Take Control ADHD

10/06/2026

Can we talk about the room you close the door on before company comes? 🚪

Maybe it's the guest room. Maybe it's the dining table that hasn't been a table since spring. Maybe it's the bins of decorations that never quite made it back to the garage.

And now the holidays are coming. More stuff. More people. More decisions.

We see this over and over. The problem isn't that you don't care or haven't tried. Every item in that pile is a decision waiting to be made With ADHD, decisions are the heavy part.

It's not the clutter. It's the decisions.

What's your "close the door" spot? 👇

10/04/2026

Every item on your to-do list is shouting at you at the same volume.

A quick errand and a major deadline put the same knot in your stomach. You freeze. Or you scroll. Then you wonder what's wrong with you.

Nothing is wrong with you. You're not bad at prioritizing. Your brain is missing a filter most people never have to think about.

In this FREE guide, you’ll walk through:

🔊 Why everything arrives at the same volume
🚪 The hidden “no” behind every “yes”
📋 Why your list starts to feel like a report card on you as a person

Each reason comes with one small thing to try this week. There's no new system to keep up with.

📥 Download free → https://takecontroladhd.com/3reasons

10/02/2026

Ask yourself on a good day how your week is going, then ask again on a bad day. Chances are, you'll get two different weeks.

Same seven days. Same things happened. The account comes out differently when the narrator's perspective shifts.

💭 I didn't get anything done this week.
💭 That only took me twenty minutes.
💭 I know I already told them that.

Researchers working independently have landed on the same conclusion: people with ADHD aren't reliable witnesses to their own behavior. Not dishonesty. It's how the information gets stored in the first place.

This week's blog digs into where the account bends—working memory, time blindness, mood—and what actually helps. Not more self-awareness. Backup.

You're not a bad witness. You're working with a brain that stores the story differently.

📣 Community Sound Off:
Where does your memory leave you hanging most often?
📬 Email
💬 Text messages
🗣️ In-person conversations

Let us know your memory’s kryptonite in the comments.

You'd swear you already sent that email. A look at why ADHD makes for such a shaky witness to its own behavior, and three ways to get a clearer picture than memory alone can offer

10/01/2026

🎧 This Week on The ADHD Podcast…
You'd swear you sent that email. You can picture yourself writing it. And then you find it, unsent, still marked unread. 🤦

This week, Pete and Nikki borrow the literary idea of the unreliable narrator to explore why ADHD makes us shaky witnesses to our own lives.

🎙️ Quoteworthy Moment of the Week:
"You weren't lying to anybody. You told them what you remembered. The memory was wrong, and nothing inside your head ever flagged it as wrong. It felt exactly like every other accurate memory you have ever had."
— Pete Wright

🧰 Takeaway Tips for Your ADHD Toolbox:
• Third time’s the charm: You are not a reliable witness to your own ADHD.
• Mood decides what you're able to see, which makes self-report a moving target.
• Discover three places to get information that doesn't depend on your memory.

➡️ Tune in to this week’s brand new episode on your favorite pod catcher, or follow the link below.

You'd swear you already answered that email, and you'd be wrong. Nikki and Pete go live on why the ADHD brain is such a shaky witness to its own behavior, and where to get better information when you can't trust your own account.

10/01/2026

Three different guests on the podcast last season said the same thing, and none of them knew the others had said it:

"You are not a reliable witness to your ADHD." 🔍

That's not because you're dishonest. Working memory, time blindness and your mood all shape the story you tell yourself about your day. The task that "took 15 minutes" really took 45. The good week somehow felt like a bad one.

In tomorrow's TCA newsletter, Nikki's writing about what to do when the unreliable narrator is you. She'll share some kinder, more accurate ways to see what really happened.

The newsletter goes out every Thursday. It's one honest look at living with ADHD, with no pressure and nothing to catch up on.

📩 Sign up free → takecontroladhd.com/newsletter

09/29/2026

You'd swear you answered that email.

You can picture yourself typing it. You'd testify to it in court. ✋

Then you go look... and it's still sitting there with the little unread dot.

Or maybe yours is the other way around. 🔄

You're sure you forgot. You feel awful about it all morning. Then you find out you sent it. Twice.

You weren't lying either time. Your memory just didn't warn you that anything was off. With ADHD, a wrong memory feels exactly like a right one.

That's not carelessness. It's how your brain holds onto (and lets go of) the moments of your day.

Which version is yours? Sent or unsent? Tell us in the comments 👇

09/26/2026

Somebody asks how you're doing. You answered before you've even checked.

“Fine.”

It's the smallest mask most of us wear, and probably the one we reach for most. Not the protective kind you put on for a hard meeting or a room that doesn't feel safe. The automatic kind. The one that's been running so long you've lost the off switch.

💭 I said "fine" before I knew if it was true.
💭 Nobody checks on someone who looks okay.
💭 I don't have an answer ready, so I give the easy one.

This week, the blog digs into what that gap actually costs, why the home version is quieter and in some ways worse, and how to let the mask slip on purpose—with one person, in one safe moment.

Who are you performing “fine” for right now?

Follow the link below to check out this week's blog post. 👇

📣 Community Sound Off:
Fill in the blank: The next time I want to say “fine,” I will try ______.

You say it a dozen times a day before you've even checked if it's true. A look at the smallest mask most of us wear, what it actually costs, and one small way to let it slip on purpose.

09/25/2026

🎧 This Week on The ADHD Podcast…
"Fine" is the smallest mask you wear, and probably the one you reach for most. This week, what it's costing you, and what changes when you let it slip on purpose.

🎁 BONUS: FREE DOWNLOAD!
Download the companion worksheet, “Where Am I Wearing Fine”, to help you spot your own pattern.

🎙️ Quoteworthy Moment of the Week:
"You can't lower a mask that you don't know you're wearing."
— Nikki Kinzer

🧰 Takeaway Tips for Your ADHD Toolbox:
• One "fine" is nothing. A week of them is a default setting.
• Your body clocks the performance before you consciously do.
• You don't have to rip off the mask—offer the choice instead.

➡️ Tune in to this week’s more-than-fine episode wherever you like to listen to podcasts, or follow the link below.

"Fine" is the smallest mask you wear, and probably the one you reach for most. This week, what it's costing you, and what changes when you let it slip on purpose.

09/22/2026

"How was your day?"
"Fine."

My husband has heard that answer from me enough times to know what it really means. 😅

This week's newsletter starts with that conversation, and what my "fine" was actually covering for.

Fine might be the smallest mask we wear. And probably the one we reach for the most.

Tomorrow I'm sharing the one honest sentence I've started using instead, and how much lighter it feels.

📬 Not on the list yet? Join here: https://takecontroladhd.com/newsletter

What does "fine" usually mean when you say it? 👇

09/21/2026

I am excited to share that I will be speaking at the Transformation Gap Summit, September 24-29.
This summit is built around a question that affects all of us:
Why can we understand exactly what needs to change and still struggle to follow through?
My session, "Start Owning Your Day: Planning with ADHD" will explore how traditional planning was never built for ADHD brains and how to build one that finally is.
I am joining more than 100 voices across six days to help people better understand what gets in the way of transformation and what can finally help it take hold.
The summit is online and free to attend.
Join me here:

Cross the gap between knowing what needs to change—and consistently living it. Register free for September 24–29, 2026.