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On my show, I aim to create a space that allows ourselves and, you the listener to hear other points of view. By means of a constructive dialogue.

After all, when you walk in Other People's Shoes you get a different perspective!

12/08/2026

New Episode! "Hate Myself"

⚠️ CONTENT WARNING: This post and episode discuss depression, grief, suicidal ideation, and su***de.
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🎙️ HATE MYSELF
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These are the words I have been avoiding. For years, I sit behind the microphone and ask other people to share the hardest parts of their stories. This time, I give up the host’s chair. For the first time in the history of Other People’s Shoes, my friend Dr. Amy Watson takes the microphone, asks the difficult questions, and invites me to tell the truth about one of the darkest moments of my life.
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I return to the beginning of April, when one Sunday morning sends me into a spiral of depression, grief, and self-hatred. One week later, I sit in a hotel room in Portland and confess to my wife, Elizabeth, that I have made a plan to end my life. Those words are not easy to write. They are even harder to say out loud.
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The title Hate Myself is inspired by NF’s song because it gives language to something I do not want to admit: The hardest person on The List for me to forgive is myself.
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The artwork for this episode is created for me by Amy’s friend, Hollis. Before we record, Amy tells me that Hollis has died by su***de. Now, when I look at the shoes she created, they carry an entirely different meaning. They remind me that we never fully know what another person is carrying. They remind me why we have to tell the truth. And they remind me that even in the darkest moments, there are still people to reach for, steps left to take, and things worth living for.
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This is the most vulnerable episode I have ever released. It is raw. It is painful. It is real. But I am still here to tell the story. And maybe someone listening needs to know they can still be here too.
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"Hate Myself" is available now on opspodcast.com
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If you are struggling, call or text 988 to reach the Su***de & Crisis Lifeline. Please tell someone. Please stay. ***dePrevention

⚠️ CONTENT WARNING: This post and episode discuss depression, grief, suicidal ideation, and su***de. 📝 🎙️ HATE MYSELF 📝 These are the words I have been avoiding. Fo…

11/08/2026

5 Star Review: Pouring with Purpose

"Neil is an engaging and enjoyable host. He asks thought provoking questions, and his creativity and energy are assets; it is evident that he is mindful of the guest experience while serving the listening audience in the best w…

Pouring with Purpose. Published August 8, 2026 by TotallyTD on Apple Podcasts.

05/08/2026

New Episode! "Party"

PARTY | EPISODE 400 🎙️👟

I named this episode “Party” before I knew it would become the 400th episode of Other People’s Shoes.

Funny how things work out. 🎉

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Reaching 400 episodes is absolutely worth celebrating, but this conversation is about much more than a milestone.

It is about finding your voice, facing your hurt, and recognizing the moment when change begins. 🔥🗣️

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Have you ever heard something on the radio that stopped you in your tracks? 📻

Maybe it was an advertisement, a speaker, a song, or one sentence that arrived at exactly the right moment.

For Shā Sparks, something she heard caused her to grab a pen and start writing on a napkin. 🖊️

That small decision became the beginning of something much bigger.

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Shā shares how she begins reclaiming her voice and understanding the pain underneath her anger.

Because sometimes anger is not the deepest emotion.

Sometimes anger is protecting hurt we have never been willing to name. 💔

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Is anger poison? ☠️

Is anger a mirror? 🪞

Could anger become a teacher? 📚

Are we willing to become silent long enough to hear what it is trying to tell us? 🤫

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Shā reminds us that transformation does not always begin with a huge announcement.

Sometimes it starts with a message on the radio, a pen in your hand, and the closest napkin you can find. 📻🖊️

One small moment can become the beginning of a whole new direction.

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Yes, this is episode 400. 🎉

But the real reason to celebrate is every guest who has trusted us with their story and every listener who continues to walk in other people’s shoes. 👟🩵

Whether this is your first episode or you have been here for all 400, I am incredibly grateful you are part of this journey.

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The name could not be more fitting.

Welcome to the Party. 🎊🔥🎙️

Listen now at OPSpodcast.com

🎉 PARTY | EPISODE 400🎙️👟 I named this episode “Party” before I knew it would become the 400th episode of Other People’s Shoes. Funny how things work out. 🎉 📝 Reachi…

29/07/2026

New Episode! "Flashlight"

FLASHLIGHT 🔦

⚠️ CONTENT WARNING: This episode discusses depression, grief, suicidal ideation, and su***de.

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What is the best flashlight on the market? 🔦

According to Ava’s review, the LiteForce produces up to 20,000 lumens, powerful enough to cut through darkness and help you see what is right in front of you.

📝 But this episode is not really about a flashlight.

It is about recognizing when we need one.

📝 Patrick Lomantini describes himself as someone who became a great liar.

He lies to others.

He creates different versions of himself.

And eventually, he begins believing his own lies.

😔 “I’m fine.”

🎭 “I have everything under control.”

🌑 “It isn’t that dark.”

💭 “It isn’t that bad.”

📝 Maybe that is what makes darkness so dangerous.

We adjust to it.

We hide what we are feeling.

We keep walking as though we can still see clearly.

Until we realize we cannot find our way out alone.

📝 Sometimes the most powerful flashlight is the truth. 🔦

✨ Truth exposes what we have been hiding.

✨ Truth brings the lies into focus.

✨ Truth helps us ask for help.

✨ Truth gives us enough light to take the next step.

📝 In this episode of Other People’s Shoes, Patrick and I ask:

❓ What is the first lie you ever tell yourself?

And what happens when your own name appears on The List?

📝 🎧 “Flashlight” is available now at OPSpodcast.com.

📝 🆘 If you are experiencing a suicidal crisis or emotional distress, call or text 988.

🔦 What if the most dangerous lie is the one convincing you it isn’t really that dark? 📝 🎙️ PATRICK LOMANTINI | FLASHLIGHT 🔦 ⚠️ CONTENT WARNING: This episode discuss…

22/07/2026

New Episode! "Another Brick"

⏳ COUNTDOWN TO THE END OF THE LIST

🧱 ANOTHER BRICK

As a little girl, Ann Oickle sat on the edge of her bed while her mother cried and said:

“I don’t know how to be a mom to you.”

💔 What does a child do with words like that?

Maybe she adds a brick.

Then another.

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Her mother was carrying grief of her own.

But Ann still carried the weight of those words.

So how do we forgive someone who was hurting...

when their hurt also wounded us?

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This week, we walk in Ann’s shoes and ask:

Will our pain define us...

or can it refine us?

🎧 Another Brick releases this week on Other People’s Shoes.

🧱 What happens when the person who is supposed to make you feel safe says, “I don’t know how to be your mom”? For Ann Oickle, that moment became more than words. It…

15/07/2026

🎙 "POP"
Season 23: The List 📋👟
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🐏🩵🏀 WHAT IS A TAR HEEL? 🏀🩵🐏
After years of searching, we may have finally found someone qualified to answer the most impossible question of all time. 😂🤔
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Terrence Newby played four years at the University of North Carolina, competed in "three Final Fours", and shared the court with Carolina legends like Vince Carter, Ed Cota, and Antawn Jamison. 🏀🔥🏆
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That is a whole lot of Carolina blue. 🩵🐏🙌
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Terrence also played for one of the greatest coaches in basketball history, the legendary Dean Smith. 🐐🏀 He shares one lesson from Coach Smith that has stayed with him long after he left Chapel Hill:
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Four things you do when you make a mistake:
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1️⃣ Recognize it 👀
2️⃣ Admit it 🙋‍♂️
3️⃣ Learn from it 📚
4️⃣ Forget it
➡️ Simple advice. ✅ Much harder to live out. 💯
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Because behind the Carolina jersey is a story that goes much deeper than basketball. 🩵👕❤️‍🩹
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Terrence opens up about growing up with a father who struggled with drug addiction and why “Pop” became the hardest person on his list to forgive. 📋💔
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We talk about family 👨‍👦, disappointment 😔, mistakes 🫣, forgiveness 🙏, Carolina basketball 🏀, and what it takes to move forward without pretending the past never happened. 👣➡️
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And yes, Terrence finally answers the question that has confused people for generations: 😂🤯
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🐏 WHAT IS A TAR HEEL? 🩵
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🎧 Listen now to "Pop” at opspodcast.com 👟🎙🩵

🎙 "POP" Season 23: The List 📋👟 📝 🐏🩵🏀 WHAT IS A TAR HEEL? 🏀🩵🐏 After years of searching, we may have finally found someone qualified to answer the most impossible que…

08/07/2026

⚠️ LISTENER WARNING: Dr. Carron Silva talks openly about being sexually abused in this episode. This conversation also includes domestic violence, trauma, police brutality, and political violence. Please listen with care.
🤍 🎙 POSSIBLE
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Season 23: The List
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Is forgiveness possible when the cost is high?
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This week on Other People’s Shoes, Neil walks in the shoes of Dr. Carron Silva, whose story began in South Africa under Apartheid and includes deep childhood trauma, painful family separation, abuse, violence, and injustice.
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But this episode does not stay in the pain. It moves toward healing. 🌱 It moves toward freedom. 🕊️ It moves toward what is possible. 🙏
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Dr. Carron shares what it means to forgive when the wound is personal, why the word **“as”** in the Lord’s Prayer carries so much weight, and what being whole can look like when the past is still part of your story.
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Forgiveness is not pretending it did not happen. Forgiveness is not saying it was okay. Forgiveness is choosing not to let the people who hurt you keep holding the pen over the rest of your story. ✍️
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👟 Thank you for walking in other people’s shoes.
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⚠️ LISTENER WARNING: Dr. Carron Silva talks openly about being sexually abused in this episode. This conversation also includes domestic violence, trauma, police br…

01/07/2026

New Episode! "Unfriend"

🎙 NEW EPISODE: UNFRIEND 👟

We've all unfriended someone. 📱

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A classmate.

An ex.

That random person from high school you haven't talked to in years.

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But what if the hardest person to unfriend...
..isn't another person at all? 🤔

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This week on Other People's Shoes, I walk in the shoes of 🩵 Willie Blake.

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📚 Willie grew up with dyslexia.

For years, he believed it meant he was broken.

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😔 He tried to catch up.

😓 He tried to hide.

🙍 He tried to become someone he wasn't.

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Then everything changed.

💡 Willie realized he couldn't unfriend dyslexia...

🙌 But he could unfriend the lies it had taught him to believe.

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Today, Willie helps people trade...

➡️ Self-doubt for confidence.

➡️ Overthinking for clarity.

➡️ Fear of forward momentum.

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❤️ This conversation isn't just for people with dyslexia.

It's for anyone who's ever believed a lie about themselves.

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🎧 Give it a listen...opspodcast.com

Then ask yourself one question:

Who or what do I need to unfriend? 👟

🎙 NEW EPISODE: UNFRIEND 👟 📝 We've all unfriended someone. 📱 📝 A classmate. An ex. That random person from high school you haven't talked to in years. 📝 But what if …

24/06/2026

🆕 Episode! "Speechless" 🚨

🎙️ Have you ever been left completely speechless? Not because you didn't have words... But because what happened was bigger than words could ever explain.
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💔 A painful loss. 🙏 An unexpected act of grace. ❤️ A love that changes everything.
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In this week's episode of "Other People's Shoes", Cristina Simmons shares a moment that left her speechless and how that moment became a turning point in her life.
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Together, we talk about faith, healing, restoration, and the powerful truth that our pain doesn't have to be our prison.
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✨ What if the very thing that broke you became the thing that helped someone else heal?
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✨ What if your story isn't something to hide... but something to honor?
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✨ What if grace shows up when you least expect it?
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This conversation challenged me, encouraged me, and reminded me once again why I never get tired of hearing people's stories.
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Take a walk with us. 🎧 Listen now: opspodcast.com
#🎙️OtherPeoplesShoes #📝TheList #🩵Faith #👟Empathy

🎙️ Have you ever been left completely speechless? Not because you didn't have words... But because what happened was bigger than words could ever explain. 📝 💔 A pai…

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