The guy that got me pregnant, his parents said their son is not ready to be a father, & that I should abhøt it. They sent me away, & I was scared of abhø""rtiøñ.
My father is so strict, so I was scared to tell them at home. But my mom eventually knew I was pregnant; she got so upset but was scared to tell my dad about it. So, out of annoyance, she eventually told my dad, & he was so angry & sent me out of the house.
My mom called her elder sister in the village and told her everything, pleading with her to please allow me to stay with her, and she accepted. So, I went to my mom's village and lived with her sister till I gave birth. After I gave birth, I came back to Lagos and apologized to my dad, and he accepted me, but deep inside, he is still angry.
Then, I started looking for a job. My mom started taking care of my son while I worked in a factory, doing shift work. After three years, sadly, my mom died. Since then, life has been so difficult for me. I've been struggling and struggling. My dad got married to another woman, so I had to move out of his house and rent a room.
Along the line, I was learning fashion design while working in the factory. Later, they eventually stopped us from factory work. After finishing my fashion design course, I graduated, but I don't have a shop yet. I got a job in a big supermarket so I could save up and get my own shop. My son is 10 years old.
One day, my friend invited me to a party, and I met a guy there. He requested my number, but I ignored him. However, he kept disturbing me, and I told him I wasn't interested in giving out my number. He pleaded and promised not to disturb me, so I gave him my number.
Later, we started talking, and he said he wanted to date me, but I declined. For good three months, he kept disturbing me. So, I told him any man that would date me would date my son along with me, and he accepted. He told me he didn't need a girlfriend; he needed a wife, and he really wanted me. So, I accepted.
He stays in Ogun State, while I stay in Lagos. He kept inviting me to his place, but I ignored him. I told him he should come instead, and he came. We sat at a restaurant and talked. I told him my past, and he told me his past too. He called his siblings and asked me to talk to them.
After a month, he invited me again, and I ignored him. I told him to come instead, and he came again. This time, we had protected s*x, and he left. A month later, I started feeling unwell, and I did a test, which came out positive. I was so mad at myself because I never planned for this. So, I called him and told him. He was happy and told me not to abort it, that he would come to Lagos with his family and meet my parents.
I was happy and a bit relieved. My pregnancy was going into its second month, and he never showed up. I didn't see him. He kept telling me he would come, but he didn't. So, I told him to let me come instead. He said I should wait, & immediately he said that, I knew I was in trouble.
When I was 3 months pregnant, we fixed a date for him to come with his family. On that day, he disappointed me; he never showed up. I was depressed; I couldn't even concentrate at work anymore. My boss noticed I was pregnant & stopped me from coming to work.
By then, the only solution that came to my mind was abortion. I tried so many things, but the baby was stubborn & still inside. So, at 4 months, this guy called me & was pleading, saying he never wished to disappoint me but life wasn't fair to him, & things weren't going well for him, which is why he didn't come. He said I should pls understand & abhørt the pregnancy cuz, as we speak, he is on his way to Libya, because his friend asked him to come & work there.
I begged this guy not to go, that we could still work things out here together as a couple and build together. But he cut off the phone, and since then, the number hasn't been going. I've made the biggest mistake of my life, and I'm about to be a single mom again.
I'm confused, & I'm depressed. What have I done wrong to deserve this kind of life?😭
I'm writing this with tears on my face😭
I don't deserve to live in this world😭
All I want is someone who can take care of my 11-year-old son so I can rest in peace cuz I don't deserve to leave in this world😭
Everything I saved from all the work I've been doing in my whole life, I've sold everything to pay for my son's school fees, house rent, and feeding. So, what else remains? And I can't work cuz of pregnancy. Is this how I'm going to leave my entire life?😭
That's why I'm writing this; please, I need help. Someone who can take care of my son, so I can be at peace if I'm nø, møre😭😭
Pls help😭😭"
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