Better Regulate Than Never

Better Regulate Than Never I am a teen anxiety coach. I teach the skills to quiet the anxious brain.

06/03/2026

We spent years helping kids get INTO college. 🎓

Scholarships. ACT scores. Applications. College lists.

But nobody told them what happens after move-in day.

The loneliness. The self-doubt. The moment you wonder, "Am I even supposed to be here?"

I know — because I lived it. And I didn't have to.

This summer, I'm helping students prepare for the REAL college experience — the emotional side that no one talks about but research shows makes all the difference in whether students stay.

If you have a senior heading off to college, let's talk. đź’¬ Your investment in their education is too big to leave to chance.

06/03/2026

We spent years helping kids get INTO college. 🎓

Scholarships. ACT scores. Applications. College lists.

But nobody told them what happens after move-in day.

The loneliness. The self-doubt. The moment you wonder, "Am I even supposed to be here?"

I know — because I lived it. And I didn't have to.

This summer, I'm helping students prepare for the REAL college experience — the emotional side that no one talks about but research shows makes all the difference in whether students stay.

This summer, I'm helping students prepare for the REAL college experience — the emotional side that no one talks about, but research shows makes all the difference in whether students stay.

06/02/2026

Heading to college this fall? 🎓 Let’s make sure you actually thrive, not just survive.

The first week is all excitement, but what happens when reality sets in around September or October? (You know, when roommate drama starts or the classes get actually hard?)

That’s where I come in. My summer program gives you:
✨ 4 weeks of one-on-one summer coaching to map your strengths & build unstoppable confidence.
✨ A dedicated safety net in the fall to help you navigate the "wonky" phase of campus life.

Spaces are limited for this cohort!

👇 Click the link in my bio or DM me "COLLEGE" to secure your spot today!

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What if optimism isn’t enough?I have always thought of optimism as one of my greatest strengths.I’m an Enneagram 7.My #...
06/01/2026

What if optimism isn’t enough?

I have always thought of optimism as one of my greatest strengths.

I’m an Enneagram 7.
My #1 CliftonStrengths theme is Positivity.
I naturally look for the sunshine, the possibility, the hope.

So when I heard about the Stockdale Paradox — and learned that, in POW camps, the “optimists” were often the ones who struggled the most, I couldn't believe it!

Because the problem wasn’t hope.

The problem was hope without a plan.

And I immediately thought about college freshmen.

So many students head off to college full of excitement:

“I’m going to make new friends.”
“I’m going to love my classes.”
“I’m finally going to be independent.”
“This is going to be amazing.”

And it might be.

But there are also brutal facts we need to prepare them for:

They may feel lonely.
They may feel behind.
They may not know how to study.
They may miss home.
They may struggle with roommates, professors, time management, or anxiety.

That doesn’t mean college isn’t for them.

It means they need grounded optimism — the ability to hold both truths at the same time:

“This may be hard.”
“And I can learn how to handle it.”

In this week’s episode of The Teen Anxiety Maze, I’m talking about optimism, the Stockdale Paradox, my own story of dropping out of college in October, and why our teens need more than encouragement before they launch into college.

They need support.
They need tools.
They need someone to help them name what is hard while reminding them who they are.

🎧 Listen to the new episode. The link is in the comments.

And if you have a high school senior heading to college this fall, message me. I’m opening a small summer support program to help incoming freshmen build confidence before they leave — and have support when things start getting real in September and October. Let me know if you want to protect your college investment: https://cheerful-writer-462.kit.com/e6b4d86d8e

Nobody warned me about this part of parenting.Not the part when they're little and exhausting, and you're running on no ...
05/26/2026

Nobody warned me about this part of parenting.

Not the part when they're little and exhausting, and you're running on no sleep. Everyone talks about that part.

I mean the part when they're older. When they don't call as much. When they stop asking for your opinion. When you realize your role has quietly shifted, and nobody handed you a manual for what comes next.

That transition — from being the one who holds everything together to watching from the sidelines — can bring up so much. Grief. Relief. Confusion. A little longing. Sometimes all of it in the same afternoon.

This month I've been sharing some of my favorite parent coaches as part of my Mental Health Awareness Month collaboration, and I saved this one for last because this one is closest to my parenting stage right now.

Leah Davidson of the Building Resilience podcast talks about the idea that with older kids, connection doesn't deepen with more effort. It deepens with more restraint.

That our calm creates more closeness than our advice ever will.

That doing less doesn't mean caring less. It means trusting more.

And that the most powerful thing we can model for our kids right now isn't how to fix things — it's how to stay regulated when things feel hard.

If you've ever bitten your tongue on a phone call, felt the pull to jump in and rescue, or wondered how to stay close without pushing them further away, this episode was made for you.

Listen to my take on this parenting stage and Leah's great episode. Link in the comments.

And tell me — what stage of parenting are you in right now? I'd love to know. 👇

For a long time, I thought mentally strong parents were just... calmer than me. More patient. Born with something I didn...
05/20/2026

For a long time, I thought mentally strong parents were just... calmer than me. More patient. Born with something I didn't have.

Turns out, it's not about personality. It's about practice.

Swipe for the 4 things that separate reactive parenting from resilient parenting — and save this for the next time you need a reminder. 🤍

Listen to my podcast, The Teen Anxiety Maze, to hear from a new expert every Monday in May! Link in the comments.

I'm so excited to share Dawn Friedman's podcast — it's called "Tell Me It Will Be Okay". I love that name because I thin...
05/18/2026

I'm so excited to share Dawn Friedman's podcast — it's called "Tell Me It Will Be Okay". I love that name because I think that's what so many of us are walking around wanting someone to say to us.

Her topic this week is something called "Judiciously Giving Up".
So many times when our kids (or honestly, when WE) say "this is the problem" — the teacher is mean, the kids won't talk to me, my child won't sleep alone — when we dig down into all the nuance of what's actually happening... the original thing? It's usually not the real problem.

And sometimes we have to give up on what we "thought" the problem was — or what we thought things "should" look like — so we can actually see what's right in front of us and figure out how to work with that reality.

That goes hand in hand with something I talk about a lot:

The unwritten rulebook for how people should act, how timelines should go, how our kids should turn out. And when life doesn't follow that manual, we want to fix it. But fixing other people — whether it's our neighbors, our partners, or our kids — never really works.

So as you listen to this episode, I want you to ask yourself:

Where are you holding onto something rigid?

A timeline, a standard, an idea of who your child is supposed to be? What might open up if you gave that up, judiciously?

Go listen. I think you're really going to love it.

Link in the Comments

05/14/2026

Are you feeling that "August Anxiety"?

For 18 years, you’ve been the driver, but as graduation fades in the rearview, the scenery is changing. Soon, your teen will be the one steering through a world where you legally lose "Manager" access the moment they turn 18.

I’m looking for 5 Founding Families for the Beta pilot of The Resilient Launch Protocol. This 12-week intensive is designed to be your "Retention Insurance Policy," helping your teen build an Independence Blueprint so they can handle adulting—from budgets to "logistical melts"—without calling you for the solution.

The Beta Deal:
50% Discount: Get the full 1:1 coaching experience at half price.

The "Hardball" Partner: I'll be their external accountability partner during the high-risk "October Slump," so you can just be the supportive mom.

Your Part: Provide honest feedback and a brief video testimonial at the end.

Don't let your tuition investment go unprotected. Join the waitlist today to secure your spot for the July launch!

https://forms.gle/Xpg4yJ7zK5VFJAh29

05/12/2026

A "Zero GPA" is expensive. đź’¸

I recently saw a student almost miss his AP exam.

It wasn’t because he wasn’t smart. He’s brilliant.

He just didn’t check the location. He was waiting for someone to tell him where to go.

This happens in high school, and it’s a "bummer." But when it happens in October of Freshman year? It’s a disaster.

Parents, once they turn 18 and move into that dorm, your "manager" access is over. You can’t call the registrar. You can’t find their classroom for them.

The Resilient Launch: Bridge Edition is designed to fix this.

âś… July: We build the "Independence Blueprint" (Schedule & Logistics).

âś… Sept/Oct: I stay on as their external accountability partner to ensure they don't miss those critical first midterms.

I’m looking for 5 "Founding Families" to protect their investment this fall.

Join the Waitlist here:

https://forms.gle/AMNEkjfyEuo3Z64V8

I’m getting personal in today's podcast episode. I’m sharing a story from when my son Jake was young. I was still figuri...
05/11/2026

I’m getting personal in today's podcast episode. I’m sharing a story from when my son Jake was young. I was still figuring out how to be a parent while I was practically still a kid myself.

We’ve all had those mornings where nothing goes right, the kids aren't listening, and we react in ways we regret. I used to beat myself up for days, but I’ve learned that "Repair" is the most important skill we can have.

Pam Howard (of the Less Drama More Mama podcast) says that these moments are actually gifts. They show us where we still have work to do and give us a chance to model an apology for our kids.

What’s one way you show yourself grace after a tough parenting day?

Follow Less Drama More Mama for more calm and confidence.

Link to listen is in the comments.

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